trishalp Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 So i just started dating a boy maybe 2 months ago (A very new relationship) it is the first boyfriend I have had in about 3 years (im very picky!) the thing is my boyfriend and I are total opposites in everyway i am loud and outgoing, he is shy and laidback I love talking and hanging out in groups of people he is all about his closest friends and not interested in being a part of new people he sees as "temporary friends" therefore is not willing to really be a part of me and my friends which I don't really know if i could be in a relationship where my boyfriend isnt willing to be around my bestfriends. I am the type of person who just loves to talk to people and make connections and i dont get into relationships easily. I dated plenty of guys the last few years and of course for my boyfriend i choose someone i probably never would have thought to compliment me. He is a nice guy and says he has a hard time managing his time. Another thing is we live about 25 mins apart (not a big deal to me or him) but HE DOESNT HAVE A CAR therefore I am driving there and paying the toll to get there and i have to work around HIS schedule all the time. our hours are between about 10 and 2am but sometimes i take the time to drive there and he tells me hes tired. now i dunno about you but it makes me super mad! The fact that i drop things i have to do and plans with some friends to make time with him and he isnt showing the same back really does tick me off. Its never when i want to do something, or when i want to talk about a problem its whenever he has time. and eventually i just dont know if i can cater to it anymore. tonight we had plans set up for him to hang out with my cousin and bestfriend, he has known for over a week and what happens? he craps out and says he didnt know we were gonna be there that early (when he had been off work for 2 hours) its just very frustrating, and although I really do enjoy the alone time we spend together we never actually get to go out and do anything together or with friends. It all seems like a dead end, yet the second i see him i cant be mad at him at all. Im not sure if im trying to hold on to this just cause its been so long since I really had a boyfriend or what. I am also a bit of a dreamer trying to mesh 2 people who might not work together. I just need some advice about it. Do you think its worth it to see what happens? im also going away to school in the fall, not far but over an hour, and thats a long way for a boy to ride his bike to see me! (haha) we almost broke up the other night and had a long conversation about how i would really enjoy if he could put more effort into being with me and my friends and 2 days later what happens? it was like thrown out the window. any advice would be great, sorry i wrote so much! if it means anything, im about to be 21 years old ive only had 2 boyfriends and they were very just fun and wrapped up in each other and thats what im used to, im used to being able to spend tons of time with the people that want to be with me. so lost!
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