SouthernT Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I posted this story in another thread and then decided to start a new thread with it..... Long story short..... My MOST F'd up dating experienc was a guy that I was invovled w/ for 3 years and it turned out that he had another girlfriend the entire time. He was a simi-pro football player and was on the road alot and moved around alot. She found out and called me. And it was an ugly situation because neither one of us knew about eachother. It ended when he decided to stay with her because he said "I feel like she's worth it and I dont want to hurt her anymore" And I on the other hand, I had NO clue about her. So to find out that 1) he's has another girlfriend and 2) He felt that she was "worth" it and didnt want to hurt her and chose to stay with her......yeah ALL of that took a tole on me. (And YES my main focus was the fact that he was doggish enough to pull a stunt like that.) Havent dated or been intimate with a guy in over a 1 and half now. Pretty hard to trust men after a situation like that. But I'm starting to open up now and use it as a learning experience. I'm just curious to see what are the worst most unbelievable things that people have been through in the dating game/relationships. How bad have you been screwed over?
tanbark813 Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I was with a girl for a while who had a second bf. He knew about me but thought I was just a friend (I hung out with her more than he did). I didn't know about him until I found out she was cheating on me with him (and on him with me, for that matter). After I found out I gave the guy my number via email to call if he wanted to talk. We traded stories for an hour and filled in a lot of holes in the stories she was feeding each of us. There was at least one instance where she spent part of the weekend at his place and then came directly to mine. I was pissed about the situation but it was a short-lived relationship and I felt bad for the other guy. He was more crushed than I was about the whole thing.
LucreziaBorgia Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Worst dating experience. Hmmm... Well, when I was teaching high school, I was single and out of a long term relationship. Some of my students felt sorry for me, and wanted to introduce me to an 'older guy' they knew who was out of school, and seemed like the type of guy I might like. Well, the night came for him to come over and right on the dot the doorbell rang and I opened the door. Damn, he looked good. They were right. Just my type. Sort of young looking, but I was only 23 myself at the time. No prob. I could tell he was nervous as he sat on the couch - I mean REALLY nervous. So, we had some small talk and finally I thought 'f*ck this' and went and sat beside him. Almost immediately, he jumped up off the couch and apologized and spluttered... "I'm sorry, but you intimidate the hell out of me!" (he had dropped out of high school, and the whole 'teacher' thing really threw him for a loop) and then he LEFT. I was stunned and started to undress. Put on the sweats, dumpy tee shirt, etc. Five minutes later, the doorbell rang again. It was him! He said "I'm sorry, but my car won't start - can you give me a ride home?" He was red faced, embarrassed, etc. We got in my car, and then both just busted out laughing. We were fine after that. We never did date, but much later on he made it clear that he really did want to but I already had started dating someone else by that time.
silentcharon Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 How about getting dumped by your LTR ex three days after your birthday two februarys ago, then your most recent ex dumps you the day before your birthday last february? I call Feb 1st the BB day, Birthday/Breakup day, lol.
Island Girl Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Oh GAWD there are SO many. Which story should I choose -- ? There's the one where I broke up with a guy who then became a stalker who broke into my house and I'd wake to find him watching me sleeping - and when that wasn't working - decided to snatch purses to have more money to buy me expensive gifts that he left on my doorstep and then, when he got caught, wrote me letters from jail telling me it was all MY fault...? OR The guy I met, different from my usual type, who had an absolute MELTDOWN during our date? Okay - the latter. I met this guy and thought well, he's really good looking and sweet with not one once of cockiness, not my usual type, but sure. He invites me over for dinner and a movie - we are watching Angels In The Outfield. During the courtroom scene I hear sniffling...and I turn around -- he's crying. I ask why he is crying and he breaks into full body sobbing, with the whole mucus nose thing going on too and says VERY loudly "I still feel like my mom abandoned me!!" ** His mom had left his father and then remarried someone else. And this happened when this guy was 18 years old. Yeah -- I bolted. YUCK!!
annabelle75 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Hmmm …. Too many to chose from sadly. How about a funny one first and then by far the most ****ed up thing that has EVER been done to me. I date a guy for about three weeks. He and I met at a mutual friends party. Every one at the party kept telling me he was such a nice guy and I should get to know him better. He wasn’t really my type physically but he was really nice and I enjoyed talking to him. About a week later we went on our first date (bowling) and I again had a really great time and thought that we might have relationship potential. And then ….. one day I logged onto my myspace page (which I use to keep in touch with family and old friends from high school) and saw that he had sent me a friend request. At first I thought it was odd because I never told him I had a page but friends told me that it wasn’t abnormal for people to look up dates to see if they have pages. I accepted his request and then didn’t think much of it until three weeks into our dating I missed a phone call late one night. By the time I saw that he had called, it was almost midnight so I figured I would just call him back in the morning. The next morning I sent him an email (as I usually did) and he didn’t respond. I waited for some time until I finally decided to call. He didn’t answer. I then logged into to myspace to see if he was online and discovered that he had deleted me as a friend. I couldn’t believe it. He was mad at me for not returning his call and acting like a child. He was 33 and acting 13. I dumped him via email later that day. To this day friends tell me that he is still very bitter and says I treated his disrespectfully by not answering when he called. Ugh. Now the bad story ………………… I had been dating a guy for two years on and off. We were both young and he was very self centered. With out going into a lot of detail I was attacked, beaten and raped in the building where I worked. The night after the attack he told me, “Guys just don’t do that with out a reason. You must have done something to make him think you wanted it.” He then told me he never wanted to see me again and left. It destroyed me in some ways even more than the attack. To this day I have serious trust issues with men. Three months later he showed up at my door and apologized saying that he was wrong and just didn’t know how to react to what had happened. I told him it didn’t matter anymore and he needed to leave. We haven’t spoken since. It doesn't get much more ****ed up than that.
Author SouthernT Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 I had been dating a guy for two years on and off. We were both young and he was very self centered. With out going into a lot of detail I was attacked, beaten and raped in the building where I worked. The night after the attack he told me, “Guys just don’t do that with out a reason. You must have done something to make him think you wanted it.” He then told me he never wanted to see me again and left. It destroyed me in some ways even more than the attack. To this day I have serious trust issues with men. Three months later he showed up at my door and apologized saying that he was wrong and just didn’t know how to react to what had happened. I told him it didn’t matter anymore and he needed to leave. We haven’t spoken since. It doesn't get much more ****ed up than that. I'm at a loss for words on this guy. Thats terrible and my heart goes out to you. Sorry you had to go through that and I hope you come to a point in life where you are at peace with this situation. Thanks for your response!!
Author SouthernT Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 I met this guy and thought well, he's really good looking and sweet with not one once of cockiness, not my usual type, but sure.He invites me over for dinner and a movie - we are watching Angels In The Outfield. During the courtroom scene I hear sniffling...and I turn around -- he's crying. I ask why he is crying and he breaks into full body sobbing, with the whole mucus nose thing going on too and says VERY loudly "I still feel like my mom abandoned me!!" ** His mom had left his father and then remarried someone else. And this happened when this guy was 18 years old. WOW!!! On one hand thats not funny(because I'm sure he has SERIOUS issues) ....but on the other hand it is halarious........lol
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