lost4words Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I met a girl at a party last new years, and then ran into her at the club the other night, and we've been talking for the past week. the only downside to her is that shes a little clingy. I try to leave her house and she wont let me, its a fight everytime to leave. she constantly is calling and blowin up the phone. I dont mind her calling, its just ive never had a girl constantly call me every hour or not let me leave the house knowing that I have to be up for work at 6 in the morning. Another thing thats iffy, She claims that shes doesnt need money to be happy, but yet the first day we started dating(or whatever you would call it) she asked for a puppy, the next day, she asked for some concert tickets, the next day a surprise of some type, and then called me one morning saying she needed a new tire. I was then talking to a friend of mine that knows her a little better, and he told me he had to pay her electric bill one month. I dont mind spending some money on a girl, I actually love it, but this is all before we got really serious, she even pulled up, we're getting married in a year, which pushed me a way real quick. her mom just had to pay her water bill this month, my friend was half way teasing with me, but said you better watch it or youll be paying her rent, but still, that kinda scared me. at this point, I really dont know what to do, I told her I dont want a relationship right now, and she responded by saying, wtf? why did your feelings change. can someone help me in what to do, because I have no clue anymore, thanks
Enema Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 She sounds like an emotional and financially dependent vulture. I'm not sure what you're getting out of this relationship, but you could buy it cheaper elsewhere
Island Girl Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 You should be distancing yourself from this girl. There are HUGE red flags everywhere! One - that she blows up your phone. She doesn't have a life of her own? - That is a sure sign she'll suck the life out of YOU. Two - she is not financially responsible. It isn't about spending money on a girl. It is really about a girl looking for you to provide for her. If she is talking marriage (whoa! RUN!) and she isn't financially responsible - it would be a very very very very very very very very very big big big big big GIGANTIC mistake to marry her. She has got DANGER in neon right on her forehead. Best keep your emotions held tight - do not get too deep if you do stay involved with this girl. My advice is to get out while you still can...
Tangerina Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Woah, she sounds just like a girlfriend of mine, who is a lovely person in many ways but just missed certain life lessons about how to be a mature equal in a relationship instead of having a teen romantic comedy sort of thing going on. I'm sure this girl doesn't mean to treat you bad, but it really sounds like she never learned boundaries. You'd be better off with someone a bit more grown up.
Reckless Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Run! run for the hills! Don't look back ... don't stop for coffee... As you run, spin, check she's not on your trail, run, spin, spin, run... Well? What are you still hanging around for?! GET MOVIN' !!!
Author lost4words Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 Thats what I was thinking as well, but just making sure I wasnt over reacting to the issue. now the next question, how to get out, nicely.
Tangerina Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Well, if this girl is anything like my friend she is going to be overly dramatic about the breakup and then get over it really quickly the second she sees another cute guy... so just stick to your guns and prepare for some drama but in the long run it shouldn't be too bad.
My Fair Katie Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 and she responded by saying, wtf? why did your feelings change. And the answer, "Because I've just now realized you're batsh--t insane." is wrong how?
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Oh my! Get the f**k outta there! This gal wants to depend on everyone but herself. Nothing is wrong with wanting a guy to do things for you, but she has an endless list of demands, and if other people are paying bills for her, geez I don't know that she's responsible/mature enough to even be in a relationship. And to not let you leave when you have be up early the next morning, thats being disrespectful to you. This has Psycho/Stalker written all over it, if you let it go too long.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 But here's ideas, tell her your Ex GF that you were madly in love with asked you back. Tell her you lost your job so you have no money! She sounds naive as hell, you can probably give her any B.S. reason for ending it. Give 'er the old "not ready for a relationsip" speech. ....and maybe get your phone # changed, just in case...
Author lost4words Posted May 14, 2007 Author Posted May 14, 2007 well, finally got the nerve up to complety end it. what started it was, I was kinda drunk last night, and she told me that I got up to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, walked into her roomates room and her roomate started yelling at me, and then I walked back into her room and used the bathroom and fell asleep in the bathroom. Thing was she didnt know, I was drunk, yea, but still sober enough to realize what I was doing. to confirm I talked to the roomate today, and she said that it never happened, and that she is a light sleeper and wouldve woken up to me walking in. I dont know what exactly "my" girl was trying to do or where she was going with it, but whatever. She was also under the impression that we were just friends, with a few qualities of bf/gf. I had a key to her place. I handed her the key back and walked out. she called me and said "whyd you give me the key back". I replied, "I wont be using it anymore", there was a silence, and then a "what does that mean", and I said, "just that, I wont be using/needing it anymore, nor do I want it anymore" she hung up then called back 2 minutes later, and I let it ring. I was so proud of myself. lol. her roomates called me a little later and told me that was a smart move and that I deserved someone better than her, and called me a dumbass for sticking around as long as I did. they told me I was more than welcome to come hang out with them anytime she wasnt there. so thank you all for making my thoughts on the red flags confirmed.
Enema Posted May 14, 2007 Posted May 14, 2007 Good man. Now, whatever you do don't go hangout with the roommates, tempting as it may be.
Author lost4words Posted May 24, 2007 Author Posted May 24, 2007 update: I finally got tired of trying to be nice about things. I told her simply just to not talk to me anymore and have a nice life. that went well for a few days, and she has started calling me again, lol. I think all she wants now is a friendship. which im still un easy about. I enjoy hanging out with her, she doesnt call as much, and every thing is just much more relaxed, so I dunno what ill do just yet.
LoveLace Posted May 24, 2007 Posted May 24, 2007 Be careful there! Being friends could be ok for a while; but I would bet she's just willing to play the "friend" card for a while, hoping it gets you back together eventually. Girls like her are sneaky like that. If you start get feelings that her intentions are exactly this, you should cut it off totally.
Author lost4words Posted June 11, 2007 Author Posted June 11, 2007 you called it lovelace. I stopped talking to her completly, then she had a ex boyfriend die, and she called me, and we became friends again. then about a week ago, we started dating again. went well for a week, then I just grew tired of her again. kinda like that song from puddle of mudd.lol. "went well for a week or two, then it all came unglued". anyway, ya, she had told me she had changed, and me being the type to believe in changed, believed her. the change lasted for a few days, then went right back to the way she was before.then she pulls the "I think I love you", we've known each other MAYbe 4 weeks or so. then she pulls the I want to marry you. red flags everywhere eh? learned my lesson hopefully. im just gonna cut all communications with her, even if that means going and getting my number changed or hers blocked, if she bothers me anymore.
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