MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 question for the guys: whats a guy mean when he says "i like u and believe me i want to c and be with u, but there are other factors on my mind." u mite have to know the background of the story to know where this is coming from, but to sum it up me and this guy were in a relationship but not anymore, cuz we nvr got to c each other. now were more than friends just not in a relationship and he still likes me, and i like him.
norajane Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 other factors = other women Not always, but very often that's the case.
sb129 Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 Sounds like you are having to do the chasing after all! If someone has too many other "factors" in their life to be with me, then I don't want a R with them- its all or nothing. I made the mistake of being someones part time girlfriend before, and trust me it sucks. If you really want to be with someone, you MAKE it work, regardless of the stuff you have going on. Most people CAN have a lovelife, a job, a family, friends and hobbies and interests concurrently....they aren't mutually exclusive
amaysngrace Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 whats a guy mean when he says "i like u and believe me i want to c and be with u, but there are other factors on my mind." He doesn't want the full commitment of a relationship. He wants it on his terms only. And you're just expected to go along. But please don't burden him with your thoughts on it or anything because he's too busy to hear what you need.
kepners Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 i agree with SB129. i have done PT twice and it stings because you end up loosing out big time!! the whole other issue stuff... means he has other things he wants to do that your not as high up the list as you think you are, and he cant tell you that your going to have take a side step for other things... maybe women maybe job... either way its not you. i mean if a woman wants a man and tell himlike you did... there is no way i wouldnt be with her, unless i didnt like her that much anymore.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 theres actually a whole story that comes along with this. considering the fact that hes in highschool and im not... wel something happened and thats wut ended our relationship. the other factors, i dont know. but i have an idea, and i wouldnt be able to handle it either. i just think that if he wanted to be with me, there wouldnt be "other factors" getting in his way. but like i said, theres a whole story that goes with this. too long to explain i will get back to u guys with it
nicki Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 If a guy wants to be with you, then he will be. If he says he wants to but cant, believe him in the sense that he won't be seeing you. Many guys lie and say they want to see you and be with you, but then don't do it. So, watch their actions, no matter what they say. That is, UNLESS they tell you upfront they don't have time for you due to other "factors." That's a blowoff in my book. Just tell him, "That's cool. Call me when things settle down." And don't sleep with him in the meantime. Don't do it. He's already warned you that he doesn't want a relationship. He either doesn't want to see you in any way whatsoever, or he just wants to sleep with you, no strings. Either way, not good for you. You deserve better. You deserve a guy who wants to be with you in all ways.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 hey u guys thanx for all of ur responses. ppl can reply more if theyd like, but he sent me a text today. out of nowhere.. hes always been such a great guy. hes very attentive so u know wen he doesnt call, hes not feeling u. if he doesnt text, if he doesnt call wen he says... everything. i could see the signs and i think he could too. hes always liked me soo much and ever since wut happened hapened, its been difficult for him. me as well. its just about ruined evrything 4 me. today he sent me a text saying this: "baby im sry 4 not letting u come n 4 growing apart from u. i didnt realize how much i miss u. i guess i needed time to think. hope u can 4give me, gdnite." now i wont let him off that easy dont get me wrong, but u have to admit, he realized he was doing all this, and i mean, what a nice guy.
nicki Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Nice text, but you don't have to be so grateful about it. He SHOULD be nice. Text him back, "Make it up to me. Then we'll see."
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 lol, completely agree and thats like wut i wanted to say. but like i said ud have to no the situation. i just texted back, "um. i 4give u.. sleep well." (kind of a mixy message) he'll soon find out differently wen i talk to him on the fone and/or c him in person GIRL Power, loll
Teddy and Jane Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 question for the guys: whats a guy mean when he says "i like u and believe me i want to c and be with u, but there are other factors on my mind." u mite have to know the background of the story to know where this is coming from, but to sum it up me and this guy were in a relationship but not anymore, cuz we nvr got to c each other. now were more than friends just not in a relationship and he still likes me, and i like him. I don't want a relationship with you, but still want to sleep with you.
alphamale Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 I don't want a relationship with you, but still want to sleep with you. I would agree with that.
Island Girl Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 today he sent me a text saying this: "baby im sry 4 not letting u come n 4 growing apart from u. i didnt realize how much i miss u. i guess i needed time to think. hope u can 4give me, gdnite." Regarding the thread starter post: He wants to sleep with you without the strings. And the above text: "I still want to make sure you're on board with sleeping with me without strings." And your answer tells him you are on board - so although he may have to do some dodging he's right on track. He gets what he wants and you get whatever scraps he wants to offer. Giving him an "atta boy" for a text (that took a minute to type and was completely self serving) is just more proof he can give you crumbs because in your eyes those same crumbs look like a whole cake. You should want more, you should expect more, you should think you deserve more. Now ask yourself why you don't.
Trialbyfire Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 It's no use giving him one message via text and another when you see or talk to him. Do you really want to game? You've got so much time to find someone else. Go out and have some fun. No one needs this uncertainty at this stage in their lives. Good luck.
gonetildecember Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 as someone who was in a similar situation for quite some time. i agree with the above posters. he's stringing you along and making sure you're around at his convenience while he either looks for or is in the works of making a better deal, as bad as that sounds. don't settle for half a deal or justify his bad behaviour. im sure he really does care about you, but when someone really wants to be with you (especially when there is prior relationship history) they make the effort. u may think the text was a grand gesture finally giving u what u want, but it may also be just another trick up his sleeve to make sure he's getting what he wants. if he really does care, try walking away and making him work to win u back- if he really cares and its meant to happen.. ull see some real results.
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 all of that doesnt matter. he knows the deal. look if u knew how old i was.. im a "young teenager." i dont know wut u think he wants but its nothing like sleeping with me. why am i so confident about this? when we were in a relationship i told him never! im a virgin. now, never! he knows that, he does not even ask, we dont get to c each other because of wut happened. i plan on seeing him soon but anyway, he knows i do nothing like that nor in between. i thinik he just wants me to n ot be mad and stay. why doesnt he just go. idk, he still likes me, hes realizing he likes me too much to be a selfish jerk. which hes naver been. idk well see. but neway, guys will be guys. dont gotta deal wit em:)
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 all of that doesnt matter. he knows the deal. look if u knew how old i was.. im a "young teenager." i dont know wut u think he wants but its nothing like sleeping with me. why am i so confident about this? when we were in a relationship i told him never! im a virgin. now, never! he knows that, he does not even ask, we dont get to c each other because of wut happened. i plan on seeing him soon but anyway, he knows i do nothing like that nor in between. i thinik he just wants me to n ot be mad and stay. why doesnt he just go. idk, he still likes me, hes realizing he likes me too much to be a selfish jerk. which hes naver been. idk well see. but neway, guys will be guys. dont gotta deal wit em:)
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 our past relationship only lasted for a less than a mnth and spring break (2 weeks), one date and a few visits. because of wut happened, i will have to tell the whole story its pretty big. some rumor at the school i attend. one of the tops schools, its just a situation that happened that made us not be able to c each other. too hard for him being with a person he never sees. same here but i can hanle it better. plus the rumors, bad. and annoying why dont ppl butt out, damn.
SouthernT Posted May 15, 2007 Posted May 15, 2007 our past relationship only lasted for a less than a mnth and spring break (2 weeks), one date and a few visits. because of wut happened, i will have to tell the whole story its pretty big. some rumor at the school i attend. one of the tops schools, its just a situation that happened that made us not be able to c each other. too hard for him being with a person he never sees. same here but i can hanle it better. plus the rumors, bad. and annoying why dont ppl butt out, damn. This guy sounds MUCH older than you? Is this the "situation" that you are talking about?
Author MissKissNada_Gal Posted May 15, 2007 Author Posted May 15, 2007 hes 15 im 14 he will be 16 soon. i will be 15 soon. im real mature tho. hes in tenth grade. that is part of the situation. yeah but theres more
GregsBad Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 "baby im sry 4 not letting u come n 4 growing apart from u. i didnt realize how much i miss u. i guess i needed time to think. hope u can 4give me, gdnite." now i wont let him off that easy dont get me wrong, but u have to admit, he realized he was doing all this, and i mean, what a nice guy. Try something like this. baby i need a man ... but u r b n a boy if you wont flote my boat, i wont 4giv u, i wil 4get u. 2 many other factors in my life 2 ... wantin wut I have 2 giv 2 u i say - how sad - 2 bad ok - may b i give 1 mor chance 4 u 2 b a man.
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