uRabbit Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 So I have a girlfriend. For almost a year now. But over the past few months, I've lost interest. We even broke up twice. But we got back together when she invited me to go to her prom. Well... I dunno... I don't really wanna be with her anymore... But I'm scared that I won't find someone as good as her. I mean, I'm not attracted to her anymore, but she'd be a great wife, mother, etc. But she doesn't know much about the things I'm into (the bible, extreme sports, etc.), she is really shy and not very physically attractive to me anymore... And I've been talking to this other girl. She's religious (like I used to be), likes to go mountain bike trekking, is pretty outgoings, etc., etc. I dunno what to do though, cause my current girlfriend has no one but me. She's 18 and still lives with her mom. Her mother makes poor decisions. And she only has one true friend nowadays. I feel like I'm ruining her life if I leave her... What do I do? And how can I help my current girlfriend deal with it?
whichwayisup Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 So I have a girlfriend. For almost a year now. But over the past few months, I've lost interest. We even broke up twice. But we got back together when she invited me to go to her prom. Well... I dunno... I don't really wanna be with her anymore... Then, end it with her. You don't love her, you've lost interest in her...It's unfair of you to hang on to her, you'd be depriving HER of finding true love with a man who can love her back. But I'm scared that I won't find someone as good as her. I mean, I'm not attracted to her anymore, but she'd be a great wife, mother, etc. But she doesn't know much about the things I'm into (the bible, extreme sports, etc.), she is really shy and not very physically attractive to me anymore... You cannot stay with someone because they'd make a good wife, and a mother to your children...That is selfish and unfair of you to make her stay with you under those circumstances... You WILL meet someone else who is better suited for you...Trust me on that, just right now you can't see yourself with anyone else. Once you are over her, a new world will open up for you. Also, you can't stay with her out of pity...She's 18, and young enough to find other friends and grow as a person. Your heart may be in the right place, but you'll be miserable later in life if you stay as her boyfriend. Maybe, in time, once all the affection, emotional attachment feelings go away you two COULD be friends, but it is best to end it, stay away from eachother so you both can heal. Since you've already met someone else who you have alot in common with, that's another reason to end it with your girlfriend, otherwise you may end up cheating on her, and hurting her badly. Better to be honest now, end it and move on.
MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 ouch. yeah ur going to really break her heart. im a girl, this would hurt me to the fullest extent, well it depends on the girl. and wait, does ur current know u r seeing this new girlu happen to really be interested in? if u do break up with her. tell her the truth, dont lie. if she doesnt know bout the girl, maybe u should not tell her once u two break up, cause then she willl think, o he broke up with me cuz i wasnt as good as this other girl. another thing... it would hurt, as a girl, knowing i was in a relationship with a guy, who axctually really in his heart, didnt even like me. u should be honest ur hurting the other person, u dont even like her?? u say shes alll those things so is it physical attraction ur not seeing nemore? i mean, wu did she do stick her head in the mud?... anyway as a matter of fact, (not to put u down) she deserves some1 better. u need to move on. and so does she. BUT if u two do break up, if she wants to... REMAIN her friend. and she will appreciate it. that way u wont be hurting her, just say, "do u want to just be friends?"
Shizz Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Never stay in a relationship out of pity, security, and fear of hurting the other. In the end a loveless relationship is just that loveless, and will crash and burn anyways. Your merely doing the right thing by putting a foot down, and not letting it drag on. Don't worry about your girlfriend. She will find someone new, as will you, but keeping her in a loveless relationship is not going to make her truly happy, and it will make you miserable.
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