Guest Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 I've been dating my BF for 11 months. When we first started dating I kind of knew he wasn't the sharpest tool in the shed but it didn't matter to me. He is kind, funny, very passionate and loving, and a great listener. Fast forward to the last couple of months. OMG! As the honeymoon phase is winding down I am really getting to know him in a more relaxed way. I've come to realize how un-intelligent he really is. Some examples are not having a very big vocabulary..which means he doesn't understand a lot of different words or he tries to sound smart but says the words wrong..like "umcredible" or padition= petition. I can deal with the lack of vocabulary but now I'm seeing other things as well. For example in the early part of the relationship he went on about how he loves gardening. He claimed he is real good at it etc.. Lately he mentioned how he is going to help me with my garden or fix things up around my house. I can tell he has no clue what so ever on how to do it right. He doesn't know how to use a measuring tape, and the gardening stuff is just common sense stuff that he gets all wrong. My ex was out of this world for handy work and over the top in brilliance..but he lacked any emotions or passion. This guy is real awesome to me emotionally and doing fun things together..but he is borderline slow. We went thru some of his old school things and he showed me one of his report cards. I could see he was in a "special class". I have also noticed people in stores (like the sales clerk) not understanding what he wants or is saying. He is not articulate. Half the time he doesn't get what people ask him either. I usually have to step in and take over. He doesn't mind this..in fact he loves it. I'm not of high intelligence..(I didn't even finish high school) but I have always read a lot and also kept up with current affairs. Is this relationship doomed? His intelligence does not get on my nerves..although who knows in 5 ys or something.LOL What I worry about is whether this relationship will work in the long run. He is a very unique person and I love a lot of his qualities. I guess as I'm writing this I'm coming to the conclusion that what does it really matter? We can figure chores out together...I can take care of stuff he doesn't understand or should I just date for another year and see how I feel about it then?
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