loquaciousl Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Okay, I don't want to offend anyone by the following questions and diatribe about to follow. I don't wish to come across as ignorant, but I need to know if the following signs indicate the guy I've been dating is gay/bi: 1. He fooled around orally with a male cousin at 13. He had a threesome with a gf and a man where he orally pleased the man because "she thought it was hot," and he went on a date with a woman whom he found out, after "she" had orally pleasured him, was a man, but then went down on "her" knowing "she" was a "he". 2. He wears very colorful bikini briefs. Now, I have only been hanging out with this guy for three weeks. Recently we were intimate and he had no problem with the shall we say, proper parts functioning. He swears that he's not gay, or even bi, and says it happened a long time ago (when he was in his early 20's, and he's now 32). I am not seriously involved at the moment with him, but am not so sure I am interested in a man who is not straight. It's one thing to tool around, it's quite another to make a habit of this. He is pretty sensitive, has brought me flowers, gifts, and is really sweet to me. However, this knowledge is not something I am sure I know how to read. Thoughts? Please know that I dont' wish to offend anyone, I am simply curious. Thanks.
alphamale Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 well he's not "bi" cause theres no such thing....so he may be gay or he's hetero and making up those stories to make you more interested in him.
Author loquaciousl Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 With all due respect to gay people, the thought of a man with another man isn't my cup of tea...I don't know how it could be impressive, per se. But an interesting perspective.
alphamale Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 With all due respect to gay people, the thought of a man with another man isn't my cup of tea...I don't know how it could be impressive, per se. But an interesting perspective. cause many women like a challenge and the thought of making a supposedly gay man into a hetero man can be irresistible to some girls. so he could be scamming you. i knew one dude who would meet girls at bars by telling them he was gay when he really wasn't.
Pyro Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Okay, I don't want to offend anyone by the following questions and diatribe about to follow. I don't wish to come across as ignorant, but I need to know if the following signs indicate the guy I've been dating is gay/bi: 1. He fooled around orally with a male cousin at 13. He had a threesome with a gf and a man where he orally pleased the man because "she thought it was hot," and he went on a date with a woman whom he found out, after "she" had orally pleasured him, was a man, but then went down on "her" knowing "she" was a "he". 2. He wears very colorful bikini briefs. Now, I have only been hanging out with this guy for three weeks. Recently we were intimate and he had no problem with the shall we say, proper parts functioning. He swears that he's not gay, or even bi, and says it happened a long time ago (when he was in his early 20's, and he's now 32). I am not seriously involved at the moment with him, but am not so sure I am interested in a man who is not straight. It's one thing to tool around, it's quite another to make a habit of this. He is pretty sensitive, has brought me flowers, gifts, and is really sweet to me. However, this knowledge is not something I am sure I know how to read. Thoughts? Please know that I dont' wish to offend anyone, I am simply curious. Thanks. Well since you say he did all that stuff over 10 years ago, he could very well be straight now. I mean some people do like to experiment, but the way that you describe him now, I still think that he is gay. Maybe he is in denial about it. This is just my opinion though.
Art_Critic Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 A straight man does not orally pleasure another man... That would be consider homosexual behavior...
alphamale Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 A straight man does not orally pleasure another man...... i totally agree ART, but he may be lying
Art_Critic Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 i totally agree ART, but he may be lying I guess he could've made it up.. but that doesn't make any sense.. I have never made up or had any homosexual fantasies that I have told my GF or anybody else for that matter...
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Have you asked him if he considers himself transgender/transsexual?
alphamale Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 I have never made up or had any homosexual fantasies that I have told my GF or anybody else for that matter... well neither have i ART but we're fairly normal. there all kinds out there.
Herzen Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 My GAYDAR signals he's Gay, but deeply closeted.I've been in threesomes--2 guys and a woman--and let me tell you never did the other guy and I do anything to each other. I wouldn't mess with another man regardless of the woman's request. I suspect you're heading for a world of heartbreak if you continue down the Lavender Road with him.
alphamale Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 My GAYDAR signals he's Gay, i would agree HERZEN....straight men generally don't find another man's penis inside their mouth or rectums.
Herzen Posted May 12, 2007 Posted May 12, 2007 i would agree HERZEN....straight men generally don't find another man's penis inside their mouth or rectums. Alpha, my man, you state the obvious very well. Well said, and I mean that. Something's not quite Straight about this fellow. Not that there's anything wrong with that.
GregsBad Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 He is ... sensitive, ... brought me flowers, gifts, ... and is really sweet .... Well then there you go!
annabelle75 Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 i would agree HERZEN....straight men generally don't find another man's penis inside their mouth or rectums. well said
O'Malley Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 It's obvious he's bi and into experimenting. If you're not comfortable with that, don't date him.
GregsBad Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 Loquacious, Do you ever have a secret fantacy about straping on doing your boyfriend? C'mon ..... you knowwwwwww you've thought about it Maybe he'll go for it!
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