Krytellan Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I had one of those moments last night that left me rather speechless, and for some reason I feel the need to bore you all with it. Sooo... I get to work last night and long story short, there is a misunderstanding b/w me and my gf that includes a perceived "silent treatment" in the form of hanging up on my call and then turning off the phone. So I leave her a message saying that I don't do silent treatments and she called back about 15 minutes later saying she wasn't doing a silent treatment, rather, well... whatever. Oh good lord this is completely orgasmic coffee. If any of you like Starbucks coffee you absolutely need to try Peet's coffee. Anyway, I digress... The point is in talking, she said to me "Oh God no (my name), I would never want you to be at work thinking I was mad at you, and I wouldn't want to go to sleep with you thinking I was mad at you." At the time, it was nice to hear, but as the night wore on, it occured to me that I have ever in my life had someone say that to me before. And the more I think about it, the more I realize the type of person it takes to say something like that. I have dropped hints in my time here but my marriage was not so good and my wife thrived on confrontation and begrudging. In fact, she said some downright messed up things to me. But I think of all the things I've experienced so far in my new relationship, that has to be one of the most important things my gf has ever said. So there, bored yet? Please, go about your day.
whichwayisup Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Cool post. My H and I have a rule, never go to bed pissed off at eachother. It works and you sleep so much better living by that rule. I hope you have a repeat tomorrow of having a great orgasmic coffee moment. I love those!
Star Gazer Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 I've had that sort of "I never want to go to bed angry/etc." conversation both ways (both he and I) in every single relationship I've ever been in. Obviously none of those relationships lasted though. What I focused on was the fact that he (or in this case, your GF) hung up on me in the first place. I don't take that very well, very disrespectful. In this instance, I would have 'perceived' her response as a cover-up for the guilt she felt after that childish maneuver.
sb129 Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Both my exes were happy to sleep on a fight. I hated it, and it made me so upset the fights probably got worse as a result. Wonderboy is pretty easy to reason with, and the few disagreements we have had had been smoothed over easily. I hate the hanging up/ won't answer phone thing. Its really annoying and rude too. IMHO.
Author Krytellan Posted May 21, 2007 Author Posted May 21, 2007 What I focused on was the fact that he (or in this case, your GF) hung up on me in the first place. I don't take that very well, very disrespectful. In this instance, I would have 'perceived' her response as a cover-up for the guilt she felt after that childish maneuver.\ I suppose so, but you know what? I'm OK with that. We all do things at times that we wish we hadn't done. If that's what happened, I'm glad she had the maturity to fix it.
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