massive fight between friends

[coffee_addict]

im gonna call myself hannah for the prupose of the story.....so im away at university with 2 of my best friends from home, both of who ive known for 8 years. one is a guy, and one is a girl, and im very close to the guy. Its almost like having a boyfriend, i guess i treat him like one, but hes gay. I'll call them Jack and Jill, its just easier. this is long, so thanks to anyone who reads it

 

so gradually at university, Jack has made new friends (as we all have) but he spends every moment of his time with them. he basically lives at their house, and once didnt go home for a month, im not even joking. he has his own house across town, and gets on with his housemates, but still chooses to stay with his new friends.

 

i NEVER get to see him anymore, and whenever we arrange to meet up, he forgets. hes always been forgetful, but i guess i didnt use to notice it as much because he was always around, and if he forgot to meet me one time it didnt really matter coz id see him at school really soon after. i dunno whether its got worse, or whats happened, but now the one time in maybe a month that we arrange to do something, he forgets or is too busy with his 'new friends'.

 

so we arranged to meet up the other night, and he didnt turn up. last time this happened we had a massive fall out, so i decided, hey ok, hes not coming, thats fine. but then Jill got involved (thru msn, asking if he had turned up yet), and she involved another of our friends (ill call her Lisa)which also happens to be one of Jack's housemates.

 

So basically we all start discussing how none of us see Jack anymore, and that he keeps dumping us for his new friends. We say some things, and Lisa basically just keeps insulting him 'hes such a dick' etc. We say stuff about his new friends.

 

So then Lisa calls him and shouts at him for not turning up at mine! So he calls me saying 'why the hell have u got Jill & Lisa involved i said i was coming, im on my way now!' (even tho he gave me a specific time he wud be there which was 2 hours ago by this point.)

 

so basically he came over here, and though id closed our convo, Jill & Lisa had continued talking to me even tho i said he was on his way over. he opened my computer and saw, and got really upset/angry we had been bitching about him (understandable.)

 

so he called Jill n had an argument with her, and he called Lisa and had an argument with her. At some point one of them mentioned what we had said about his new friends, i think just to go 'yeah it wasnt just us, hannah said it too!'

 

so basically all of us fell out, and i feel so bad because it was all over the fact he didnt come to mine when he sed he wud. the strange thing was, i was fine with that, was just gonna let it go! we've all sort of made up now, i guess, or at least i have, jill was still mad at jack for some of the things he sed when he called her but i dont know if theyve made up now.

 

i think jack told one of his new friends what we had said about them, because one of them is really off with me whenever i see her.

 

i dont know what i expect u guys to do, i think im just having a rant and venting my stresses and worries. Jack feels like we are saying he cant have other friends but thats not it, i just guess at the bottom of it we just wanna see him now and again, thats all. this is all such a mess

[sb129]

Just tell him what you said there.

 

Just say you felt as if his new friends were more important, and while you know that probably isn't the case, it would be nice to see him now and then.