sweetbutcheeky Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Obviously once your relationship grows you don't physically act like you did in the first few dates. For example when my guy and I first started dating on the first 2 dates he just shook my hand at the end of the night. Then by date 3 I told him he didn't need to shake my hand and he went in for a kiss which went on for hours it seemed until I really needed to get out of the car. (even though both of us didn't want to stop) Even though we still kiss a lot and no complaints there, it's not for long periods of time like it was in the start. I love kissing so I would love to still kiss like that. Though my guess is another reason the kissing ends sooner now is because of sex. Once having sex starts the kissing gets shorter! lol What do you think, should kissing for long periods stop? Would only stop if you decide to or it's a starting out thing?
MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Obviously once your relationship grows you don't physically act like you did in the first few dates. For example when my guy and I first started dating on the first 2 dates he just shook my hand at the end of the night. Then by date 3 I told him he didn't need to shake my hand and he went in for a kiss which went on for hours it seemed until I really needed to get out of the car. (even though both of us didn't want to stop) Even though we still kiss a lot and no complaints there, it's not for long periods of time like it was in the start. I love kissing so I would love to still kiss like that. Though my guess is another reason the kissing ends sooner now is because of sex. Once having sex starts the kissing gets shorter! lol What do you think, should kissing for long periods stop? Would only stop if you decide to or it's a starting out thing? kiss for long periods of time when u want. start of relationship, middle to finish. u guys both seem to love it... keep kissing for long periods. if ur thinking about sex, the kissing may get shorter. otherwise kissing for long periods even short periods is advised either way its a kiss with the man u could soon love..... YUM!
Tangerina Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 I love kissing for long times and not having it necessarily lead to sex, but my guy isn't as into it... I have a much higher sex drive/desire for casual affection than he does but the good thing is if I ever asked him to do something he would do it without resentment (in the sense of 'can I have a hug right now?' or 'can we please kiss for a bit.') He just doesn't think to do these things much and it makes me feel a little frustrated but as long as he is always ok with it when I initiate it then I'm fine with the situation. He didn't get a lot of physical affection from his parents growing up and I think in his case it definitely translated into being not very demonstrative in a relationship... though actually, when we are alone he is less likely to just come up and touch me or something, but when we are in public he always has his hand on my back, and when we say goodbye for any reason he gives me a sweet kiss on the mouth, but we just don't sit around and kiss much... I kind of want to change that...
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 kiss for long periods of time when u want. start of relationship, middle to finish. u guys both seem to love it... keep kissing for long periods. if ur thinking about sex, the kissing may get shorter. otherwise kissing for long periods even short periods is advised either way its a kiss with the man u could soon love..... YUM! Obviously in the moment I'm not thinking about anything. lol Just enjoying and letting what happens happen, though I think next time I see an opportunity for some lenthy kissing I will use it wisely! hee hee Actually this weekend I had a feeling for the first time that I may be falling in love with him.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 I love kissing for long times and not having it necessarily lead to sex, but my guy isn't as into it... I have a much higher sex drive/desire for casual affection than he does but the good thing is if I ever asked him to do something he would do it without resentment (in the sense of 'can I have a hug right now?' or 'can we please kiss for a bit.') He just doesn't think to do these things much and it makes me feel a little frustrated but as long as he is always ok with it when I initiate it then I'm fine with the situation. He didn't get a lot of physical affection from his parents growing up and I think in his case it definitely translated into being not very demonstrative in a relationship... though actually, when we are alone he is less likely to just come up and touch me or something, but when we are in public he always has his hand on my back, and when we say goodbye for any reason he gives me a sweet kiss on the mouth, but we just don't sit around and kiss much... I kind of want to change that... I think woman have a higher "cuddling or foreplay" desire anyway which can be frustrating. I understand how you feel, he doesn't have a problem when you ask but you would like to not to have to ask for it. Like in my last relationship my ex didn't want to cuddle on the couch or lay together in bed because it made him too hot. And is the exact opposite with my new guy, which feels great. This weekend was my first time spending the night and was wonderful and perfect. Was happy to find out that he cuddled and puts his arm around me while we slept. That's nice that he isn't afraid to show affection in public cause a goodbye kiss is something I love as well. Have you talked to him about it, as you said he doesn't notice that he doesn't so maybe if you brought it up he may think about it more. Maybe if your sitting on the couch and you give him a little kiss or cuddle up close he may take a hint? (though some guys need more of a hint than that! lol)
D-Lish Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 kissing should never stop- it's just an intimate act. But once u start having sex- guys tend to cut back on foreplay and go straight for the prize! I knew my relationship with my husband was doomed when I looked at him and realized i just didn't want to kiss him anymore. Kissing is a great way to gauge passion!
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 kissing should never stop- it's just an intimate act. But once u start having sex- guys tend to cut back on foreplay and go straight for the prize! I knew my relationship with my husband was doomed when I looked at him and realized i just didn't want to kiss him anymore. Kissing is a great way to gauge passion! That's for sure, a way of speaking about how you feel in another way ... I agree even though we are both enjoying ourselves he starts going on the prize direction, though now that I'm thinking about it the kissing doesn't stop during. So must give him credit there! No complaints just need to take advantage of more kissing maybe when I know sex can't take place (know we will be going out soon or something). Just kissing itself for a long time is just a special and I am going to take advantage of those opportunities! Luckily it's a question about a half hour of just kissing vs hour or more. Not lack of kissing at all! Phew! Knock on wood!
Starry-eyed Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 There is nothing like the long, passionate kissing in a new relationship. It is just so exciting and pleasing and it must release like a million endorphins in your brain. Fortunately my relationship is still in the new stages, so the kissing is great, but it's beginning to transition to "not new" anymore. But I hope the long and french kisses never stop. If they do, I don't know if I will stay! So I understand your question, sweetbutcheeky. Hopefully with good relationships, the good kissing doesn't have to be replaced by pecks and no tongues.
Author sweetbutcheeky Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 So I understand your question, sweetbutcheeky. Hopefully with good relationships, the good kissing doesn't have to be replaced by pecks and no tongues. Luckily it hasn't been replaced by pecks and no tongues (thank god, knock on wood!) Just as I said length, which I am determined to lot let that be a permanent change! hee hee
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