IsLoveHappiness Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I've been with this guy for 8 years. With many ups and downs but we've always loved each other. I still love him and I believe he does too. He's nice, sweet, warm, affectionate... but for the past several months, almost an year now, he's been depressed. he's just lying in bed all day long on weekends and has no desire or stimulus to do anything... I am feeling bad. I am feeling ignored. I need his attentions, his energy of one time. I just can't understand what's going on. I try to talk to him but he does not seem to understand how this state of his is hurting me and is making me feel useless. Is it time for me to go? I feel futile and hurt. Thank you
stupidhead Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 i assume you've already tried to get him to seek help, and other commonsense things, after all this time. sounds like he's dealing with major depression, and if that's the case then you can't talk him out of it. what do you think the outcome would be if you issued him an ultimatum of sorts, telling him that he needs to get help if he wants to remain with you? i'm sure you want to support him during this tough time, but maybe that would knock him into shape. who can tell, though... depression is something that can totally distort your view of reality. maybe giving a little more background would help us give you some more helpful advice? my sympathies that you have to deal with this, i've never had major depression but have suffered from mild depression for as long as i can remember, and had plenty of days where i couldn't get out of bed and just didn't care about anything. it sucks, and it sucks for everyone who cares about you, too.
Diamonds&Rust Posted May 20, 2007 Posted May 20, 2007 Depression is a strange monster, in that getting help doesn't always help. It's probably hard for him, too. Specifically, what happens when you talk to him?
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