Kengne Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 Hey guys! I know some of y'all are in pain. Just a quick update from a 'survivor'. To let you know the pain WILL and DOES fade, and you WILL go on to find smo else. Case in point... came here in Mar 05 after my ex of 4 yrs cheated (see my previous posts/threads for complete history). Left him. Met another dude in May 05, we dated on/off for a year til finally in Jul 06 we called it quits. He tried to reconcile, FOR A THIRD TIME, in Sep/Oct 06. I wasn't having it. Left him. A series of bad dates ... fast forward to NOW and I have a new bf . Still very early times but the point remains that I AM HERE - fully healed from my past heartaches, moved on with my life and just HAPPY (with or w/o new guy). So please believe even though it may "SEEM" like the world has ended - it hasn't. Your new life has just begun and you WILL find love & happyness again. Keep smilin! K.
chickee Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 thank you. this post is reassuring. what did you do to cope? what worked, what didn't/
Author Kengne Posted May 15, 2007 Author Posted May 15, 2007 thank you. this post is reassuring. what did you do to cope? what worked, what didn't/ I went into NC, straight away. I 'told' him we could be friends - but I didn't call, and whenever he called I either ignored him or cut the call short after 5 mins. I went out - ALOT - with friends. I did alot of posting on this forum. When we broke up the 2nd time, I was already smarter from the first breakup so I bounced back even quicker. Didn't shed a tear, felt bad for maybe a day or so then kept it stepping. I actually met smo else who I liked, but that never panned out for other reasons. I didn't talk to my ex the 2nd time around for 1.5 months. At which point he came back, wanting a THIRD CHANCE! (the 2nd breakup was sort of a mutual decn b/t us but I guess he had doubts about it:rolleyes:).. claiming he thinks he could try harder, there were mistakes he made that he wants to fix BLAH BLAH BLAH. Thank heavens, 1.5 months of NC had given me the space needed to objectively evaluate our relship and come to realize it was no longer what I wanted. So for the next 2 months he tried to woo me back but I wasn't having it. Then I spent the next 6 months or so just dating around, nothing serious until I met my current bf about 2 months ago and things just CLICKED! I'm soooo glad I didn't get back wit my ex, or any new person, out of lonliness. I learned to stand on my own 2 feet, I was PERFECTLY FINE being single. So this goes to show there is life and lust after heartbreak! K. 1
LakesideDream Posted May 15, 2007 Posted May 15, 2007 Have you tried arm stetching excercises? If you are dedicated, work at it real hard, spend the time, you may be rewarded by being able to pat your "ownself" on the back. Nice you've done so well. Probably isn't the venue to advertise it though.
Lizzie60 Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 So please believe even though it may "SEEM" like the world has ended - it hasn't. Your new life has just begun and you WILL find love & happyness again. This is soo true.. and even if your new life begins without a new love you still can find happiness. My point... I don't need to be 'in love' with someone to be happy. I am single and loving every second of my life.
Author Kengne Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Have you tried arm stetching excercises? If you are dedicated, work at it real hard, spend the time, you may be rewarded by being able to pat your "ownself" on the back. Nice you've done so well. Probably isn't the venue to advertise it though. OKkkk seems like smo is a lil bitter/angry. I'm not tryna 'advertise' a damng thing, just lettin other people know that HEY - I have been where you are at now! I WAS IN THIS VERY SAME FORUM! and guess what? the hurt DOES go away! I was trying to spread a positive, reassuring vibe that there IS LIFE and LOVE after heartbreak. If you wanna be all negative and only read depressing threads, good for you! but to others who would like hope, this was for them. K. *two fangaz
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