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My girlfriend just found a promise ring I kept from my past relationship with an ex of two years. She was pissed because my new girlfriend and I were about to get rings for fun, but now she says she doesn't want to (which is fine by me -- it's her idea).

 

Regardless, she was pissed that I still kept it because, according to her, it makes it look like I am not fully over her or that I still have feelings for her, which is totally untrue. I keep it for memory and for history -- but to my girlfriend, "I should not be thinking about her anyway," but in my opinion it's always good to still REMEMBER the past. I don't know how else to put it. I wore that ring for a long time and it feels weird to throw away something I spent so much time wearing. What do you guys think?

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Yeah I can see how that looks bad.

 

I kept a purple bufferfly necklace charm and I just say I got it from Clairs. I didn't but I have this thing about keeping certain things that not necessary means anything but I like it. It's pretty. I would have kept it no matter who gave it to me.

 

It wouldn't look good if I wore it out and hold my H it was from an ex. He probably wouldn't like it. Actually I know he wouldn't. I don't wear it but I'm not throwing it away. I keep it with my other charms. :)

 

Have you explained your reason for keeping it?

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My girlfriend just found a promise ring I kept from my past relationship with an ex of two years. She was pissed because my new girlfriend and I were about to get rings for fun, but now she says she doesn't want to (which is fine by me -- it's her idea).

 

Regardless, she was pissed that I still kept it because, according to her, it makes it look like I am not fully over her or that I still have feelings for her, which is totally untrue. I keep it for memory and for history -- but to my girlfriend, "I should not be thinking about her anyway," but in my opinion it's always good to still REMEMBER the past. I don't know how else to put it. I wore that ring for a long time and it feels weird to throw away something I spent so much time wearing. What do you guys think?

Are you sure you're not over your exgirlfriend? I say that because of the way you say "which is fine by me" about the rings. why is it you hang on to a ring of an exgirlfriend but are ambivalent about having such a promise ring with your own girlfriend? Are you sure your girlfriend may be picking up vibes which are there? It just seems like you are totally ambivalent about your current girlfriend.

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