Damos Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 It was the best relationship I've ever had. Met the girl of my dreams, etc... We dated for about a year. Things were getting very serious. I'm 30 and she's 24. I have a 2 year old son. We were about to move in together this month and were also talking about getting engaged. All of these things were initiated by her and that's why the break up took me by surprise. She was like a mother to my son. Then, all of a sudden she wasn't ready for how serious things were getting and broke it all off. I guess the most confusing part is that she still calls and texts all the time, all day really. She says she misses me, isn't sure why she did what she did but that she was having doubts and didn't feel that was fair to me at this point in our relationship. I've told her that I don't mind talking to her but that I'm not in this to just become friends. She knows what my intentions are. So I guess my question is, should I keep communicating with her in the hopes that she'll come around or just move on and not communicate with her at all. As things stand right now I won't see her in person, just on the phone/internet. I know she misses me. But isn't it strange for the person who did the breaking up to be calling this much?
krzr Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 see caliguys signature...... yes stop all contact she is txting u out of guilt to make it easier for herself. if u want to try and work it out then just let her know that u are also using this time to figure out exactly what u want. tell her that u respect her decision to breakup and now she has to respect ur decision to go no contact. she will probably miss u and be back in a month or two beggin for u back if u dont make yourself seem needy and wussy but show her u are strong and confident and that this breakup dosnt faze u at all even thou it probably does. and if she does not come back at least u are not her emotional crutch helping her get over you and you begin healing now rather than later. she knows where to find u if she has a change of heart.
KeysGirl07 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 It's not that strange - she just sounds like she knows she's not ready to move in with you but doesn't want to completely break up over it. She's only 24 - maybe she doesn't want to hurt your feelings and feels guilty for leading you on then not following through. Maybe deep down she loves you but isn't ready to play house and be a mother to your son. Can't blame her - cut her some slack and let her figure out what she wants - she's still such a baby while you're older and have had more time to mature and become a father, etc.
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