alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Enough has been said about all this already. Too much, actually. yes its getting a little long in the tooth TTSP
alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Enough has been said about all this already. Too much, actually. yes its getting a little long in the tooth TTSP
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 OK, OK, I got it, Alphie... You made a triple post.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 OK, OK, I got it, Alphie... You made a triple post. its not my fault...the site is acting up.
crazy_grl Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Ok, CG..I get what you're saying too BUT then she has to stop seeing him altogether. I think it's ridiculous for them to still be dating and going out together but that suddenly she tells him "no sex." That's juvenile. It's high school, you know? It's all or nothing at this point. I guess I see it differently, because I've had guys tell me that they want to hold off on sex after we had already had it. I didn't see them as juvenile and the relationship didn't completely end because of it. *shrug* It's probably a moot point though, because I think you're dead on about everything else. I doubt he'll call anytime soon.
Touche Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I guess I see it differently, because I've had guys tell me that they want to hold off on sex after we had already had it. I didn't see them as juvenile and the relationship didn't completely end because of it. *shrug* It's probably a moot point though, because I think you're dead on about everything else. I doubt he'll call anytime soon. Oh, thanks CG. But guess what? You reminded me of something that I'd completely forgotten about. (After all my talk about it's so high school, etc..but maybe this isn't the same) Anyway, what you reminded me about is that my H wanted us to stop having sex a month or maybe two before our wedding. He wanted our wedding night to be extra special. I remember I agreed to it but I'm not sure how long we lasted. Wish I could remember. But anyway, maybe that's different? Hell, I don't know. But yeah, I had completely forgotten about that.
fray718 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 SG, did he initiate contact yet? I say give him until tuesday before you decide to ask him for an explanation or anything. Guys can be weird like that...they freak out but may realize later that they cant live without you. Just hang in there for a bit more.
Freedom Now Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 While I agree with you, fray, that men can freak out and need a little space, it does seem suspicious that he has made NO contact since their evening together.... Men are like rubberbands. They will bounce back if you give them space....yes. But, if there wasn't a deeper basis to the relationship before the sexual experience, he may not bounce back. I hope it isn't true for SG, but it is concerning that he hasn't even called once. Sadly, this happens often. And it sucks.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 He called me this morning at 7:30 to be the first to wish me happy birthday. I missed the call.
Pyro Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 He called me this morning at 7:30 to be the first to wish me happy birthday. I missed the call. Happy B-day SG. Did he say if he was going to try and call back later or did he ask you to call him.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 Happy B-day SG. Did he say if he was going to try and call back later or did he ask you to call him. No, he didn't do either. He just left the message wishing me happy birthday, and that he hoped he was the first to do so today. He must have called on his way to the station because he goes on duty today for 3 days, starting at 8 am. I should add he also sent me a little picture of something he knows I like 3 minutes before the phone call. Last night he also voluntarily sent me a text asking what I was up to and how I was.
Pyro Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 No, he didn't do either. He just left the message wishing me happy birthday, and that he hoped he was the first to do so today. He must have called on his way to the station because he goes on duty today for 3 days, starting at 8 am. I should add he also sent me a little picture of something he knows I like 3 minutes before the phone call. Last night he also voluntarily sent me a text asking what I was up to and how I was. IMO he has got to try a little harder than that if he is really interested in you.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 While I agree with you, fray, that men can freak out and need a little space, it does seem suspicious that he has made NO contact since their evening together.... Up until last night/this morning, he didn't initiate contact, but we were in contact with each other. It's not as though he was completely silent.
tanbark813 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 he also sent me a little picture of something he knows I like Cock pictures already?
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 IMO he has got to try a little harder than that if he is really interested in you. Agreed. But that's why I think AnnaBelle is right. He's not AS into me as I am into him...but I shouldn't be as into him as I am right now to begin with. Honestly, if he's simply trying to regain balance and take things slowly, I really understand his actions. If he had called me the next day and been as sweet as he was previously, I can honestly say that I would have essentially assumed we were pretty much committed. I think most girls would, and therefore understand his assumption that I felt that way and therefore he needed to back off to get things back to the slower speed to which a normal relationship progresses (we moved fast emotionally, I can see that now). I particularly understand that given how he's been burned in the past. I'm not defending him or justifying his actions, I'm just saying I think I'm starting to understand them, and I'm okay with it as of today.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! Thank you!! (You too, Rid!) And BTW, if/when I see him again, there is no physical way I will be able to NOT have sex with him. He's irrisistible, and I just can't play that game.
Pyro Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Agreed. But that's why I think AnnaBelle is right. He's not AS into me as I am into him...but I shouldn't be as into him as I am right now to begin with. Honestly, if he's simply trying to regain balance and take things slowly, I really understand his actions. If he had called me the next day and been as sweet as he was previously, I can honestly say that I would have essentially assumed we were pretty much committed. I think most girls would, and therefore understand his assumption that I felt that way and therefore he needed to back off to get things back to the slower speed to which a normal relationship progresses (we moved fast emotionally, I can see that now). I particularly understand that given how he's been burned in the past. I'm not defending him or justifying his actions, I'm just saying I think I'm starting to understand them, and I'm okay with it as of today. Do take things one day at a time and see how things are going but from what you have written, you are definitely more into him, then vice versa. Unfortunately there really is no telling exactly what he wants with you. We all can give our opinions about it, but only time will tell.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 ...but from what you have written, you are definitely more into him, then vice versa. I thought that was clear from the get go. Perhaps I didn't make that clear here, but I've known that all along. I got attached really quickly, even before we slept together. Frankly, my feelings towards him were a little irrational. I still totally, totally dig him, but I'm not having the romantic fantasies anymore (okay, I am, just not as much).
dropdeadlegs Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Happy Birthday, pretty girl! I'm glad you are feeling better I'm getting off this darn computer because I have my daughters graduation to attend, and lots of primping to do beforehand, as well as my usual supper duties and such. I will check back later because I expect more than a call to commemorate the day, so PLEASE post if anything else comes up. I know it's a new relationship, but a birthday does require more than a call, right? At LEAST a card, if not a tasteful gift, right? I'm not even a "gift" person, but many people are so I tend to make assumptions that gifts are in order. Enjoy your day!
Pyro Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I thought that was clear from the get go. Perhaps I didn't make that clear here, but I've known that all along. I got attached really quickly, even before we slept together. Frankly, my feelings towards him were a little irrational. I still totally, totally dig him, but I'm not having the romantic fantasies anymore (okay, I am, just not as much). I know. I was just reiterating it back to you.
crazy_grl Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 But anyway, maybe that's different? Hell, I don't know. But yeah, I had completely forgotten about that. Heh. I don't know either. Sorta the same, sorta different. Maybe more different than the same.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 Thanks DDL! I will check back later because I expect more than a call to commemorate the day, so PLEASE post if anything else comes up. I know it's a new relationship, but a birthday does require more than a call, right? At LEAST a card, if not a tasteful gift, right? Oh God no! Even if he weren't trying to create space, I wouldn't expect anything at all...at all! Moreover, given that he is clearly trying to create that space and prevent me from getting attached too quickly/taking things slow, the stupidest thing he could do to further that aim would be to send me something. If he did, I would latch onto it/him even more!!
Art_Critic Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 And BTW, if/when I see him again, there is no physical way I will be able to NOT have sex with him. He's irrisistible, and I just can't play that game. You are already setting yourself up for another week of wondering.. Stop that and take control of yourself.. Expect a call in 2-3 days.. as he will be looking to hook up again.. He planned this call to keep you intrigued.. it worked.. maybe he is just trying to be romantic.. who knows.. maybe he was trying to create the aloof feeling to keep you interested in him. H-Bday SG... hope you have a nice day and a good time with your friends..
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