McFadden Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Hey. I haven't been on here for a long time, months. I'm sorry about that but hey this is a low commitment community, and my advice to other people is crud anyway. I used to post when my ex boyfriend broke up with me. I doubt anyone remembers me, but long story short we were dating for around 6 months and he dumped me out of nowhere and I still loved him. We had been good friends for years before dating so he wanted to remain friends and was persistant about it but I cut off contact with him and went NC. After him persisting to be friends and much drama, he finally gave up and stopped contacting me because he got a new girlfriend. This killed me inside. He and the new girlfriend have been dating for months and seem to be very in love. It kills me. The reason I stopped posting on this forum is because I was trying to follow everyone's advice. Everyone said it is over (true), move on and get over it, stay NC. I HAVE been trying for like 6 months. I stopped posting about him on here. I limited talking to mutual friends so I don't hear about him. Tried to stop thinking about him and loving him, got involved in many activities, school, working and hung out with friends, flirted with people a little bit. It was all to no avail. When I am with other people and having fun I am acting because I am miserable and depressed inside and my ex is the only thing I think about. Lately I realized that all of my energy just goes to keeping up this front around my friends, and it is doing nothing for me, so I have started isolating again. Even though I am not particularly religious I have started praying, I always pray that God will change me so I am able to accept what has happened. But every day I am more in love with him and feel worse and NC gets harder every day instead of easier no matter how many months go by. All I want is to see and talk to him. Does anyone have any more advice for me now? I feel like all other options have been exhausted, like giving up and dying.
Ssheena Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Do or do not..there is no try" - Yoda You will get through this and you will get over him. Change your thinking/praying from asking God to change you to asking him for the ability to accept yourself. Would you consider counseling? Do you have any friends you can tell how you are feeling to? If they are truely your friends, they would want to help you - don't push them away. LS is still here for you. Don't give up on yourself!
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