Chamari Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I seem to think about things too much--get a thought in my head and then keep thinking about it, even if I know that it's not true/nothing I can change/etc. Two things hit me about this--one, I have a hard time taking what people say at face value. Doesn't matter how well I know them, or how honest I think they're being, even if I KNOW that they're being honest, I just can't quite feel it. Sorry if I'm not making much sense. It's just really been bugging me lately. I was in a relationship with a guy that was very honest and open with me--but, I always felt like there was something he wasn't saying, like there had to be more involved than what he was telling me. It was frustrating for me and him that I couldn't simply accept what he had to say. Has anyone experienced this? And if so, any ideas for how to get over this/stop myself from doing this? The other thing that occured to me is that the faster my life gets going, the more I see things that could go wrong. Doesn't matter how small the chance is, I can practically see all the possibilities for disaster and I react accordingly. I can't ride a bike fast because I start to panic at all the different ways I could crash. Again, something that I'd like to change about myself if I just knew where to start.
IpAncA Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 Why do you analyze everything and what people say? Just wondering because I do that too. Always have and when you find a way to stop, let me know. I don't take it to the extreme but it's enough to sometimes drive me nuts. Actually I'm a life analyzer.
Author Chamari Posted May 12, 2007 Author Posted May 12, 2007 I have no idea why. I just do. And it irritates the heck out of me.
IpAncA Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 Same here. I just started one day and haven't stopped. I can't even remember when I began.
T&Me1117 Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I do the same thing. I will wake up in the night thinking about things and pondering about what I could have done in order to produce a different outcome when it really doesn't matter. I do it with the same thing until something else comes along to replace it. You might want to just watch it, if it gets worse you might want to check with your doctor about obssesive compulsive disorder.
Author Chamari Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 Since I've been thinking about this for the last few days, I think I might have found a little bit of a solution for me. It's one of those incredibly simple things that are so hard to do: don't look down. Okay, so this actually relates back to my childhood riding lessons. I did a fair amount of jumping and one of the things that was repeated over and over is that you can NOT look at the jump, or even worry about it or else your horse probably won't go over the jump. It was true. Every time I looked down at the jump or was nervous about it my horse would stop, or swerve or whatever. So, I learned to look beyond the jump to where I wanted to go, while remaining aware of where the jump was and what I'd need to do to make things work. Since that was drilled into my head pretty well, it just occured to me that that's what I need to do with the rest of my life. As long as I remember Don't Look Down, I'll be able to put things back in perspective. At least, that's my hope. It worked on the Bicyle--still working on applying it to the rest of my life.
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