Guest Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Hey boys and girls, I want to whine a little about things happening to me. Im posting as a Guest not to ruin my reputation here, sorry. Wherever I go girls fall in love with me or at least try to win my attention or want me to sleep with them. Especially married ones and those with boyfriends. I could live with that. Problem is they flirt with me in presence of their SO's and even belittle them passing remarks like 'Oh finally a real man.' 'I need a help from man, *my name*, would you please help me to move the table?' It gets worse, when the girls drink more. Girls flirt with me even when they are supposed to get married or 2 months pregnant. Or they confess to their So's that they are thinking of me when having sex with them. Even other people constantly tell me in presence of other people 'that girl, my daughter, my mum, my sister have a crush on you' Its not very flattering. B/c most of this comes from girls I have mediocre interest in. Or I feel these girls just need a proof of their beauty. And I have trouble seducing girls I dont know for long like in club or on the street like everyone else. Sometimes even more trouble, b/c they seem to be worried about my character or what. Problem is I feel strong animosity from guys, not so my real friends but even they are very happy when I do something wrong, bastards Some strange guys openly hate me, trying to bump to me for example. And even some strange girls are behaving very rude to me. None of people I know experience this kind of animosity on daily basis. There were times I havent talked to girls much, b/c of fear I might spark an attraction in them and then deal with ackward situations. Nobody likes to reject someone. I know it hurts. I almost developed social phobia for god sakes. When I was younger I was quite worried about it. I was seriously scared of breaking girls hearts. And still I am to the point I dont take advantage of girls....not using them for pure sexual pleasure. But some girls still try to make me feel guilty that I broke their heart. It hurts. It all takes toll on me. I have to be careful what I say. Girls cut their hair based on my innocent remarks. So I dont use word 'breasts' or 'fat' in presence of girls ) I have to be always ready to fight, when some guy gets attack of inferiority complex. I think I was very worried not to commit sin of Pride, so other people could be free of sin of Envy and Lust, to the point I become guitly of sin of Sloath ) I dont think my happiness is too dependant on how other people see me. And I become quite careless. So Im OK. Anyone can relate to that? Any suggestions, advices?
LoveLace Posted May 19, 2007 Posted May 19, 2007 George Clooney? Is that you? Are you one of those guys that think everytime a girl talks to you she must be flirting or must be in love with you? You don't talk to girls because you don't want to "hurt" them by rejecting them? Please! You can't go in to every conversation you have thinking this chick's gonna fall in love with you. That's conceited. So what if they want to sleep with you...all that means is you must look like a decent piece of *ss. Sorry to be blunt but that doesn't make you King S**T to women. No matter how good your looks/personality might be, it takes work to truly win a woman over. If girls fall for you without you doing any work, then they are lacking some serious self-respect. Perhaps if you posted with a name, I might not be as blunt...so maybe it was a good idea to go the guest route! "Somebody help me, I think I'm god's gift to women!" So a lot of women like to talk to you and find you attractive; how is this a problem? The real problem is that it's all gone to your head!
whichwayisup Posted May 19, 2007 Posted May 19, 2007 Put more focus on you and less on the gals. If they flirt with you, so be it - You can't control what someone else thinks or feels or how they react to you. All you can control is how YOU react. So, change your thinking and change your behaviour. Don't get sucked into the fantasy tunnel, EVEN if you feel an attraction. Don't analyze it, make it into something bigger. It is what it is, accept it and move on. I wish I knew who you were, I can't even guess....
DanielMadr Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Is it you KMT? Heh. You probably look good right? Friend of mine has similar "problems" to you. He is great catch in looks and personality departement BUT Eventhough girls who know him love him, girls who dont know him act very strange too....freaking out, cold, heavy flirting...yeah infront of their boyfriends, spouses, husbands. Really ackward, I feel sorry for him, cause it brings lots of animosity (nice word, I had to use dictionary though:) ) Guys give him hard time...I know b/c I sometimes hear the bad thinks they invent about him to make him less catch. My advice. 'F@ck em'. About girls....they give you hard time...flirting with you only to prove their worth, shoot you down or throwing themselves at you. Just be strong, try to act like you normally do and one day maybe one girl wont feel threatened by you. Just dont start to act wimpy to prove yourself. Remember backbone is stronger then good looks. I believe you know that already.
lonelybird Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Hey boys and girls, I want to whine a little about things happening to me. Im posting as a Guest not to ruin my reputation here, sorry. Wherever I go girls fall in love with me or at least try to win my attention or want me to sleep with them. Especially married ones and those with boyfriends. I could live with that. Problem is they flirt with me in presence of their SO's and even belittle them passing remarks like 'Oh finally a real man.' 'I need a help from man, *my name*, would you please help me to move the table?' It gets worse, when the girls drink more. Girls flirt with me even when they are supposed to get married or 2 months pregnant. Or they confess to their So's that they are thinking of me when having sex with them. Even other people constantly tell me in presence of other people 'that girl, my daughter, my mum, my sister have a crush on you' Its not very flattering. B/c most of this comes from girls I have mediocre interest in. Or I feel these girls just need a proof of their beauty. And I have trouble seducing girls I dont know for long like in club or on the street like everyone else. Sometimes even more trouble, b/c they seem to be worried about my character or what. Problem is I feel strong animosity from guys, not so my real friends but even they are very happy when I do something wrong, bastards Some strange guys openly hate me, trying to bump to me for example. And even some strange girls are behaving very rude to me. None of people I know experience this kind of animosity on daily basis. There were times I havent talked to girls much, b/c of fear I might spark an attraction in them and then deal with ackward situations. Nobody likes to reject someone. I know it hurts. I almost developed social phobia for god sakes. When I was younger I was quite worried about it. I was seriously scared of breaking girls hearts. And still I am to the point I dont take advantage of girls....not using them for pure sexual pleasure. But some girls still try to make me feel guilty that I broke their heart. It hurts. It all takes toll on me. I have to be careful what I say. Girls cut their hair based on my innocent remarks. So I dont use word 'breasts' or 'fat' in presence of girls ) I have to be always ready to fight, when some guy gets attack of inferiority complex. I think I was very worried not to commit sin of Pride, so other people could be free of sin of Envy and Lust, to the point I become guitly of sin of Sloath ) I dont think my happiness is too dependant on how other people see me. And I become quite careless. So Im OK. Anyone can relate to that? Any suggestions, advices? :laugh::laugh:
halfarock Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 I can relate to the OP to a much greater extent than I’d normally admit. …Wherever I go girls fall in love with me or at least try to win my attention or want me to sleep with them… When I’m out and about seemingly every woman is extra friendly towards me and noticeably more than other men. Ever so often I’ll encounter a woman who, I don’t know how to exactly say, but kind of squirms with delight just by my presence. In my daily life, there is lots of flirting here and there. Especially married ones and those with boyfriends. I could live with that. Problem is they flirt with me in presence of their SO's and even belittle them passing remarks like 'Oh finally a real man.' 'I need a help from man, *my name*, would you please help me to move the table?' It gets worse, when the girls drink more. Girls flirt with me even when they are supposed to get married or 2 months pregnant. Or they confess to their So's that they are thinking of me when having sex with them. Even other people constantly tell me in presence of other people 'that girl, my daughter, my mum, my sister have a crush on you' Yes, I also get this kind of stuff. And I have trouble seducing girls I dont know for long like in club or on the street like everyone else. Likewise. Being that many women have been just naturally attracted to me, I’ve never developed whatever skills it takes to pick-up a woman. Other men seem to be convincing the women that they are good enough for the women, with me it is more like I have to convince the woman that she is good enough for me. It seems I've preferred to date women who I’ve know a little bit first. Although it's always been pretty easy to get just about any woman to talk to me. Problem is I feel strong animosity from guys, not so my real friends but even they are very happy when I do something wrong, bastards Some strange guys openly hate me, trying to bump to me for example. And even some strange girls are behaving very rude to me. None of people I know experience this kind of animosity on daily basis. Actually it seems that most guys like me in a great measure because women like me so much. With the alpha male types it gives me a measure of credibility and respect that I might not otherwise get, and with the more wanna-be types, they kind of look up to me. It is only the men who are insecure in their masculinity and sexuality that exhibit any animosity towards me. With some guys I seem to have an almost Mango (from Saturday Night Live) kind of effect on them. It gets weird at times. There were times I havent talked to girls much, b/c of fear I might spark an attraction in them and then deal with ackward situations. Nobody likes to reject someone. I know it hurts. I almost developed social phobia for god sakes. When I was younger I was quite worried about it. I was seriously scared of breaking girls hearts. And still I am to the point I dont take advantage of girls....not using them for pure sexual pleasure. But some girls still try to make me feel guilty that I broke their heart. It hurts. It all takes toll on me. I have to be careful what I say. Girls cut their hair based on my innocent remarks. So I dont use word 'breasts' or 'fat' in presence of girls ) I have to be always ready to fight, when some guy gets attack of inferiority complex. There have been girls who I purposely avoided precisely because I knew that if I paid them too much attention that they would fall for me. When I was younger I used to worry about breaking girls’ hearts. I’ve long gotten over that. I think I was very worried not to commit sin of Pride, so other people could be free of sin of Envy and Lust, to the point I become guitly of sin of Sloath ) In an effort not to be seen to be taking advantage of your position you tend to do too little? If I was in a different frame of mind I suppose I could have “had” hundreds of women by now. Instead I’ve just lingered around with these very few that I really like. I dont think my happiness is too dependant on how other people see me. And I become quite careless. So Im OK. I’m happy and even care free at times. Maybe it’s because people tend to treat me well but more likely it is that I’m just a naturally happy person and it attracts people to me in a good way, makes me happier. Are you one of those guys that think everytime a girl talks to you she must be flirting or must be in love with you? This used to be a problem for me. Every woman I’d meet, I’d tend to test – I’d observe how different women interacted with me and with different men and with each other and all other combinations. Over the years, after meeting many, many women throughout my life, and looking each into their eyes, seeing their facial expressions, their body movements, the changes in their voice, loss of words or composure, I think I’ve gotten pretty good at deciding if a woman likes me or otherwise finds me attractive. Even with the shy ones. Twice I’ve gotten the clerk at the DMV to retake the picture on my driver’s license because I didn’t think the first picture was that good, something that they weren’t suppose to do. Both times the clerk was a smiling woman. It happens, it’s much the same as men treat beautiful women – they tend to be more willing to bend the rules, give a little extra. No matter how good your looks/personality might be, it takes work to truly win a woman over. If girls fall for you without you doing any work, then they are lacking some serious self-respect. I don’t agree. With my girlfriend, of 3+ yrs, when we first met we fell for each other rather easily. I really didn’t do anything to win her. We just kind of discovered each other one day and decided that it was good and it has been. Anything I do to enliven our relationship is at my pleasure as much as hers. Not exactly work.
jcster Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Try having gigantic boobs for a little while - you'll be glad to go back to being a ridiculously attractive man.
Enema Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Try having gigantic boobs for a little while - you'll be glad to go back to being a ridiculously attractive man. Could I please try your gigantic boobs for a while?
Trialbyfire Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 I have the exact same problem with men. Sometimes they even smile and make eye-contact. Some cross the line by...flirting...EGAD!! Okay, in all seriousness now, I think you need to stop defining yourself through the superficial and what you feel other people think of you, and start looking at yourself from the inside. Who are you inside? Do you have anyone anything else to offer besides "incredible" looks? Are you capable of sustaining a lasting relationship with the opposite gender? If not, why?
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 It all takes toll on me. I have to be careful what I say. Girls cut their hair based on my innocent remarks. I would like some proof of that! LOL I also think you used the face too many times for anyone to believe that this is a real problem that is really bothering you!
IWalkAlone Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Thanks for proving that people who say, "men are visual, but looks don't matter to women." are lying.
StayClose Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 I once knew a guy like this. He had piercing blue eyes, a square masculine jaw, an athletic muscular physique, and drove a Camero. Women often came into the business to ask for him, acted dissapointed when he wasn't there. The funny thing was: he didn't date much. He was insecure about himself and the attention he got from women made him uncomfortable. So when women say "I don't care about looks, it's just confidence that makes a man attractive," I know that's a bunch of crap.
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