rose45 Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 My b/f is easily able to talk to people he does not know. Like at restaurants with servers etc etc..it doesnt happen all the time but for example the other night we went to eat with one of his friends. It was really busy but they were going to seat us. The hostess--who was cute-- grabbed the menus but forgot the fork set so my b/f just took it from the basket and began following and she turned realizing what she forgot and he said he had it and she said thanks but then my b.f says but we will just have to split the tip. And she says she oh she doesnt get a tip for being a hostess and then my b.f says really? bastards!. and said something else. To me---is this being too nice? and not flirting but itsnt it like a step lower than flirting and still not really appropriate to do? Why cant he just say ok thanks for setting us up and thats it. Of course i let it go. Am i being too insecure? Should this roll off my back? Would it bother anyone else?
corazoncito Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 My BF is like yours in that he is very outgoing and often makes jokes or small talk with strangers. I could totally picture him having the exact same exchange with the hostess that yours had. And for me, it really doesn't bother me. I actually think it's cute (he sometimes get such a kick out of making the silliest jokes, even when the other person looks at him funny. It's like he can't help himself. What always makes me laugh to myself is that I get this instant mental picture of him as an 80 year-old man still making the exact same jokes and cracking himself up just as much as he does today. To me it's cute. Maybe I'm just really weird ). It's a part of his personality and I let it roll off my back. Now, if he ignored me for the rest of the dinner and was checking out the hostess, making jokes with her, and went back to talk to her after the dinner, I'd be PO'd. But if it was just a spontaneous moment, like you described, and he gave you and his friend his full attention throughout the dinner itself, I wouldn't worry about his brief exchange with the hostess. It sounds like the hostess was a little stressed and distracted since the restaurant was busy and she forgot the silverware. I think your BF was just trying to be nice and lighten the moment for her.
kittensmittens Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I have to agree completely w/ everything that corazoncito said. My bf is exactly the same too and I can totally picture him in the situation you described. I tend to be reserved and serious (too much so, I think) and he tends to be goofy and outgoing. I also tend to be insecure, so for me it does sometimes make me a little uncomfortable (and difficult to relate) when he interacts in this way w/ other girls. But he is this way with evvvvveryone. Whenever I feel uncomfortable I just imagine a guy in the place of whatever sales clerk or waitress or whoever he's talking to. If I can picture him saying and doing the same things (which I always can) then it's not a problem. It's just who is and my own insecurities are warping my view of such a minor exchange. Then I relax and realize how cute it really is. Now if he's ignoring you and practically breaking his neck everytime her butt goes by.....yes, I'd be worried. That doesn't seem to be the case though, so I'd just relax.
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