bluestar Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 i've been dating a guy for over a year now. it seems he's really not paying enough attention to me lately. he knows i'm going out of town in a few days, but wants blew me off to spend time with friends he can see anytime. the time we do spend together, he's preoccupied or distracted or something. the only quality time we really get is in bed. i feel taken for granted, but i hate conflict and don't know how to tell him what's bothering me. he's saying all the right things, but his actions leave me feeling sad sometimes. does anyone know how best to handle this situation?
norajane Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 His actions are telling you all you need to know - he's not that into you anymore. Your relationship has drifted into just sex, no intimacy or affection. You can try talking to him about it, but don't plead with him to pay attention to you - you deserve a guy who willingly does that. Also, don't give him room to argue with you by getting into a discussion about whether he pays attention to you or not. Just tell him you've noticed that the only time you two connect is when having sex, and you don't want to date a guy who doesn't behave as though you are special to him. Tell him you're not feeling so into this relationship anymore because of the lack of affection and attention, so you are considering breaking up. Then ask him what his view is on your relationship at this point.
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