hrtbroken99 Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I am thinking about writing a letter to my ex. We have been broken up for 6 months now. The last 6 months I continued with NC as hard as it was. 2wks ago he did contact me lesft a msg. I just sent a brief email and said i am doing well...hope all is well with you. I also did call him but left a msg. Since then I have made NC and have no desire to call him. Question: I was thinking of sending him a email and stating that this would be the last contact he would ever have from me in this lifetime. I want to send an email expressing what an impact he had on me. I dont know if this is the right thing to do or not? He really hurt me and made racist comments to me about being a minority and how I should know how to work, would check out other women and talk about them to me, made comments about my body etc...I feel like by sending the email it will giveme the complete peace of mind closure since I never expressed to him how I felt. anyway, I just want some input if this is a bad idea to do? I can just continue with me NC and not respond or do any email or I can send this email and then continue with my NC any advice:o
quankanne Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 writing that letter would be very cathartic, putting your mind to rest as you get all these things off your chest. Just pour your heart out, and don't leave anything back. when you're done, don't send it, just rip the thing up. He doesn't necessarily need to receive this letter, but it allows you to get those feelings out in the open without breaching no contact ...
randuff Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 Writing this down is good for you to let all of your emotions out but DO NOT send it. If he acted like a jerk he doesn't deserve to know "why." Just move on and never look back! Great quote Quan, love that movie..... As you wiiiiiiiiiiiiiishhhhhhhhhh.
Trialbyfire Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I'm evil so I'll tell you what I would do. If he returns your call, let the call go to voicemail. Email him telling him you will be sending him a response full of all the things you wanted to say to him over the last six months. Write the email but never send it. If he contacts you again, ignore all calls or correspondence. Leave him wondering what he missed....
CaliGuy Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 writing that letter would be very cathartic, putting your mind to rest as you get all these things off your chest. Just pour your heart out, and don't leave anything back. when you're done, don't send it, just rip the thing up. He doesn't necessarily need to receive this letter, but it allows you to get those feelings out in the open without breaching no contact ... Agreed. Write the letter, get it out of your system, sleep on it for a few days then rip it up. Closure is what you make of it. Telling him off in a letter will not matter in the long run. Telling him no more contact doesn't mean anything. Words mean nothing. Actions mean everything.
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