Author SouthernT Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Honestly I think You think too much. You are too rational...eee structured...eee complicated. You are complicating things for yourself more than it deserves. Common reason for this is your subconsiousnes is sabotaging you. Most of the time its the matter of insecurity. Work on it. Just trying my hardest not to be outsmarted by a guy this time around. I've been burned once and I will NOT be burned again. Fool me once....shame on you....fool me twice....shame on me.
DanielMadr Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Just trying my hardest not to be outsmarted by a guy this time around. I've been burned once and I will NOT be burned again. Fool me once....shame on you....fool me twice....shame on me. Outsmarted? Thats a bad approach...attitude. It smells like power game to me. You should concentrate to enjoy life. Take simple precautions and for the rest of journey simply enjoy the moments. You can see yourself as Titanic. One day you will sank as everyone else. There is no reason why to run at full speed or spend your life watching for icebergs and calculating the safest road. Just make sure you dont hit some big one. Simply enjoy the ride. Dont think too much, dont be a fool. What was the last iceberg actually? He made you pregnant and flew to Tanzania? I think you take yourself too seriously. Dont be so hard on yourself.
Author SouthernT Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 What was the last iceberg actually? He made you pregnant and flew to Tanzania? I think you take yourself too seriously. Dont be so hard on yourself. LOOOOOOOOONG..............story short. My last iceberg was a guy that I was invovled w/ for 3 years and it turned out that he had another girlfriend the entire time. He was a simi-pro football player and was on the road alot and moved around alot. She found out and called me. And it was an ugly situation because neither one of us knew about eachother. It ended when he decided to stay with her because he said "I feel like she's worth it and I dont want to hurt her anymore" And I on the other hand, I had NO clue about her. So to find out that 1) he's has another girlfriend and 2) He felt that she was "worth" it and didnt want to hurt her and chose to stay with her......yeah ALL of that took a tole on me. (And YES my main focus was the fact that he was doggish enough to pull a stunt like that.) Havent dated or been intimate with a guy in over a 1 and half now. Pretty hard to trust men after a situation like that. But I'm starting to open up now and use it as a learning experience.
DanielMadr Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 LOOOOOOOOONG..............story short. My last iceberg was a guy that I was invovled w/ for 3 years and it turned out that he had another girlfriend the entire time. He was a simi-pro football player and was on the road alot and moved around alot. She found out and called me. And it was an ugly situation because neither one of us knew about eachother. It ended when he decided to stay with her because he said "I feel like she's worth it and I dont want to hurt her anymore" And I on the other hand, I had NO clue about her. So to find out that 1) he's has another girlfriend and 2) He felt that she was "worth" it and didnt want to hurt her and chose to stay with her......yeah ALL of that took a tole on me. (And YES my main focus was the fact that he was doggish enough to pull a stunt like that.) Havent dated or been intimate with a guy in over a 1 and half now. Pretty hard to trust men after a situation like that. But I'm starting to open up now and use it as a learning experience. OUCH. Treason hurts the most. You know what, when you sit at home analyzing things, you can come to only one conclusion.....never ever leave your house unless there is earthquake:D Year and a half is not that long but I wouldnt recommend to pity yourself for any more minute. It takes toll on your confidence. Laugh it off. Do you know any potentional prince nearby?
Author SouthernT Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Do you know any potentional prince nearby? Just the guy that I've been posting about forever on here. I would love to meet more guys so that I can gain more experience in dating....I just havent met anybody else yet. I made a promise to myself to go out on a date with the VERY next guy that asks. No matter if he's my type or not. I just want to jump out there and socialize right now.
DanielMadr Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I made a promise to myself to go out on a date with the VERY next guy that asks. No matter if he's my type or not. I just want to jump out there and socialize right now. Its not very good promise. Bad conscience for you. Broken heart for him. Just dont go the extreme ways. Find balance in what you do. Good night. Im dead tired.
Trialbyfire Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Just the guy that I've been posting about forever on here. I would love to meet more guys so that I can gain more experience in dating....I just havent met anybody else yet. I made a promise to myself to go out on a date with the VERY next guy that asks. No matter if he's my type or not. I just want to jump out there and socialize right now. There's nothing wrong with wanting to socialize but don't do it if the men are not your type. You need to connect on a social level with someone who's interesting, someone you enjoy being with if only on a more friendly basis, rather than with a thought to a future relationship. There are decent men out there who aren't ready to settle down yet but aren't players. Hope that made sense.
crazy_grl Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Its not very good promise. Bad conscience for you. Broken heart for him. Just dont go the extreme ways. Find balance in what you do. There's no broken heart if you're honest. Most guys (and girls) don't fall in love on the first date. Many just want to socialize. You're not going to break a guy's heart on a first date if you tell him you're just trying to get out there and aren't ready for a full relationship. (The exception is if it's a guy you've known for awhile. In that case, he may take the date more seriously.) If you don't normally split the check on dates though, I suggest you do at least in this case. I see no problem accepting a date from a guy you don't consider your type. You're not going to pursue a relationship anyway. And you just might find out that you like a type of person that you'd never have considered before. Going out on one or two dates with some guy you don't know well in the same time frame you go out a few times with another guy doesn't really hurt anybody. The most important thing is to be honest that you're dating other people as well. Don't let the person think you're exclusive if you're not, and no getting physical until you've narrowed it down to just one person. That said... I do have to admit that I've never really done that, because I haven't been on many dates with guys that I didn't know pretty well beforehand. Most dates I've been on, I already knew I was interested in that guy.
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