Lemonsniffer Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I may be a first time poster, that will soon change. I really need advice on this one. Yesterday, May 12. I had the best date of my existence. It was my prom night and I got to take my dream date, A girl that I have had a huge crush on since freshman year. We had a great time at the dance, and a fabulous dinner before with all of our friends. We had many good conversations throughout the night. I also got to take the new car I bought two days before, she thought I was going to take the P O S car I had before, but I surprised her really well. Anyway, after prom we went bowling, then I took her home. We talked about many things the whole time, and I really enjoyed her company. To me she is a very beautiful girl, inside and out, but I haven't told her how I really feel about her. I didn't even try to hold her hand or make a move to kiss her the whole car ride and I'm afraid she might think I don't like her. When It came to the point where I dropped her off at her house I only told her that she was the only girl I wanted to take to prom and that she made the night perfect for me. I walked her to her house, hugged her, and said our goodbyes. She waved at me as I slowly drove off. What I'm wondering is if she liked me would she have tried to hold my hand or what? Also, should I try to call her for any reason either being another date or telling her how I feel about her, especially after that wonderful night?
Tony T Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 First of all, don't even think about telling her how you feel about her right now. That's simply too intense too soon. Girls her age like guys who are a challenge. Wait a few days and call her, talk to her for a while...ten minutes or so...and then ask her if she'd like to go get something to eat and go to a movie one night or whatever you want to ask her to do. Don't get so obsessed with this. The less you care about outcomes, the more favorable they are. If you act around her like she's your whole world it will make her very uncomfortable. Best to be unpredictable. It will drive her wild. This strategy works very well on girls her age. When ladies get older, they like you to be more straightforward. So for now, just be cool. Don't even for a minute let this girl know how crazy you are about her. Tell her you really enjoyed prom night and LEAVE IT THERE! Then talk about something else. And don't ask her out too often. Once or twice a week is good. Don't start hanging out all the time until some time has passed. Some girls her age get bored with guys real fast. Some don't. If you know her history with guys, maybe you can answer that question for yourself.
Author Lemonsniffer Posted May 13, 2007 Author Posted May 13, 2007 That is the exact type of reply I wanted. That answers a whole bunch, and sets my mind at ease. Yup, I could be myself for a while. Thanks a bunch TONY T.
Teddy and Jane Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 You asked if she really liked you, why didn't she try to hold your hand? As a woman, I never make the first move like that, I always wait for the guy. If you do get to have a date with her again, which I really hope you do, try to hold her hand at some point! Then it's clear to her, also, that you like her that way.
kepners Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 not knowing anything about Proms etc, but as a man on dates you have to do most of the running. just the way women like it.
Author Lemonsniffer Posted May 13, 2007 Author Posted May 13, 2007 I really do appreciate all the help on this on folks. Some good pointers from Teddy and Jane and kepners especially. I do have a bit of trouble sensing the right opportunity. Now all I have to do wait a bit, and see if she wants to go out again. Thanks a bunch!
torranceshipman Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Ohhh dude, You are the cutest ever...taking the girl to prom, showing her a great time, and being a real gentleman about it - no busting the moves early or trying to make out with her at the 1st opportunity you get...Total kudos to you and I bet she appreciates it (-:
Shizz Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Don't fret about her not making a move for your hand etc. She may very well be as shy and apprehensive around you as you are around her. Try to read her body language, if she leans towards you, stands closer than the average person, looks at you more, etc. Then she is fairly attracted to you. (Try and find a small excuse to give her a light touch and gage her reaction. If its favourable, hold off a while then try and take her hand.) Good luck.
DanielMadr Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 First of all, don't even think about telling her how you feel about her right now. That's simply too intense too soon. Girls her age like guys who are a challenge. Wait a few days and call her, talk to her for a while...ten minutes or so...and then ask her if she'd like to go get something to eat and go to a movie one night or whatever you want to ask her to do. Don't get so obsessed with this. The less you care about outcomes, the more favorable they are. If you act around her like she's your whole world it will make her very uncomfortable. Best to be unpredictable. It will drive her wild. This strategy works very well on girls her age. When ladies get older, they like you to be more straightforward. So for now, just be cool. Don't even for a minute let this girl know how crazy you are about her. Tell her you really enjoyed prom night and LEAVE IT THERE! Then talk about something else. And don't ask her out too often. Once or twice a week is good. Don't start hanging out all the time until some time has passed. Some girls her age get bored with guys real fast. Some don't. If you know her history with guys, maybe you can answer that question for yourself. Solid Advice. I second that. I especially like the part 'If you act around her like she's your whole world it will make her very uncomfortable.' It should be like that even with older girls. They are more straightforward, horny and eager but when you behave like you advice you cant make any wrong....actually they will rip off your clothes.
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