BlondesHaveFun Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 I think my relationship status has failed ever since my first relationship (Sam) ...he treated me very respectfully, and that was my first encounter with any guy in a serious matter...we had some problems and it ended. From then on, all of my relationships have been HORRIBLE. some of them i do not even consider them relationships. Every guy has just tried to get in my pants, and has shown me No respect..I do have some part in this to blame, but overall these guys were horrible...I feel as though Sam has scarred me in the relationship "buisness." When I meet other guys, I try to look for what I found in Sam, But that always fails and i never find his great qualities. I think thaT this being my first relationship; and how i fell in so quickly and felt these great emotions..to have it all fall apart so FAst, made me make the wrong choices in choosing the men after him. What is going on with me? What do i need to do, and what do i need to change? WILL i ever find another "Sam"?
lonelybird Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Well, you will never find another "Sam", nobody want to be second "Sam". In a wonderful relationship, you have to love the real "he" you are dating. You cannot make a box, then suppose the men fit in it. If they know about this, they will grow resentment toward you. probably they sensed it in the past, they sensed the disappointment in you when you look at them, that's is torture. Do you want a man come out and tell you "to be like lily, then I will love you"?
norajane Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 I think I know what you mean. My first serious bf was a very decent guy overall and treated me well. I expected every relationship to be like that - genuine, honest, real, decent. And then I found out that all guys are not like that, not by a longshot. It was a rude awakening to realize it. I'm still running into guys who I would not call decent, certainly not in their behavior toward women and toward me in a relationship. But there are those decent guys. Have patience, be picky, and quickly let go of the ones who don't measure up to your decency standards.
Unidentified Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Hey, I know the feeling, I'm a guy and i try to base all of my relationships on being purely loyal to the person and will only ever date someone i am willing to run a mile to please. My longest and well, second relationship was with a girl from a distance, I met her every weekend after college and thought the world of her, i wouldnt have changed anything about her,.. ever. I told her i love her and told her i always will, which, sadly enough as it was about a year and a half ago, i might still. i havent even seen her in a year, but still think about her a hell of a lot, and though i am dating someone else i have never felt like i did about that person. Horrible that the girl i had all these feelings for called me up last week, though i'd not spoke to her in over half a year, and said she loves me and wants me back ( but she had a bf at the time ),.. thats messed up for you as i have a girlfriend,.. it didn't happen.. did i make the right choice,.. hmm. Anyway don't want to steel your thread hehe, i would just keep looking, you might find another "sam" but in different ways, there will be someone.. i say this in hope of myself, though sadly however not helpful it is i sit here thinking about her and thinking,.. there isnt going to be another her. No i am not sulking lol,... hmph. If you want to find another sam you're best bet it to first try to get over him, it may take a long time as i know the feeling . We only broke up because of distance.
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