Jaded Girl Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing wrong with you. Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person’s heart. If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love him/her, feel honored that love came and called at your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain. How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if our lives and ways are different. If you fall in love with another, and he/she falls in love with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, let it go. There is a reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time. Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you. Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit. Give it to the world around you in anyway you can. There is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long without love, they understand love only as a need. They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love, and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them. The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing, but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need. They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away. Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you. But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Trialbyfire Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. Nicely written and very romantic. But... I would rather not have had my first and most recent romantic love experience. That's my honest assessment. I could have invested the time towards someone worthwhile, rather than wasting it on someone so worthless. While I thought I had been in love in the past, this last experience proved me wrong. I do know now what being in love is and hope to experience it again with someone who isn't a waste of my life.
Great Gazoo Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Nicely written and very romantic. But... I would rather not have had my first and most recent romantic love experience. That's my honest assessment. I could have invested the time towards someone worthwhile, rather than wasting it on someone so worthless. Ah spoken like a true hopeless romantic
Trialbyfire Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Ah spoken like a true hopeless romantic So true. All cynics were once romantics.
Great Gazoo Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 So true. All cynics were once romantics. I hear you there but I still believe in romance as long as you can get through all of the red tape called life.
Trialbyfire Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 I hear you there but I still believe in romance as long as you can get through all of the red tape called life. You'll find I don't disagree with this at all. I'm not closing myself off for any future possibilities, just regretting the past one and wishing it away. While I've always believed that every experience is always a worthwhile experience, this last one sucked so badly that I don't see it as a beneficial add to my repertoire...
Great Gazoo Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 While I've always believed that every experience is always a worthwhile experience, this last one sucked so badly that I don't see it as a beneficial add to my repertoire... I can relate to that and agree 100 percent that not every life experience is worthwhile and I do say some I could very much live without.
loveinlife Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 nicely written i agree with what you said jaded. at the same time, we learn from our experience and continue to grow. I used to regret meeting my ex, but without her I wouldn't have known my weakness and see what love is. I believe i am near your stage of love. I guess it is self love that manifest into our surroundings and understanding that love doesn't mean being with someone but is already present.
WhiteKnight Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Nicely written Jaded_Girl, that really touched my heart and inspired me in some way of remembering the good things of my past. Also I know one thing, love is always mysterious and can appear and disappear in a way just like that. I regret in some way how my ex's left me but they all gave me the opportunity to see what love is and how I could learn it from experience. I could name one or two ex's who really want to stay as friends with me in the long run, because the way I see it... there was something special between all of us but it was a huge regret that our friendship fell apart and we had to slowly rebuild it again, despite whatever the reason may be.
MagnoliaJane Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you. All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you to overflowing, then reach out and give it away. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away. Love always has been and always will be a mystery. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. Very romantic and nicely written -- I couldn't have agreed more two years ago. Unfortunately, walking so high up with your head in the clouds makes you tripple... To love all and everything around us, is to love nothing at all, isn't that what Oscar Wilde meant in his novel The picture of Dorian Gray? Instead of worshipping love, I now worship respect and integrity. The word "love" has been abused too much by too many in my book. I hope this doesn't sound too bitter. I am not. Just tired of love games. Sick of love. I want a friend, somebody to trust, somebody who shows vulnerability and compassion. Someone who doesn't talk about it, but has it. And then we'll go from there. But love? nah.
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