Guest Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Thank you for reading, well here it goes. Off and on with this girl for the last six months. We have been arguing a lot. She cut off the intimacy after we broke up about four months ago. By intimacy I mean not just sex, holding hands, kissing, anything. She would call me everyday. Ask me where I am, who I'm with, etc. This would hurt me. I got a new apartment. She came over twice in two months stayed for a total of two hours. This would hurt me as well. She would always be negative, bottom line, she just didn't act like someone who liked me. But she would give mixed signals. Well, too make a long story short, I found out that she's bullimick, or was. She hates her body and herself very much. She would rather be bullimick and die then be fat. I looked it up on the internet and all those symptoms that bullimick's have, she has. I don't know if this is to blame for the following actions and the lack of a stable relationship, she is 20 yrs old.: Two weeks ago, she called me like six times, I was studying. I called when I could that night, she wouldn't answer. I called, and called again. Nothing. I thought something happened to her. Next day she called me and I apologized and said I wasn't playing games, only was busy. I could tell she was mad and said "why should I call you, when you don't take my calls". Well I thought everything was okay after that conversation, so I called that night. Nothing. She dissapeared. No calls, nothing. Imagine doing all you can for a girl for so long and "poof", she is gone. She texted me three days later "I'm sorry. Just couldn't do it anymore". I was upset that I couldn't even get a phone call and said "sorry to hear that" "Hope you find someone that can make you happy". then I never heard back from her. I said "I have no chance to make you happy if you don't resolve your issues with your eating disorder". She never wrote back. A week went by and I wrote a text saying "do you have feelings and just can't do this anymore? or are you done? Nothing. She wouldn't reply. Then my final text was. "This is unbelievable. You stop talking after six months of hanging out as if we just met last week. This is what your exboyfriend did (I guess he left her exactly like this) and now you are doing it to me. I then said "A phone call to say f off would have been better than this. She didn't write back. Its been a week since that text, and two weeks since all this happened. I love the girl very much but I don't know what happened here. If I don't make contact will she think I don't give a damn about her? Or is she just too immature to even deal with. Does she just have her own problems and I should stay away from her. Should I just sit back and see what happens? I am afraid that she will meet someone else who will pretend to care and all that? I really do care, I just wanted to be treated better. I wanted her to act like a girlfriend if she wanted to be treated like one. WHAT SHOULD I DO? I AM SO DEPRESSED AND ANGRY ABOUT THIS. I emailed her today after she has been literally dissappeared and said I would be there for her and only as a friend though. If she needs support with her bullimia and all that. I did it for my own state of mind. So that she would never say I don't care. Because I do. I took the blame and offered help. I told her if she doesn't contact me then have a great life. I don't know what else to do. Was this a mistake?
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