pricillia Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 MM lie that is what they do... with the exception of maybe a handfull in the whole world... let's get it straight people... 1. They lie... 2. They cheat.... hell they lie so they can cheat.... and then they do it over and over and over again... don't be surprised if your MM does this to you. it is part of MM's MO... it is what he does he can't really help it if he wants to keep doing what he is doing with all of us. So do not be shocked or surprised or hurt or loose any of your self esteem because you think for one moment that his lies have anything to do with you, because they are a weakness within him. How else can they keep this going on if not to look you in the face and lie... ha it is easier for them, then pretty soon they start to believe it.... and they think that you believe it too... so instead of just being a OW you become an actress too... where is my oscar.... The whole thing is BS all wraped up in a pretty little love package with bows and pretty stuff but then you open it up and there is nothing there but emptiness.. __________________ There is always someone out there that is better at you at something!
outofdarkness Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 MM lie that is what they do... with the exception of maybe a handfull in the whole world... let's get it straight people... 1. They lie... 2. They cheat.... hell they lie so they can cheat.... and then they do it over and over and over again... don't be surprised if your MM does this to you. it is part of MM's MO... it is what he does he can't really help it if he wants to keep doing what he is doing with all of us. So do not be shocked or surprised or hurt or loose any of your self esteem because you think for one moment that his lies have anything to do with you, because they are a weakness within him. How else can they keep this going on if not to look you in the face and lie... ha it is easier for them, then pretty soon they start to believe it.... and they think that you believe it too... so instead of just being a OW you become an actress too... where is my oscar.... The whole thing is BS all wraped up in a pretty little love package with bows and pretty stuff but then you open it up and there is nothing there but emptiness.. __________________ There is always someone out there that is better at you at something! I just posted on the other thread about how much I love this post and how very true it is? Well said...
IfWishesWereHorses Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 Such is the nature of the beast! Pricillia, it hurts to find out something that you believed in was more of an illusion than reality. You have answered the 64,000 question though. The answer to all of the WHY's is that it is about him. Its what fills him up, and the fact that it brings other's down is just an unfortunate by product of his selfishness. You start to wonder how anyone can hold in esteem someone who uses others for their own happiness. I pitty these men because they know nothing of REAL LIFE. Everyday is an illusion of their making. Everyone is not like that though, there are a lot of real people out there. Seek them out, ground yourself in your own reality and not someone elses.
torranceshipman Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 Good post! To add to it...MM who have A's are generally spineless cowards with no backbone, integrity or character, and because they know they couldn't have you by being themselves (you wouldn't be impressed)...that's why they have to lie so extensively, throw the L word around, sneak around behind people's backs, and generally make promises like there's no tomorrow to even have a shot with you...so - for them, they lie and ...mission accomplished - that wins you over for a bit...but then you get to know them and realise they are total liars....then you leave them, as you see what a loser they are. Unless of course your self esteem has been so damaged that you stay, which would be horrible as then the whole sorry thing might be dragged out for a loooong time, and you'll lose years of your very valuable life! And due to the aforementioned lack of character, dont expect a MM to end the A either - to aviod dragging it out YOU have to step up and end it - that's because they don't have the balls to actually take decisive action of any kind...they just like to 'talk' about it (behind other people's backs of course). Really quite sad, and seriously - I'd imagine if I was a MM and had an A and was too pathetic to leave/decide anything/lie to save my own ass/act like a nasty person to get my own selfish sleazy little needs met/etc...it'd be a pretty emasculating experience for me.
Author pricillia Posted May 13, 2007 Author Posted May 13, 2007 Thanks you guys.... TS and being nasty to get his way... ha.. does he ever!!! I say to him um, how about being nice for once... I just get a blank stare! Out of Darkness.. thanks for the positive reply... If wishes... so true so true.
Author pricillia Posted May 18, 2007 Author Posted May 18, 2007 disclaimer... This thread is based soley on my perspective and my experience with my MM now... because he lied to me from the beginning, I have a hard time believeing anything that he says... Plus the lies of omission are there... some I know about and some I don't Does he love me that is the million dollar question... Does MM have a heart... even though he lies... how can he lie and feel alright with it... Is there guilt. Do I love him enough to contunue to be in this type of relationship knowing that I am loving someone that is most likely loved by another.. I have seen the way he treats her (or heard) I believe that he just puts up with her but hmmmm am I next I am on a slipery slope... Some of the MM out there that are doing this are good men... Is mine??? Is yours???
PoshPrincess Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Some of the MM out there that are doing this are good men... Is mine??? Is yours??? Now, THAT is the $64,000 question! One that we will NEVER know the answer to. Only the MM themselves truly know. If only we knew whether the stuff they fed us was B/S, whether it was true, or whether they just believed it themselves at the time for whatever reasons. THEN maybe half of us wouldn't be in the mess we were in. I think my exMM was basically a good person, but ended up getting himself into something that he wasn't able to deal with. I do think he totally believed that he was going to leave and be with me but when the going got tough, the tough(?) got going.............. I DO agree that the majority of them are cowards though. They're cowards if they cheat (because they don't have the balls to tell their Ws that they're unhappy), and cowards if they are telling their OW that they love them and want to leave but not being able to go through with it. They just want an easy life IMO! They all make me mad!!!!!
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