Island Girl Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 If you read the message above, well the guy aint calling back haha. My sis said Im the bad guy here...idk, I guess if i were in his shoes I'd feel my ego was smashed if someone told me that when they were with me it felt like they were being with their ex again. Cringe. Not so much ego smashed but a neon sign that says this girl has problems. I'm not sure why you had the reaction you did - freaking out and hanging up with no explanation. Then ignoring as he calls back four times. Then getting into a discussion about it and confessing to the entire flip out. (BTW no apology would make that okay just temporarily passable.) Why, if you all of a sudden felt like you couldn't continue the conversation, couldn't you say in a panic - "OMG I have to go...I'll call you back." Then hang up -- at least later you could say something caught fire or was boiling over - or whatever. Much more plausible and much easier to dismiss and you wouldn't have had to offer up a confession and apologies. Or you could have kept your wits about you and said politely, "oh! I am so sorry but I forgot about something. I have to make a phone call -- can I call you back later?" And then called back after you were done wigging out. In the future remove your ex, or any ex, from a topic of conversation when talking to men. Not even if the subject comes up or there is a funny story to relate. Just don't. That rule alone will increase your chances of success tremendously.
Trialbyfire Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 Hey fray, I would honestly consider him a write off and continue life a little wiser. You want more, he doesn't appear to want the same things or isn't ready for anything more right now. Let him go. If he comes back, make him work for it. Dropping someone like that with no discussion isn't relationship material in my books. While it's good to be honest with your partner, I agree with IG that this was a little too much information.
Author fray718 Posted May 21, 2007 Author Posted May 21, 2007 Hey fray, I would honestly consider him a write off and continue life a little wiser. You want more, he doesn't appear to want the same things or isn't ready for anything more right now. Let him go. If he comes back, make him work for it. Dropping someone like that with no discussion isn't relationship material in my books. While it's good to be honest with your partner, I agree with IG that this was a little too much information. What he did was harsh, esp since last time i saw him he said he'll see me soon. I'm trying to be understanding to why he did that, but my friends tell me he is a jerk/mean to just delete me and ignore my call.
Trialbyfire Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 What he did was harsh, esp since last time i saw him he said he'll see me soon. I'm trying to be understanding to why he did that, but my friends tell me he is a jerk/mean to just delete me and ignore my call. I have to agree with your friends. You can do better. I've seen your posts on LS and I think you've got a good head on your shoulders and you're a caring person. Don't let this guy treat you this way. It is not acceptable behaviour. Would you accept this type of behaviour from your friends?
D-Lish Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 who got upset at who for saying "poo"? Hearing a word like that just makes me giggle like a little girl. D
D-Lish Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 oh did I screw up when i IMed him with 'huge headache' and then not IM him anymore after he said 'poo'?? I dont think it came off as that rude of me but is it over cuz I initiated it? Or maybe i will be fine as long as i stop initiating contact from now on....and how long should I wait? until next week? huh? who got upset at who for saying poo? Is poo code for break up?
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