Guest Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I want to be done! He said they haven't had sex in years. I found out today that is not true from a mutual friend I have of MM's W. She said they had been trying to get pregnant! I am so hurt and confused right now. I just want my obsession with him to stop. I don't want to feel this way anymore.
whichwayisup Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 If you really want it to end, break up with him and tell him that you no longer want to be the OW in his life. Now you know the truth, they're trying to make a baby...He isn't going to leave his wife. Whatever negative stuff he may have told you about his wife probably isn't true. Go read some threads in this section and you'll see that MM lie, so that the OW sticks around. Get yourself some therapy if you can't end the affair alone. You are in control of your life and can make the right choice for you. Sure it will hurt, but only in the short term...If you stay in his life, you'll only be creating more pain for yourself. Good luck and stay strong!
mopar crazy Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 This doesn't surprise me. Most MM tell their OW they aren't having sex w/ the W but they actually are. Agreeing w/ WWIU again!
Miss_Bee Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I want to be done! He said they haven't had sex in years. I found out today that is not true from a mutual friend I have of MM's W. She said they had been trying to get pregnant! I am so hurt and confused right now. I just want my obsession with him to stop. I don't want to feel this way anymore. I'm sorry to be rude.... but what did you expect??? He's married, and his whole life has been a lie ever since he started cheating on his wife.. You should cut all contact with him and take some time to heal and get over him. Eventually you'll find a man that doesn't belong to someone else and you will be able to have a real relationship.
IpAncA Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I'm sorry to be rude.... but what did you expect??? I was thinking the same thing. Guess MM who borrows someone else is honest.
Miss_Bee Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I was thinking the same thing. Guess MM who borrows someone else is honest. Yeah, well i guess that people get sucked in and before they know it they are in over their heads... People can be charmers and lead people to believe almost anything.. But seriously... I would NEVER EVER see a married man. AND if i ever did... I surely wouldn't believe any words that were coming from his mouth. I don't know.. I shouldn't be in this section of this forum....
pricillia Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 MM lie that is what they do... with the exception of maybe a handfull in the whole world... let's get it straight people... 1. They lie... 2. They cheat.... hell they lie so they can cheat.... and then they do it over and over and over again... don't be surprised if your MM does this to you. it is part of MM's MO... it is what he does he can't really help it if he wants to keep doing what he is doing with all of us. So do not be shocked or surprised or hurt or loose any of your self esteem because you think for one moment that his lies have anything to do with you, because they are a weakness within him. How else can they keep this going on if not to look you in the face and lie... ha it is easier for them, then pretty soon they start to believe it.... and they think that you believe it too... so instead of just being a OW you become an actress too... where is my oscar.... The whole thing is BS all wraped up in a pretty little love package with bows and pretty stuff but then you open it up and there is nothing there but emptiness..
outofdarkness Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 MM lie that is what they do... with the exception of maybe a handfull in the whole world... let's get it straight people... 1. They lie... 2. They cheat.... hell they lie so they can cheat.... and then they do it over and over and over again... don't be surprised if your MM does this to you. it is part of MM's MO... it is what he does he can't really help it if he wants to keep doing what he is doing with all of us. So do not be shocked or surprised or hurt or loose any of your self esteem because you think for one moment that his lies have anything to do with you, because they are a weakness within him. How else can they keep this going on if not to look you in the face and lie... ha it is easier for them, then pretty soon they start to believe it.... and they think that you believe it too... so instead of just being a OW you become an actress too... where is my oscar.... The whole thing is BS all wraped up in a pretty little love package with bows and pretty stuff but then you open it up and there is nothing there but emptiness.. I love this post!!! It is so true! Yes, they lie! The will say anything that the feel will keep the A going and the W happy..It's a rare exception when you find an MM who does lie to his OW..but then again, he's already lying to his W..It's sort of obvious when you find out he's M that he's a liar..Some OW aren't told the MM is married, some are told and they don't care, and some are kept "in limbo" for long periods of time while the MM gets his separation/divorce squared away... It's really sad for all involved..I do feel sort of angry when I read that an OW on here actually knows he's M when she enters into the A, but it does happen and it always will. I don't blame you for being upset...Most MM's do tell their OW how terrible things are at home, including the lack of sex from the W..Sometimes it's true, but I think this is the exception rather then the rule..I'm NOT trying to condone A's or lying but have you considered that mabey she's trying to get pregnant to hold onto him? Most W have some idea, even if it's not on a conscience level, that their H is seeing someone. She may feel totally desperate to hold onto him..Just a thought...Either way, it's a mess..I feel for you..
hardcase Posted May 13, 2007 Posted May 13, 2007 I want to be done! He said they haven't had sex in years. I found out today that is not true from a mutual friend I have of MM's W. She said they had been trying to get pregnant! I am so hurt and confused right now. I just want my obsession with him to stop. I don't want to feel this way anymore. Then just keep telling yourself he is a liar...maybe that will make it easier for you to make the break. But really..he's cheating on his wife...what more did you need to know he is a liar?
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