Pyro Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I only say that, Rid, because I've done that. His name was Kevin. I knew that Kevin liked me more than I did him and would likely think sex=instant commitment, but I went ahead and slept with him anyway because I DID like him...just not as much. It wouldn't have even occurred to call him so quickly. And he did call, and text, etc., but the more he pushed me though, the farther I went. Had he given me time and space, I likely would have falled head over heels...I still think about him. Does that make me less of a woman?? Not long-term relationship material?? I guess so. Now I feel like sh*t both ways!! So how often did Kevin contact you? Perhaps he came on too strong and that pushed you away. That does happen from time to time but that is not the case here with the firefighter.
Touche Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Very good point. Hmm... I spook easily too though. Yes, it's obvious that you spook easily...all the more reason for you to be with a man who DOESN'T spook so easily and who will be there to reassure you, don't you think?
Author Star Gazer Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 I wasn't degrading you in the least bit SG. Oh, I know you weren't! I was just saying that it's not always so cut-and-dry.
Author Star Gazer Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 So how often did Kevin contact you? Perhaps he came on too strong and that pushed you away. That does happen from time to time but that is not the case here with the firefighter. Interesting question. Before hand, with both Kevin and FF there was plenty of contact. But with Kevin, I didn't like him as much as he liked me. With the FF, I'm fairly certain I like(d) him more than he did me. Afterward with Kevin, when I sensed he had become attached, I ... ran like the wind. He tried to latch on, to "understand" what was happening, and I ... got very irritated. Afterward with FF, when I sensed I was attached and he was not, I attempted to latch on...and his response was "go with the flow." I am trying to "understand" HERE rather than in his face. Yes, it's obvious that you spook easily...all the more reason for you to be with a man who DOESN'T spook so easily and who will be there to reassure you, don't you think? Ha. Yes.
Pyro Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Well lets see if he contacts you. If he does and you two hang out, hold off on the sex and see how he reacts.
Touche Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Well lets see if he contacts you. If he does and you two hang out, hold off on the sex and see how he reacts. Hold off on sex after they're already had it?
annabelle75 Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I have to admit that I am little jealous. Having sex with a FF is one of my favorite fantasies. Alright ..... back to being emotionally supportive ........
Touche Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I have to admit that I am little jealous. Having sex with a FF is one of my favorite fantasies. Alright ..... back to being emotionally supportive ........ What's FF?
annabelle75 Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 F**kface. BAHAHAHA (Firefighter.) lol you scared me for a sec. i thought i had misintepreted it.
Pyro Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Hold off on sex after they're already had it? I mean starting now. If he is in it for just the sex, then this will tell.
Touche Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I mean starting now. If he is in it for just the sex, then this will tell. I know, Rid. That seems a little unrealistic to me though at this point. Ha ha you guys with the FF! Ok, I get it now.
Pyro Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 I know, Rid. That seems a little unrealistic to me though at this point. What do you mean?
Can'tGiveUp Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Hey SG, I have nothing constructive to add...just wanted to let you know you are not alone. I have been following this thread with great interest as I did EXACTLY the same thing Sat. night. Apparently with the same results...
Touche Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 What do you mean? What do I mean? I mean that it's completely unrealistic to "change the rules." If she's already had sex with him, it's really kind of silly/immature/unrealistic/fabricated/phony, etc. etc. to suddenly tell him "no sex." After they've already gone down that road. Do you not agree?
crazy_grl Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 What do I mean? I mean that it's completely unrealistic to "change the rules." If she's already had sex with him, it's really kind of silly/immature/unrealistic/fabricated/phony, etc. etc. to suddenly tell him "no sex." After they've already gone down that road. Do you not agree? I get what you're saying, but I agree with Rid. Just because she slept with him once doesn't mean she has to keep doing it. SG doesn't feel secure and comfortable in the relationship right now. She shouldn't have sex with him again until she does.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I'm not trying to make you feel bad, Alpha... BUT you SHOULD feel guilty. I cannot even begin to describe to you how badly I feel right now. I do feel pretty bad SG *sniffle*...but what about all those women who screwed me over?
Touche Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I get what you're saying, but I agree with Rid. Just because she slept with him once doesn't mean she has to keep doing it. SG doesn't feel secure and comfortable in the relationship right now. She shouldn't have sex with him again until she does. Ok, CG..I get what you're saying too BUT then she has to stop seeing him altogether. I think it's ridiculous for them to still be dating and going out together but that suddenly she tells him "no sex." That's juvenile. It's high school, you know? It's all or nothing at this point.
annabelle75 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 I do feel pretty bad SG *sniffle*...but what about all those women who screwed me over? they should suffer
Touche Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 they should suffer Uhm...don't you think they already have?
tanbark813 Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Ok, CG..I get what you're saying too BUT then she has to stop seeing him altogether. I think it's ridiculous for them to still be dating and going out together but that suddenly she tells him "no sex." That's juvenile. It's high school, you know? It's all or nothing at this point. Agreed 100%.
This_Too_Shall_Pass Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Enough has been said about all this already. Too much, actually. SG, dump his sorry a**. Well...dump him in your mind already, before he openly dumps you. I wouldn't care if he was on his knees right now. He's done the damage. HE has done it, so why are YOU feeling this crappy? Try your best to push him out of your mind. And enjoy your birthday with people you can have a fun time with.
alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Enough has been said about all this already. Too much, actually. yes its getting a little long in the tooth TTSP
alphamale Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Enough has been said about all this already. Too much, actually. yes its getting a little long in the tooth TTSP
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