budd98 Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I have been dating a girl for almost 2.5 years now. Throughout that time we have had our ups and downs, but I really had a down last night. She had to work and I ended up going to the bar with my parents and family. Anyway, she texted me and said "I hope ur having fun at the bar." Then when I told her I was there she flipped out and said we are broken up for good and to take care/best of luck with all I do. Its been a rough week already for us, just because she says she isn't happy. I try to make her happy in every way. I hardly ever go to the bar and I only went last night to try to get out of the house and do something. I really do love this girl, so when she flipped out I drove to her house and tried to pfove I wasn't up to anything. She wouldn't let me in and said she would call the cops if I didn't leave. I know she wouldn't call them though. I just told her through the door that I really loved her and I wanted her to be happy. I then left and went home early. Now she seems to ignore me. She won't respond to my call or text. Is there anything I can do to make mends? I really do want things to work between us.
Tony T Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 You are one of the unfortunate ones to have found a lady whose happiness plug has been pulled. So sorry, but no matter what you say or do this lady will not be happy. Nothing you have done has made her unhappy. She's done an excellent job all by herself. Life is way too short to be involved with someone who is not happy with themselves. Oh, yes...of course...she was really great in the first year or two of the relationship. Yeah, that's when the chemicals are flowing and prevail over all the other stuff that's going on. Now she's herself again and you see her in all her splendor. Isn't it nice that you didn't marry her before now. She's a very miserable person. Stay away from her and don't call her again. Since misery loves company, she'll be baffled because you are groveling and call you to see what's up. Don't respond. There are simply too many wonder ladies who would love you greatly who don't have this kind of issue, one of the worst. People who are unhappy want to take everybody down with them. Absolutely refuse to to. I know you want things to work out between the two of you but just accept the fact that unless your ex gets massive doses of industrial strength psychotherapy and is willing to take responsibility for her happiness, it just won't!
Teddy and Jane Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I wouldn't agree with what Tony has said, it doesn't mean she's psycho or anything. She's unhappy for some reason and if you want it to work, she will have to be open to you about what is bothering her. I think give her some space and don't contact her. I guarantee she will contact you at some point soon. Maybe she really has fallen out of love and this is her way of getting out of the relationship. Maybe she feels that you are not heading toward a commitment (marriage) as a couple and she is upset about spending all that time with you. I don't know but an open and honest talk is in order, unless she was serious about breaking up with you. I think it is good that you told her you love her. Maybe you can work things out if you come to the heart of the problem.
krzr Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 she may just be using this an excuse to end things and try to share some of the guilt with you. it mght be out of the blue for you but she may have been thinking about breaking up for a while now and finally used this as an excuse to do it. regardless of what when why or how you cant have a relationship with someone like that who just turns u off like that in a heartbeat.
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