funkify Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 I have a friend that lives overseas and we keep in touch but she sometimes has an f-you attitude if you offend her (unintentionally). For example, I found out through another friend that she lost her job and so I sent her a quick text just saying sorry to hear about the job and generally asking how things were. I think she felt embarrassed that I knew and answered back very coldly and didn't respond to any other texts. Next thing I know, she emailed me two weeks later as if it never happened asking how I was etc. I replied a few days later and I didn't get any answer. So my question is, it is her birthday in a few days...should I bother to wish her happy birthday at all? She ignored my last contact, yet the last I heard from her she was warm and wanting to know how I was. 2. How do I treat this kind of friendship? Do I let her do all the contact, or should I just have a normal give and take? It's really odd.
Tony T Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 If you can't have a normal friendship with this lady, without making up a lot of stupid rules, just don't have one. As far as her birthday, what it sounds like to me is she needs some hormone stabilization treatments real bad. I don't know what those cost but get her a gift certificate. Relationships with people you have to walk on eggshells around just aren't worth the trouble. Take my word!
Trialbyfire Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 I completely agree about not having friendships or relationships with people who you have to walk on eggshells with, wondering what you did wrong, if they're going to throw a tantrum at you. Today is Monday, May 21, 2007 and it's 7:16 p.m. (pst), can I make a joke or will this be construed as not acceptable? Will this same joke be acceptable in 10 minutes? Better to have some consistency with a friend who will support and treat you equitably.
Lizzie60 Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 really...if you feel like sending him a bd message then go ahead... if she contact you fine..if not...fine again... Don't sweat it... just go with the flow.. and do whatever you feel like doing..it's not like she'll be on your doorstep tomorrow... so Come on, pick your battles... this one is insignificant, IMO.
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