dierks Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 My ex gf and I were together 2 years (Read other post). She has been married nad I haven't. We talked about getting married and everything. Then she threw it in reverse. Said she was smothered and pulled out of the relationship. She wants to be alone for herself right now. I sort of put it back on her. Then went NC. She calls and leaves messages that she loves me and is in love with me and istn't doing this to hurt me. She needs to live for herself right now. Blah Blah Blah. She just wants a relationship to b 100% before she gets married again. My question is why she is calling at all and calling to explain herself?
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 My question is why she is calling at all and calling to explain herself? Because she wants to keep you on the back burner just in case she loses interest in the current guy she's banging.
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Because she wants to keep you on the back burner just in case she loses interest in the current guy she's banging. That is so messed up. Why do guys assume that because a woman doesn't want them means she wants someone else? She may just need to clear her head. They are in marriage thinking. And she already has one that failed behind her. I understand her taking her time to sort things out before taking the plunge again. Definitely.
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 That is so messed up. Why do guys assume that because a woman doesn't want them means she wants someone else? Because 9 times out of 10 that's the case.
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Because she wants to keep you on the back burner just in case she loses interest in the current guy she's banging. Orrrrr in case she doesn't find anyone better TO bang.
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Because 9 times out of 10 that's the case. Of course. I have always been the exception and not the rule.
jcster Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 This frightens me, but I think tanbark is right. I sounds like she's interested in someone else.
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I can try to see it from her side. She already made a bad choice of a partner once. But she should let you go and not keep you hanging on. That's not fair to do. You should have time too. She's being selfish like that. And she won't get a clear view of life without you unless she is living her life without you. She keeps you on a leash. I wouldn't talk to her anymore for now. I would completely be gone from her life. And start living your life for you. Don't take her calls anymore. If she has something really important to say, like how she truly feels, she'll come find you. Until then, let her go.
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 This frightens me, but I think tanbark is right. Don't be frightened, baby.
Author dierks Posted May 16, 2007 Author Posted May 16, 2007 My ex has called my sister and talked to her about it. Didn't say she was finished and told my sister she was still crazy about me. Then sunday she calls and leaves a message with and attitude that said I thought about it, glad u didn't answer the phone, don't call me back, then yesterday she text saying she made 2A's a B and a C. I haven't responded in anyway. But what is up?
Woggle Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 She is just confused and will make you confused with her. Tell her to leave you alone until she is ready to put 100% into it.
DanielMadr Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 Of course. I have always been the exception and not the rule. So you eject from a relationship with a guy you love to think about if the relationship is 100%? I doubt it. This girl just doesnt love him enough or she made a stunt. In either way, ditch her.
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 16, 2007 Posted May 16, 2007 My ex has called my sister and talked to her about it. Didn't say she was finished and told my sister she was still crazy about me. Then sunday she calls and leaves a message with and attitude that said I thought about it, glad u didn't answer the phone, don't call me back, then yesterday she text saying she made 2A's a B and a C. I haven't responded in anyway. But what is up? That's just f*cked up, I can't help ya there. But it's understandable that she maybe got a little overwhelmed and needed some space and time to think about how she feels about everything. Give her some time since she is so all over the place. Then sit down and talk it over.
Author dierks Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 Ok my ex contacted me and was talking that she got into it with a girl who had caused problems in our relationship in the past. (I never messed with her, I thought we were just friends, she just caused problems out of jealousy) I told her to forget about all that and move forward and maybe she could let the past go. I said just forget about that and accidentally said just forget about us and all that and get over it. She said I am over you and hangs up the phone. I ried to call her back.. Of course no answer. So yesterday I text her If she really meant it. No reply. Today I text Her this message. "Hey girlie I totally understand, I wish you all the best, no hard feelings". She text back "Yea me and michael will try to do our best." Then 5 minutes later she calls me from an unknown number. I answer It was her asking me what that text meant. I told her I didn't have time to play these games, she said I not playing games. I told her I was at work and had to go." Anyone with any insight? What's the deal?
Author dierks Posted May 17, 2007 Author Posted May 17, 2007 Now she just text me saying, "I need Michaels' stuff then you can stay the hell out of my life. I will send someone after it if I have to. So lose my phone #."
sweetbutcheeky Posted May 17, 2007 Posted May 17, 2007 Ok my ex contacted me and was talking that she got into it with a girl who had caused problems in our relationship in the past. (I never messed with her, I thought we were just friends, she just caused problems out of jealousy) I told her to forget about all that and move forward and maybe she could let the past go. I said just forget about that and accidentally said just forget about us and all that and get over it. She said I am over you and hangs up the phone. I ried to call her back.. Of course no answer. So yesterday I text her If she really meant it. No reply. Today I text Her this message. "Hey girlie I totally understand, I wish you all the best, no hard feelings". She text back "Yea me and michael will try to do our best." Then 5 minutes later she calls me from an unknown number. I answer It was her asking me what that text meant. I told her I didn't have time to play these games, she said I not playing games. I told her I was at work and had to go." Anyone with any insight? What's the deal? It sounds like your both saying the wrong things and it's not what you really mean/feel. Also stop text messaging because they can lead to more confusion. Call her or leave a phone message telling her that you didn't mean the things you said, that you don't want things to be over and want to talk about it when she is ready. Give her time and space.
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