confusedandempty Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Okay, long story short... In January a friend of mine introduced me to a girl he knew in a club. Later I found out that he didn't know her all that much, he was just trying to set me up because I was kind of a wreck shortly after a breakup. Well, we chatted and exchanged phone numbers and few days later we went on a date. Few more dates followed and we got really well along. Laughed and joked and I really enjoyed spending time with her. Then I one day sent her an text message which was supposed to be a joke but she didn't understand the joke and told me that she didn't find that funny at all. Few days later she told me that she didn't believe that it was gonna work out. Life sucks sometimes, but it didn't feel bad as I was still recovering from a breakup. For the weeks to come (late January - March) we met occasionally, but she acted rather cold and not really chatty. I met her again in the club on Friday and we had a really nice time. Chatted a lot and had fun time together. We met again on Saturday night, again in the club, and me, her and my friend ended up at her place later that night (my friend and I both live in the suburbs and a taxi costs a lot and she asked if we wanted to stay). Well we did, but of course nothing sexual happened. The morning after, she gave us a ride home, my friend first. When she was about to drive to my place, I asked if she wanted to do something today, and we ended up spending the whole day together. Went to the zoo, took a walk downtown in the city center and finally went grocery shopping together . Well, when she drove me home, she didn't reach over for a kiss on the cheek or anything. Of course a day like this leaves a guy with a big question mark over his head. Kind of mixed signals when she says that she doesn't think it's gonna work and then few weeks later asks if I want to spend the day together. Another thing worth mentioning. When she's with her best friend she always acts cold and "cool", especially towards me. When her best friend isn't around she is such a little kitten and I really enjoy spending time with her. What could be the case? Did we both jump in too fast back in January and she got scared? Does she maybe like me more, now when she has gotten to know me better (I usually like to be friends with people before we date). Or is she simply just being a friend? I have no idea and she has kind of left me hanging after the weekend? What do you think? I don't know anything
Takerslove Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Give it another try she might just be shy or just be cool take your time and slow and rewards can be worth it all. But a major thing of concern if she is different to you in front of her friends then that might be a sign that your really not her type.
lindya Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 When her best friend isn't around she is such a little kitten and I really enjoy spending time with her. Tell her that. Give her a vaguely amused glance, keep your tone very light, use those exact words and report back with your progress.
Author confusedandempty Posted May 24, 2007 Author Posted May 24, 2007 Thank you guys for your replies... Regarding her friend...when we first met, she was all chatty and funny and everything. She even referred to me as Carla's boyfriend (we'd been out on 2-3 dates), and it was awkward. They both work in a bar and when we first met back in January, they always undercharged my credit card when I purchased something at the bar. Today, Carla usually undercharges but her friend always charges the correct price. Third, when I sent the text that Carla didn't find all that funny. Her friend was present when I found out that she had misunderstood the joke (Carla wasn't). She laughed and said.."you're such a funny guy" ... but obviously did nothing to help me. Well, I guess it's not about the friend. I guess it's about the girl I like, but it can be hard when her best friend has some issues against you. Another thing that is kind of holding me back. We get along well today and I wouldn't wanna lose the connection we have. She's already told me (months ago) that she didn't think it was gonna work. I just don't wanna be the fool that still hits on a girl that doesn't want anything to do with me. About me telling her the kitten stuff....it's a great idea, talking from the heart usually works the best, especially when you know the person. But we don't get many alone moments today and I'm definitely not gonna tell her that in a group or on MSN So ... any other advices until I get the kitten chance Again, thank you all for your replies...
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