For those who can hold themselves at bay emotionally

[Trialbyfire]

This is an EXCELLENT point.

Thanks SG. I see it thread after thread and in hindsight, have done it myself, much to my own unhappiness. While no one's perfect, the only way to be happy is to be true to your core foundation. Accommodating never works unless it's a core change and then it becomes truth. In a situation of inconsistency, what kind of core change can you make? Basically, none that would keep working.

[DanielMadr]

Thanks SG. I see it thread after thread and in hindsight, have done it myself, much to my own unhappiness. While no one's perfect, the only way to be happy is to be true to your core foundation. Accommodating never works unless it's a core change and then it becomes truth. In a situation of inconsistency, what kind of core change can you make? Basically, none that would keep working.

 

You are of course right about the consistency. But Id like to warn anybody to be sure it is consistency in core personality and not just stubborness about little things. Flexibility is rare but important trait when building relationship.