little_girl Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 well some of you may remember me about losing my fiance' of 8 years on january 16th 2006....well i'm in a similar situation now....i lost my best friend & lover & support & my rock to a motorcycle accident on may 11th 2007....not coping very well....& not sure why i should even attempt going on in life now....i'm not suicidal just don't want to be here anymore....he helped me get through the tough times in life & even helped me to quit drinking....& now this person we call GOD has decided to take him from me too....so any advice..support..help would really be good...because i was finally moving on & becoming a productive person in the last 4 months....& now i feel like i'm back to??????????????????????????????????????????
Aquarius Guy Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Dear Little Girl, I have been somewhere similar to your situation. I don't really talk about it, partly because it hurts, and partly because I try to forget it. Death is certainly something that can't be undone very well. Many mistakes can be corrected. It has been some years since I lost a wonderful lover, but I just talked to her not a half hour before I read your post. I have heard advice that it is OK to talk to a lover who has passed to the other side, a few minutes each day. In some ways I have lost my lover. In some ways, she is more present for me than when we were occasionally apart from each other. Many people find it is better just to forget about a deceased Loved One. I have found comfort in occasional imaginary conversations with her. Some people say anti-depressants are a good route. I have read some Elizabeth Wurtzel, but not her Prozac America. Wurtzel was recovering from depression with Prozac. I would more recommend some exercise to get more endorphins in your blood for feeling good. Blessings
krzr Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 god didnt take your loved one from you..... im not religious but i believe in god and he gave us all free will to make our own choices and your loved one chose to buy a motorcycle and ride it just like i do and there is nothing that will clear your head more than doing 160-187 mph down the freeway with your vision tunneling up and the speed and freedom u feel. its a choice and a known dangerous one at that ive had many close calls and still ride knowing one day i could end up seriously injured. you will get over this just like you got over the last thing. just remember thats life and its better that he was in it then not. and if u do start having weird feelings talk to someone about them and make them aware about just how bad ur feeling.
Author little_girl Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 thanks for the kind words...i to talk to my previous lover sometimes alot...& these past few days i seem to be talking to him more....justb don't understand life at all.....?
Author little_girl Posted May 19, 2007 Author Posted May 19, 2007 :(thanks for your words....but you said god doesn't choose this...but yet at bill's memorial service the pastor said god decided it was time to call him up....what am i suppose to believe....?
sb129 Posted May 19, 2007 Posted May 19, 2007 I am so sorry for your pain LittleGirl. Thinking of you.
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