MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 ive posted many different posts on here and im new to this forum. u can post on here wut u want, wen u want, how u want, sry.. but heres for a serious post. and its kind of troubling me. im confused and im going thru a lot as it is... well, my "boyfriend" text me earlier to say wed talk tonite but he didnt no wen because he had a lot of work to do. i figured hed call really late like 10 or something. i ended up waiting for him to call till 1145. so i text him saying "i have chuch tmr." he replied "what does that mean? i called u earlier." i replied "u nvr called. and if u did call y didnt u leave a message?" he replied "i called ur cell earlier. i thought u wuld call bck so i didnt leave a message. ttul goodnite." i replied "no, u never called." he replied, "i called at 955. its on my fone. why whould i lie. wateva goodnite." this isnt him speaking. hes normally not like this, i no he didnt call because it would have showed up on my fone. i just hate the way he blew it off with "wateva goodnite" like he didnt care.. wut do u think is wrong with him? is it something i did wrong, i just dont get it. before he seemed fine. overly fine. now idk. maybe i shoulld start distancing myself now and see wut happens... hell get the message. any suggestions? feedback? answers 2 y he may be acting so different all of a sudden...?
green-eyed beauty Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Worst-case scenario - he's losing interest and is backing off from the relationship. I would suggest that you back off yourself for a while with NO CONTACT. That means not answering his calls for a day or two. Don't be available to see him at a moment's notice, be unavailable or have plans. Basically, don't be needy and don't focus your life around his. I suggest the book "The Rules" to get the idea. Get him chasing you again.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 20, 2007 Author Posted May 20, 2007 Worst-case scenario - he's losing interest and is backing off from the relationship. I would suggest that you back off yourself for a while with NO CONTACT. That means not answering his calls for a day or two. Don't be available to see him at a moment's notice, be unavailable or have plans. Basically, don't be needy and don't focus your life around his. I suggest the book "The Rules" to get the idea. Get him chasing you again. deep breath. ok... i can do that. i always make him chase me tho, make the calls and send text.. but wut if after 1 or two fone calls he stops trying? i really like him and he likes me... if this is the worst case scenario, i can deal with that. the interest will probably come back soon. r there any other scenarios?
jcster Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 It's possible he did call you and it didn't show up on your phone. It happens. Either way, it's not going to do you , or your relationship any good to hang around watching the phone waiting for his call. My best advice is to give yourself a time limit to wait until, and then turn the phone off. Freaking out because he didn't call you in a timely fashion isn't going to do any good - sometimes people need to get things done. You can always talk to him later.
driveuinsane240 Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 i kinda feel in your boyfriends position, i just got hired for a night shift job in a hospital. i call my girlfriend all the time before i start work..i would tell her that i would call her back later and we would hang up..3 hours later she would text me saying 'it's more than 3 hours and u haven't called, u must be busy..well good night'..at that time i would still be busy so naturally i can't text her back..then 30 mins later she would blow up and start texting weird as remarks saying im cheating on her or she thinks im talkin to other girls at work..its kinda ridiculous how she would act like that.. and finally wen i get the chance to text her its like way past midnight and i don't want to wake her up anymore so i would just call her in the morning and tell her what happened.. My honest opinion your just too insecure about it..you can always talk to him the following day..
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 20, 2007 Author Posted May 20, 2007 i kinda feel in your boyfriends position, i just got hired for a night shift job in a hospital. i call my girlfriend all the time before i start work..i would tell her that i would call her back later and we would hang up..3 hours later she would text me saying 'it's more than 3 hours and u haven't called, u must be busy..well good night'..at that time i would still be busy so naturally i can't text her back..then 30 mins later she would blow up and start texting weird as remarks saying im cheating on her or she thinks im talkin to other girls at work..its kinda ridiculous how she would act like that.. and finally wen i get the chance to text her its like way past midnight and i don't want to wake her up anymore so i would just call her in the morning and tell her what happened.. My honest opinion your just too insecure about it..you can always talk to him the following day.. well its something hes mad about im sure of. i think its bcuz recently i asked him if we could do a dry kiss. (and weve been french kissing for a whille now) he just responded "im not tryin to argue. i just dnt understand y now.im just bein honest that i wouldnt like it. there wuld be no feelin." then i went on to mention, "ur rite. it was just a suggestion we dnt have to do it. kissing is of the least importance rite now." he kept asking me "wut other things r important rite now?" idk but it seems like hes mad about me asking to dry kiss, (to slow things down) and making the statement about kissing being of little importance??
alextop30 Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Ok I think this has a very easy explanation. Sometimes people have horrible days - I should know I have them all the time. But especially guys have hard time saying what is troubling them because they are more use to just keeping it inside and not really sharing. So what I think might have happened is that your bf had had a really tough and misserable day and he did not want to burdain you with the **** that he has put up during the day so he kinna blew you off not to digg inside. I have done pretty much the same thing - it is not of disrespect or that there is anything major, it is that it has been a really ****ty day and you really dont feel like talking about it and you just really wanna end the conversation.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 20, 2007 Author Posted May 20, 2007 what should i do? should i text him asking if hes ok, or just wait for him to text/call and then ask. should i just go ahead and make the first move in asking? im going to ask one way or another...
Unidentified Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 "Treat them mean keep them keen",.. Balls,.. "Treat them mean they will get bored and move on" - For the record i said 21st may 2007 for when it takes off. Just tell him how you feel, ask if he is ok, why he is in a bad mood, tell him he can talk to you, call him, ask him to go somewhere with you, meet him, smile at him, kiss him a few times, problem sorted,.. really. The more you try not to text / call him the more he will lose interest, i've done it, i do it. Also do not flood him with texts it will miff him even more than not texing him at all, someone does that to me like every day still while i'm in a different relationship and nothing gets to me more, and it would even if i wasnt now as she does it so often.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 21, 2007 Author Posted May 21, 2007 "Treat them mean keep them keen",.. Balls,.. "Treat them mean they will get bored and move on" - For the record i said 21st may 2007 for when it takes off. Just tell him how you feel, ask if he is ok, why he is in a bad mood, tell him he can talk to you, call him, ask him to go somewhere with you, meet him, smile at him, kiss him a few times, problem sorted,.. really. The more you try not to text / call him the more he will lose interest, i've done it, i do it. Also do not flood him with texts it will miff him even more than not texing him at all, someone does that to me like every day still while i'm in a different relationship and nothing gets to me more, and it would even if i wasnt now as she does it so often. good advice! everythings worked out now. but was this coming from a guy or a girl, i like the new quote u made.
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