Author NineGirl Posted May 20, 2007 Author Posted May 20, 2007 It helps a lot and smacks some sense into me.. but it is so much easier said than done! I would love to follow those rules and see what would actually happen.. BUT i always end up failing and giving in! I have yet to meet a guy that has not screwed me over like this guy has!This isnt a first..But like you said I am only 19 and I have SO much more learning to do.. and people to meet.. So ill see how this one goes, but im pretty sure its already on a bad path NEXT time..Im changing things around..!!! As for this guy... whatever happens, ILL most def. keep ya'll updated!
DanielMadr Posted May 21, 2007 Posted May 21, 2007 BUT I am not giving him signals to back off, RATher i am giving him signals to slow down..There is a difference, and i don't understand why he can't see it. Im not going to sit down and tell him all of this because he shouldve figured this out.. Since he hasn't.. maybe its because he doesnt want to! Mel Gibson, Mel Gibson, would you please come here and read some Chick Mind!!! Oh you dont have a script? Too bad. Not reflecting on his advances and just sitting there waiting he will figure you out by himself through some misleading "signals" is disrespecting more than some late night calls. Bottom line is: You dont actually like him that much. He probably realized it and acts accordingly.....backing off and watching your reaction. I dont think you two have a bright future.
Author NineGirl Posted May 22, 2007 Author Posted May 22, 2007 Well its not that i dont like him... I am afriad to make the same mistakes i have with other guys in the past! BUT NEW NEWS!~~he called me yesterday apologizing to me because of the way he was acting , he told me "its been crazy lately" (whatever that means??) he told me he still likes me and would love to get to know me bla bla! He asked if i was mad.. and of course i told him "No y would i be!" Ughhhh i dont know what my problem is sometimes..but i honestly dont want to get to deep into it with that whole situation that happened with him... SO ...so far he seems on track again, but i think next time im going to be a little more open, because its not fair for him or me...WeLL see how he takes it...But i feel that something might go wrong. what do yall think..am i being clueless?
DanielMadr Posted May 22, 2007 Posted May 22, 2007 Well its not that i dont like him... I am afriad to make the same mistakes i have with other guys in the past! BUT NEW NEWS!~~he called me yesterday apologizing to me because of the way he was acting , he told me "its been crazy lately" (whatever that means??) he told me he still likes me and would love to get to know me bla bla! He asked if i was mad.. and of course i told him "No y would i be!" Ughhhh i dont know what my problem is sometimes..but i honestly dont want to get to deep into it with that whole situation that happened with him... SO ...so far he seems on track again, but i think next time im going to be a little more open, because its not fair for him or me...WeLL see how he takes it...But i feel that something might go wrong. what do yall think..am i being clueless? Huh, APOLOGY. Every time I hear apology from a girl, I fall in love. Unfortunatelly I heard that once. And not that I date only angels. I believe people who are afraid to apology are ego maniacs (bitches, azzholes, jerks, you name it) at least. The same goes for ones who expect you will cut of your finger to appease them. So it can be good sign of his character. Has he invited you somewhere?
Author NineGirl Posted May 25, 2007 Author Posted May 25, 2007 OKAYY well things are going a little better... he CALLS all the time now, wanting to go eat, go to the movies etc... BUT now im a little busy with some new friends I met, so i am beginning to flake out on him, but not intentionaly.. He called me just now asking me to please see him, But i couldnt! So i feel bad, but i feel awkard now, and i don't know why... He also told me i seem and SOund different, maybe he feels a different vibe from me even though i may not be doing it on purpose.. The good thing about him is that he tells me like it is..He straight out told me "listen i like u, i know you know that, I really want to pursue things blala" and i told him that he may be a bit to busy for me.. but i was being sarcastic... SO i know he likes me, and if i push it further on my behalf i dont know where things will actually go! HMMM should i see him tomorrow..I feel guilty pushing him away yet leading him on.. BIG MISTAKE i always do
DanielMadr Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 OKAYY well things are going a little better... he CALLS all the time now, wanting to go eat, go to the movies etc... BUT now im a little busy with some new friends I met, so i am beginning to flake out on him, but not intentionaly.. He called me just now asking me to please see him, But i couldnt! So i feel bad, but i feel awkard now, and i don't know why... He also told me i seem and SOund different, maybe he feels a different vibe from me even though i may not be doing it on purpose.. The good thing about him is that he tells me like it is..He straight out told me "listen i like u, i know you know that, I really want to pursue things blala" and i told him that he may be a bit to busy for me.. but i was being sarcastic... SO i know he likes me, and if i push it further on my behalf i dont know where things will actually go! HMMM should i see him tomorrow..I feel guilty pushing him away yet leading him on.. BIG MISTAKE i always do Can you identify you exact feelings? Is it you are not that interested? Or is it mainly fear? Fear of rejection. Fear of you will see you naked eventually? Because going out with friends is not a apology. If you would be interested you would reconsider your priorities and eventually you would go out on date with him etc. Id like to know - is it your low interest in him or your fear? What can he say to make you more comfortable? This behaviour you represent happend to me couple of times.....she seemed interested but no progress. Only positive reaction I got from her was when I intended to withdraw but her attention was short lived. I can tell you your behaviour will eventually make him pissed and he will next you, because you took too much toll on his time, feelings etc. and it is very disrespecting. Bottom line for guys in this situation is always: She is not interested or she is a cow playing games. NEXT.
peace_pipe Posted May 25, 2007 Posted May 25, 2007 Bottom line for guys in this situation is always: She is not interested or she is a cow playing games. NEXT. I am going through a similar situation with a girl your age. I am 29, she is 19. You are giving him too many mixed signals, just like my girl did. Eventually, I was got so put off about it that my interest level plumetted. It sounds to me like he made a good bit of effort at first and you flaked out on him. He sensed games, so he was inclined to play although unwillingly. When he started his games, it hurt your ego and made you want him more, hence your renewed interest and calls. So just when he thinks you are coming around, you flake on him and opt to hang with friends instead. I feel bad for this guy. If I were him, I would either totally blow you off or just try to hit it a few times. Also, calling after 10 PM is not a bad thing. It depends on the person's schedule. Unless they have to wake up at 5 or 6 am, then i would say a 10 PM phone call would be fine. For me, if I am into a girl - she can call me anytime day or night. My girl's behavior has been very similar to yours. It is disrespectful. You don't piss on a rose bush and get beautiful roses.
Author NineGirl Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 Its NOT THAT I FEAR anything from him! Its me....my problem is that i always seem to pick the a**holes, so im just afraid that he is like every other guy that has screwed me over in the end....When it comes to fully trusting someone..esp. a male, its hard for me...BUT i am going to try to be more open when he comes back (hes out of town for memorial weekend)!!! {WONDER what hes doing there....} ANYWAYS im not, in a sense pushing him away, but rather sending him signals that i want to play things a bit slow... ONCE again i have made stupid mistakes and choices with others not so long ago, so i want to play this one safe!! But if he feels the need to push away because of my actions, then i will just let him do that...
Author NineGirl Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 Its NOT THAT I FEAR anything from him! Its me....my problem is that i always seem to pick the a**holes, so im just afraid that he is like every other guy that has screwed me over in the end....When it comes to fully trusting someone..esp. a male, its hard for me...BUT i am going to try to be more open when he comes back (hes out of town for memorial weekend)!!! {WONDER what hes doing there....} ANYWAYS im not, in a sense pushing him away, but rather sending him signals that i want to play things a bit slow... ONCE again i have made stupid mistakes and choices with others not so long ago, so i want to play this one safe!! But if he feels the need to push away because of my actions, then i will just let him do that... Also, if i showed that i wasn't interested, then i WOULDNT be calling him and talking to him etc....
peace_pipe Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Its NOT THAT I FEAR anything from him! Its me....my problem is that i always seem to pick the a**holes Somethign just occured to me: I have heard the above statement from many men and women, why is it so?
Author NineGirl Posted May 28, 2007 Author Posted May 28, 2007 Because for some reason.. as hard as most people try not to..THEY always seem to be attracted to the same person.. whether it be the prissy boy, the nice guy or the a**hole.. its like some magnetic force!!
DanielMadr Posted May 28, 2007 Posted May 28, 2007 Somethign just occured to me: I have heard the above statement from many men and women, why is it so? Because it is always easier to blame others or bad luck. In the end of the day it is always Jerk, Player, Azzhole, Biatch, Slvt....to save your Pride.
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