Lizzie60 Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 I find that when women take their husband' s last name...they lose their own identity... I am SOOOO against that. Keep your last name... If he argues tell him he can take yours...why not? I would not lose my identity for any man on this planet. They don't like it...too bad. I am a person not anyone's possession!!!!
Enema Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 I don't want my fiance to take my last name. I think it's demeaning to the woman. A not-so-subtle reminder that in days gone by women were the property of their man. We're not having children so the last name doesn't make any difference there, but I would like some sort of symbol to reflect our joining besides a stupid ring and ceremony. I think I'll suggest we use both our last names hyphenated... or just choose a brand new one.
alphamale Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 I find that when women take their husband' s last name...they lose their own identity... oh yea L60 and like the man doesn't lose his own identity when he gets married to some witch. everyone knows that men get the short-end of the stick in marriage. I don't want my fiance to take my last name. . then you take her name and become her property. and then after the divorce is over and she's screwed you over financially and emotionally you can remember that she never even took your name. hahahahaha.....yea and don't forget she got the kids too
Author IpAncA Posted May 21, 2007 Author Posted May 21, 2007 Hey now I never thought about just creating a new name. Werid. Everyone knows that men get the short-end of the stick in marriage. Now you know that's not true acoss the board.
Pyro Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Geez, someone is a little extra bitter today........ I really don't think marriage is THAT bad.
Author IpAncA Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 No it's not. Well maybe if your married to certain people then yeah it is.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 No it's not. Well maybe if your married to certain people then yeah it is. Well of course, but what is with all this BS generalization?
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 that women have and are still working sooo freaken hard for equality... this is like going back to box 0. Only machos will get 'mad' if their wife doesn't want to take their name. For women to take HIS last name is a form of submission and I applause men who respect their woman for keeping her identity.
alphamale Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 For women to take HIS last name is a form of submission so? whats wrong with that?
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 that women have and are still working sooo freaken hard for equality... this is like going back to box 0. Only machos will get 'mad' if their wife doesn't want to take their name. For women to take HIS last name is a form of submission and I applause men who respect their woman for keeping her identity. I have never met any females that have or have had any problem taking the mans last name in marriage. If she doesn't want to take it, then whatever. Let her and her man figure that out, but just because someone doesn't want to follow tradition doesn't mean that they are an awful person.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 so? whats wrong with that? Buts its not ok the other way around?
alphamale Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 if women want to keep their last name then they shouldn't get married. women always want to have their wedding cake and eat it too!
Author IpAncA Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 Okay, lets not have this turn into a women's rights thing. I pray CG doesn't find this thread. Well of course, but what is with all this BS generalization? Well you have certain people that have nothing better to do but generalize.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 if women want to keep their last name then they shouldn't get married. women always want to have their wedding cake and eat it too! and from the sounds of it, some men do as well.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Okay, lets not have this turn into a women's rights thing. I pray CG doesn't find this thread. Well you have certain people that have nothing better to do but generalize. Don't you mean Woggle? Sad but true.
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 I have never met any females that have or have had any problem taking the mans last name in marriage. If she doesn't want to take it, then whatever. Let her and her man figure that out, but just because someone doesn't want to follow tradition doesn't mean that they are an awful person. So many traditions were 'man' made and I mean 'man' as in 'male'... It certainly doesn't make anyone 'awful' but it makes someone 'submissive' if you ask me... They can each keep their name...what's wrong with each keeping their own identity. First of all, I don't believe in 'till death do us part' so it's one less trouble when divorce comes.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 So many traditions were 'man' made and I mean 'man' as in 'male'... It certainly doesn't make anyone 'awful' but it makes someone 'submissive' if you ask me... They can each keep their name...what's wrong with each keeping their own identity. First of all, I don't believe in 'till death do us part' so it's one less trouble when divorce comes. Well thats true because in the past the man had all the power over the female. Now women are finally getting their fair and equal rights and it just kills some men to see this. They don't know how to share. Waahwaah. IMO, I don't think that it is submissive. Its just one of those traditions that have been around for a long time. Like I said, it is each persons choice and I will not think of them any less or better because of it.
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Like I said, it is each persons choice and I will not think of them any less or better because of it. I do... not for the couple who have been married for a long time...but for those younger ones who are getting married NOW I do feel sad for the girl who is giving up her identity.
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 I do... not for the couple who have been married for a long time...but for those younger ones who are getting married NOW I do feel sad for the girl who is giving up her identity. To each their own then I guess.
Author IpAncA Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 Like I said, it is each persons choice and I will not think of them any less or better because of it. I do... not for the couple who have been married for a long time...but for those younger ones who are getting married NOW I do feel sad for the girl who is giving up her identity. Please tell me you don't think less of a person for taking their H's name. BTW it's her FATHER's identity. Also I want that outfit in your avatar. But with straps to hold it up. LOL!
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Please tell me you don't think less of a person for taking their H's name. BTW it's her FATHER's identity. valid point in taking the man's name. Why not keep their own names? What's wrong with keeping her identity? To answer your question, yes I do feel sad for the girl to give up her name... I see it as a sign of submission. No one in the world will make me see a good reason for this. I truly can't see any.
Author IpAncA Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 valid point in taking the man's name. Why not keep their own names? What's wrong with keeping her identity? To answer your question, yes I do feel sad for the girl to give up her name... I see it as a sign of submission. No one in the world will make me see a good reason for this. I truly can't see any. Taking the name goes with unity according to some.
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Taking the name goes with unity according to some. why can't it be the other way around? The man taking his wife's last name?
Pyro Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 why can't it be the other way around? The man taking his wife's last name? I'm sure that it can be, but I do know that is rare. Lots of people like to stick to tradition.
Flyin in Clouds Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 ... Well you have certain people that have nothing better to do but generalize. Generalizations are generally useful.
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