Lost and Bewildered Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Hi, My g/f of three years just broke up with me 1 week before our 3 year anniversary. We have been together since she was 16 and I was 19, which is young I know. Her reasons for breaking up with me were because I was planning to move to another city to pursue my education and she wasn't ready to head into that long term commitment. She also wanted to figure out if I was a security blanket or not, and also to figure out who and what she wanted for sure. She wants to be with other people, namely men as we are a female-female couple. She says things like "I want this life with you...just not yet, I need to figure things out" Two weeks later she is sleeping with her room-mate. She calls me all the time, she tells me that she loves me, she tries to make me feel better and to cope with my hurt. We are honest about everything that happens. But I just can't wrap my head around it. I love her, so much. And I know that if you love someone you can't just hold them or control them, so if she needs to have sex with other people, I have to respect that I guess. Its just that I don't know what to do, or how to react. I think I am okay with what is happening so far, I'm just scared that she will fall for someone else while she is exploring and everything will be lie. Shes my first love, and my greatest. I was stupid and got too emotionally invested, I really beleived we were going to be together. What do I do? How do I cope? Do I keep talking to her? She wants to talk to me, I want to talk to her, but how can I deal with all of this hurt? I don't want to be angry at her, and I don't want to be depressed. I want to be strong and motivated and confident. I want to show her what she is missing, but I feel like she is using me. I don't know if I am okay with that. What can I possibly do? I feel totally stuck.
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