dazz187s Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 We've been friends for 2 years and dated on and off for 5 years. She has a harsh life and had a boyfriend once in high school that cheated on her with her best friend so dating me was a big step on her part. she is depressed and now very stressed with lies she has told her family about working day and night to pay off her bills because she has no health insurance(she went to ER when we weren't seeing each other) just last year she was working day and night and we hardly went out. it was hard so we made it work by talking on the phone and walked around when she had the chance. last time we spoke, we were both very stressed about alot of things that day, so we took it on each other. Her parents are coming soon and she is going to tell them to back off and let her live her life, an issue that once bothered me because i always knew they used her to get things. We were hurt by what we said and now she has asked me to give her some space. i did for two days she called my house phone asking for my mother but instead it was me. we talked very brief and she stated she was calling me back. i called her and she didn't mind i did but she sounded very depressed and was working as well so she didn't want to talk about what happened, she stated we would when shes ready. so, when she stops by to visit my mother(they have been close friends since she was a little girl, her parents wanted nothing to do with her) i was here and she wanted nothing to do with me, i hugged her and she hugged me, then she left. next day when i came home she was here and after 7 to 6 mins she gets her things and goes and i ask her if i can drop her off home she said "no, i can do it". so, i'm lost. i would understand if i had sex with someone else or was seeing someone else to treat me like that, with no respect or anything. The relationship was very strong, she has put me though alot and i have always stood by her, but this really hurts. She acts as if the past 5 years never happened. So, i have taken upon myself to find something else to do when i come home from work. Last time we spoke she wanted me to leave her alone. Later that same 20 mins, i called her back and she picked up yelling at me, saying i need space right now. ave problems i must resolve alone. i was crushed but desivered it for calling her. i went for a walk and she called me back in a half and hour and said she wa sorry about what she did. i told her ill give you your space and take what ever time you want, just know that i will wait for you. since then i have not reached her in anyway. is it over or giving her the space and time she needs would sovereign anything?
Diamonds&Rust Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 It could be over, but definitely give her space.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 When someone asks for space, regardless of the reason - you either have to give it to them, or they will find a way to forcibly take it. Your best bet is to back away, and stop contacting her or trying to talk to her. Why she needs space doesn't really matter in the grand scheme of things. Either way, regardless of the reasons the relationship is for all intents and purposes over. Best to let it go.
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