I Met A Girl!!

[johan]

I had to interview a guy, and the girl from the company from which he's contracting wanted to sit in on the interview. I was shocked when I saw her, because she was a babe!! So she sat through this interview while the guy and I talked about systems and process and stuff, and she laughed at my jokes. And she smiled a lot and I had a hard time interviewing the guy and not her. But I kept it professional, I swear.

 

She was a better version of my ex. Body the same, personality more open.

 

So I sent an email and told her thanks and that we'd like to interview other people besides him. And I was sorry that we had to meet at the office and not somewhere else. She wrote back, all business, and said maybe we could meet for lunch or coffee or something.

 

I wrote back "sure, I can meet today if you want, or else early next week". She wrote back and said not today or next week, how about the week after. I was completely overwhelmed by her enthusiasm and I think I misread her signals altogether.

 

Anyway, I'm going to figure out a way to fit a fake vagina onto my new car and gain some satisfaction there, because that's the best I have right now.

[Touche]

I'm really excited for you, Johan. She sure sounds better than that dead bump- on- a- log of a date that you last told us about. Let us know how it goes. Hope you can keep it together until then.

 

Just look in the mirror every day and say this:

 

"I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me! ..."

 

[johan]

Well, I might not have made this clear, but she wasn't interested. Maybe you didn't read my whole post. Anyway, thanks for the response. I'm still looking at the accessories I can get for that car and I don't see that particular one in the catalog. Still looking though!

[Touche]

Well, I might not have made this clear, but she wasn't interested. Maybe you didn't read my whole post. Anyway, thanks for the response. I'm still looking at the accessories I can get for that car and I don't see that particular one in the catalog. Still looking though!

 

You're crazy. That's not at all the way I read it.

 

I don't understand how you can say she was "all business" but in the next breath you say that she suggested you meet for lunch or coffee? Am I really missing something here or are YOU? She didn't have to suggest you meet out ANYWHERE but in the office.

 

Sheesh...go read those affirmations again, will you?

[Trialbyfire]

While I can see a demand for aftermarket vaginas, I don't ever recall seeing one. I'm guessing that would be considered an interior modification so you might want to try Pep Boys Automotive or another shop of that calibre...

 

Sorry to see that you didn't make the quick connection that you felt. Who knows. She might be interested but wants to take it a little more slowly due to it being a business relationship. Do lunch with her and charm her a little more.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

Well well well!!! Who knew??

 

I admit I am a bit jealous.

 

I can't even PM you, buddy. Your inbox is full...all the women on LS sending you PMs left, right and center, I'm sure..LOL.

[burning 4 revenge]

Anyway, I'm going to figure out a way to fit a fake vagina onto my new car and gain some satisfaction there, because that's the best I have right now.

I feel your pain man. I've been dating my computer for the past year. Now even she's starting to reject me.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

You're crazy. That's not at all the way I read it.

 

I don't understand how you can say she was "all business" but in the next breath you say that she suggested you meet for lunch or coffee? Am I really missing something here or are YOU? She didn't have to suggest you meet out ANYWHERE but in the office.

Sheesh...go read those affirmations again, will you?

 

I agree with Touche completely. She was playing it a bit safe, but she is definitely open to the idea of going out.

 

If you want to take it any further, you have to do something, and not just sit and make assumptions and counter-assumptions.

 

Your post says you would love to get to know her better. And she wouldn't have suggested lunch or coffee if she wouldn't have felt the same way.

 

It's up to you, really.

[Storyrider]

I'm confused. I'm on three hours of sleep; maybe that's it. Did you make a date with her or not?

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

OK, this is what I think you should do, if you want to do something about it:

 

You could send her an email and ask her to drop you a line when she's available. Give her a date range, though - something like "let me know when you're available between Tuesday and Friday". That way, you'll get a clearer picture.

[Touche]

Thanks guys! And here I thought for a minute that I was the crazy one.

 

See, Johan, your whole world is skewed right now. You're filtering reality through a very negative and black light.

 

And then you insulted me in a very snide way and asked if I read your whole post. Have YOU read your whole post? Read it again.

 

And for the millionth time..stop being your own worst enemy, will you?

[Touche]

OK, this is what I think you should do, if you want to do something about it:

 

You could send her an email and ask her to drop you a line when she's available. Give her a date range, though - something like "let me know when you're available between Tuesday and Friday". That way, you'll get a clearer picture.

 

Yes, but he should wait until it's closer to the week that she said she was available.

 

I mean, really Johan. Maybe she really IS that busy you know? Why does it have to be only about you necessarily?

 

I think that it's just easier for you to pick on anything and say "Well that proves she's not interested. She didn't call me back right away." Or it could be that she didn't agree to meet you at some pre-conceived appointed time frame that you have set in your mind. Or her tone of voice wasn't quite right. She didn't laugh at every single joke you made. She had a disinterested look on her face. And on and on and on...

 

This attitude then divests you of any and all responsibility for your failure to get a date. Or for the date to succeed (if you get one.) You don't really want or feel that you deserve to have it go your way. If you did, you wouldn't have this attitude.

 

Why is it that a few of us didn't see what you thought was obvous? The fact that she wasn't really interested and had the wrong level of enthusiasm according to your criteria. Why didn't we see that? Why did we in fact see the opposite here. The fact that she has displayed some interest. Why didn't you see that.

 

I've convinced that this is part of your problem.

 

So go ahead and insult me some more now. I was only trying to help.

 

Screw it.

[whichwayisup]

And I was sorry that we had to meet at the office and not somewhere else. She wrote back, all business, and said maybe we could meet for lunch or coffee or something.

 

IF she wasn't interested in you at all, why did she ask to meet you for a coffee or lunch? Think about that for a second...Women who are NOT interested in a man, do NOT make that offer.

[Touche]

IF she wasn't interested in you at all, why did she ask to meet you for a coffee or lunch? Think about that for a second...Women who are NOT interested in a man, do NOT make that offer.

 

Exactly! Thanks for reiterating my point. I hope Johan can really see and understand that.

[whichwayisup]

Well, I might not have made this clear, but she wasn't interested. Maybe you didn't read my whole post.

 

Maybe you need to read your post again. And then re-read my post, and touche's post.

 

It is possible that she didn't want to appear too anxious to meet up with you, you really don't know what is going on in her life - And, in all honesty, you can't get a feel of where she is coming from through an email. Again, if she wasn't interested in you, she wouldn't have offered up going out for coffee or going for lunch.

Ask yourself this, if you weren't interested in a woman and she wrote you, would you ask her through an email for coffee or go for lunch??? My guess is no...So, think of it like that.

 

Please, trust me on this one.

 

Keep intouch with her through email, then next week set up a time/date for you two to get together. Take the chance!

[alphamale]

hahahaha...

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

hahahaha...

 

Let me in on the joke, Alphie. I'm in the mood for funnies tonight

[johan]

You guys obviously know nothing about women. A woman who is interested isn't going to say "sure let's get together for coffee or lunch or something... how is a week and a half from now?" She would say "ok, maybe Monday?" Or she would say "why not coffee in the morning at your place?"

 

I think she's an account manager whose job it is to be friendly with clients. She'll insist on paying, and then the only remaining evidence of the happiest hour of my entire life will be an expense form submitted to her manager right after she returns to the office and calls her true love to remind him she's panty-free just like he likes.

[This_Too_Shall_Pass]

You guys obviously know nothing about women. A woman who is interested isn't going to say "sure let's get together for coffee or lunch or something... how is a week and a half from now?" She would say "ok, maybe Monday?" Or she would say "why not coffee in the morning at your place?"

 

Ok then. You're right, maybe we don't know much about women. At least I don't.

 

Only, she might not have said "maybe monday".....and definitely not suggested coffee in the morning at your place. Not a lot of women are that, well, fast.

 

 

I think she's an account manager whose job it is to be friendly with clients. She'll insist on paying, and then the only remaining evidence of the happiest hour of my entire life will be an expense form submitted to her manager right after she returns to the office and calls her true love to remind him she's panty-free just like he likes.

 

Are you serious? That would be the happiest hour of your entire life?

 

I'd think there are plenty of ways to have a perfectly happy time besides that. But then, that's just me.

 

All right, I won't make any more smart comments.

 

It depends on you, whether you feel inclined enough to send her an email and ask her out in the week that she's available. If not, then forget it.

Pardon my superficiality, but there are plenty of fish in the sea.

[Green]

whatever johan your throwing in the towel to early

[johan]

You're right. I know what my real problem is, but I never fix it for some reason.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

 

I don't think think there is anything wrong with this picture, Johan. To be honest, there is one minor problem: You.

 

I was shocked when I saw her, because she was a babe!!

 

This is all I needed to read. Think about this statement. At first, when you saw her, you thought to yourself "She's a babe!". Then the gears started rolling, and before you knew it your brain started connecting via blue-tooth with your past experiences, desires, and Mr. Willy's throbbing mind.

 

The thought turned into an automatic system of gimme-gimme-ya-ya. You didn't pull back at all.

 

From a woman's point of view, I can tell you one thing: She is interested. You have a chance. But it won't come true with that attitude of yours.

 

You need to contain your emotions and sloooow down for women. Plus, she may have just exited an awful relationship and perhaps she saw your eagerness come through the entire time at the office. But, what she did was perfectly sensible.

 

You either play it mellow, take it slow and steady at her pace or completely bail out. Your call.

 

Sand&Water

[lonelybird]

johan, you are a wonderful man:love:

[Touche]

You guys obviously know nothing about women. A woman who is interested isn't going to say "sure let's get together for coffee or lunch or something... how is a week and a half from now?" She would say "ok, maybe Monday?" Or she would say "why not coffee in the morning at your place?"

 

I think she's an account manager whose job it is to be friendly with clients. She'll insist on paying, and then the only remaining evidence of the happiest hour of my entire life will be an expense form submitted to her manager right after she returns to the office and calls her true love to remind him she's panty-free just like he likes.

 

You're completely insane. What do you mean we know nothing about women? Some of us ARE women. I've done exactly what this woman did. Sometimes by design (playing the hard-to-get game) and sometimes because I thought I wasn't really interested.

 

With my H, it was the latter. I've told you this story a thousand times. When I met my H, I wouldn't even give him my number. He gave me his card. I didn't give him my number because I felt it was too soon to date being that I was so newly separated (only three days before.) It was a week later, after I had kind of forgotten about him that I found his card in my purse, and thought "Hell, why not call him?"

 

He told me later that I seemed totally disinterested that first night and he never thought he'd hear from me again. He admitted he even tried to track me down through my sister, who I had mentioned owned a business in the town that we lived in.

 

I agree with KMT, you're giving up too early. Perhaps you're right about how this will go. Perhaps she was only being nice because you are a client. But perhaps it's you who doesn't know women very well. Perhaps you're wrong. Maybe it will go your way this time.

 

But you don't really want that. You don't really think you deserve that.

 

I'm wasting my time here....

[whichwayisup]

I know what my real problem is, but I never fix it for some reason.

Why not? Do you want to have that problem, whatever it is, for the rest of your life? J, don't let your fears rule your life. Trust me on that one!!

 

If you feel like sharing, can you expand on what you mean?