Rock4ever35 Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 We are both in our forties and had been dating for over 3 years. We had a situation were we were on the phone and told him I was running late to come by 15 later. He acted very pissed! Once I got home and he hadnt shown up after 30 minutes. I called because I was worried ...he said he thought I told him to come an hour later. He was very upset which I was not I was concerned why he hadnt shown up. All of a sudden he blows up when I told him I told him 15 minutes not an hour and was not upset at all. He asked why I was being so hateful, which really throw me off. I explain i wasnt being hateful and asked what was wrong, it asks do you want me to come or not. I then asked what's wrong and why he was acting like an A#$. Next thing he told me to forget it and hung up on me. Well he never called back after 5 weeks. Since he hung up, I kinda took that as it's over. I had accepted that it was over and was doing good, for I thought being bent over 15 minutes was nuts. Well he sent me a fund raiser for his daughter, which I knew I should not have responded too!! Well I did. I get a thank you email and I respond and ask how he is doing "great he said". I then responded I had a lot of unanswered questions but I'm dealing with it. You could have been straight up with me but I guess you got your reasons. You know me well enough I'm not one to hold grudges and I'm adult enough to suck it up You're doing great. Good for you. I tend to over analyze things I'm sure I'll get to that point soon myself. He responds "he was shocked at the name calling and can read between the lines I know the love you had for me is gone and I really needed that especially with what I have gone through. I needed your attention and a lot of it but had to compete with everything that was going on in your life. Yeah...I'm doing great and I'm sure you are already there so don't lead me to believe that you are not!!" Well of course I was confused and wanted to tell him I did love him. He told me he bet I would have never called him if he had not sent that fundraiser. Soo..Im explaining myself. Then he unloads all the crazy mess about not bringing him around my family of which I had. Next thing I get its easy to see we could not share a life togather because of your X. I'll always wonder why you hung around for 3 years. Im really confused. I called him felt worse and then sent an email trying to work things out suspecting someone else and get..Stop this nonsense, I am tired of the BS. So my question is why would he make such out landish comments. I told him he was tryign to blame me to justify his decision. I feel physically sick had to go to therapy twice to deal with this. I should have never made any contact. Why is this whole situation really hitting me hard? He has had me on this emotional roller coaster for 3 years. Shouldnt feel relived. Why did he contact me to rip me to shreads? Why would he say all this "between the lines"
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