Boss with ego problems

[KeysGirl07]

My boss has a huge ego and is always quick to accuse me of errors or make me look stupid but it always backfires on him because I always keep notes and cover my a$$.

 

Here's the problem. He blames me for everything hoping to catch me in a screw up or make me look stupid. I'm getting fed up with it because I work hard, I'm honest and have years of experience that could be better appreciated elsewhere. I'm sick of being loyal to him and him always trying to catch me making a mistake.

 

Here's an example. The other day I presented him with an insurance bill that we had not yet paid. He says "Oh you're WRONG - we did pay that and I'll prove to you we did - this one I will win!!!". I just rolled my eyes and waited for him to look through the A/P and his checks, etc. As he was doing this he kept saying "I got you on this one!!!".

 

I didn't say a word. Finally he wrote a check and handed me back the invoice and that was the end of that. I chuckled to myself a bit and of course he didn't say anything else.

 

Then yesterday he says "Where's the (name of client) contract? It's NOT in the file and we have to have a copy of it!". I told him that was a contract sent to him before my start of employment and as I'd never seen a copy of it he needed to ask the girl that worked here before me or research his emails". Then he says later "Nevermind, I found it".

 

The guy is just a arrogant jerk. I'm mature, professional and I never let him see me sweat. My question is why does he have to act like such a moron? I am a good employee and I'm honest but he always seems to want to cut me down.

 

Another instance was when he needed to rent a car. Of course he wanted a large Suburban type vehicle to take his family on a vacation. I had searched and called around trying to find something that large and most of the car rental agencies I spoke to said they didn't have anything that big available but they would call me back if they could get one in from another location, etc.

 

Immediately after I told him that he calls up his wife and has her call the same people I called. Then he leaves the office. Later he calls me from the golfcourse and says "My wife found a Suburban, I don't mean to put you down but she found one right off the bat".

 

It was a "Ha ha ha" in your face comment. I asked him to tell me who she talked to and at what rental agency and he couldn't tell me. After his vacation he says they never rented anything because it was too expensive that they just took two cars.....

 

What gives with this man? If I was a boss of a company I would NEVER treat my assistant the way this guy treats me. I wouldn't want to piss of my assistant - I'd want her loyalty and want her to look forward to coming to work each day - not dreading it.

 

Why is he so intent on trying to make me look stupid? So far he's been unsuccessful because I really keep track of everything and cover my rear. He's the one looking stupid and I've lost respect for him and want to leave this job and go elsewhere.

[Teeky3]

Let me guess...this man must be short! Most shorties have major ego problems. If that is not the case, then it has more to do with him than you.

 

I just came out of a very similar situation with my boss. The good news is that I literally made a total career change (with the same company) just to get away from the a$$-hole. It was probably time for me to make the change anyway, but he was the push I needed.

 

I tried a few things to try to handle my issue with him...keep in mind, they are very similar to yours:

(1) I asked to meet with him one-on-one and had all of the things that I wanted to address spelled out making sure he answered all of them.

He straightened up for about 1 week.

(2) I documented everything and when I could not take it much more, I went to Human Resources to take out a formal complaint.

They investigated everything and he straightened up for about 3 weeks.

(3) I finally came to terms with the fact that this man was an a$$-hole and nothing could make him change. He had the problem not me and that he was intimidated by my 9 years of success (he started a year ago), the relationships I had built with the vendors, staff, my colleagues and others.

 

I decided that I would not let him ruin me and cause me stress...so I left. I left to go on to a 10K pay increase and a level increase (again same company) and am now working with people who treat me with respect and who value me as an individual and co-worker.

 

The a$$-hole is still around, but check this out....his staff has all left him. He literally has no one to support him and he is being investigated. Don't you just love it? Heeven has the nerve to peridically shoot me an e-mail asking about a file, a charge, or something else. I immediately delete the message and don't even reply. The nerve of him!

 

Long story short....try the above recommendations...one of them is bound to work. Until he leaves (which I doubt.. cause his job is to make you totally miserable because he is) keep covering yourself, document everything and look to get out.

 

And you got it....never let him see you sweat. Good Luck

[Je Ne Regrette Rien]

Arghhhh! I hate bosses like that!!!

 

He sounds like he feels threatened by the great job you're doing. Everytime he says something to put you down, turn it round on him. i.e. "My wife found a Surburban blah blah blah" turn it round on "Wow! That's amazing! Its great to know that we're all working together for the same goal - what a team!". It will really get his goat.

 

Just know that you're doing a good job and as long as YOU know that, he can be as pig-headed as he likes - he hasn't got an argument.