What would you recommend?

[Guest]

Hey gang, I'd like an ear if you can spare the time. I haven't signed in because I'm trying to keep things on the Down low, people that know me at my job may actually come here and they would recognize me because of where I'm from. Here goes;

 

I've now gotten to the point where I hate my job. It isn't the job itself, it's some of the people that I have to work with and answer too. The industry is very small and so is my company so there is no corporate ladder to climb and now real way to avoid the people that I dislike. It wasn't always like this and I have done my best to be more social and whatnot, trying to watch my attitude and such. It did to some extent improve things but not to a level where I am satisfied. When I try to speak to the GM about things, I get the brush off. This is one thing that seems to bother me because it isn't that I'm anti social, I like people and I really do get along with them quite well. For some reason my personality seems to really turn certain people off no matter how much I try. I do get along with some of the consultants there but in my department, I feel like I get the cold shoulder all day, everyday. I didn't mind it so much in the past because I got to work alone and so the parts of work that annoyed me wasn't so much in my face. Well, procedures have changed and now I'm up at the front office MUCH more and things are now front and centre. To make matters more confusing the company I work for is getting sold to a HUGE American company and they want to expand our business in a massive way. There's talk that we may get very busy due to this and if that happens, I may get to work alone once again. I'm also getting married real soon and the wife and I may be able to get a house by the end of the year. I'm thinking about taking up a trade like being a truck driver because I know of some companies that pay well but I can't make this choice alone, I have a soon to be wife and two step kids to think about. So I'm wondering, given the information that you see so far, what do you recomend?

 

I appreciate your time, thanks in advance.

[Rewind]

You sound like me lol. Working in an any type of office setting is just not for me and sounds like it's not for u either. The forced happy hours after work, etc..not my thing. I like to come in, do my work, not discuss my personal life unless there happens to be someone at my job who I see on a friend level..unfortunately no one at this job or my previous I could say that about. Luckily I found this out soon so in a few years I will be at a job that don't involve working with other adults lol . I too have no problem getting along with people but office politics, gossips and well being forced to be phoney to people you don't like is just too tedious for me. My new present job..well I just don't fit in hence the reason I'm looking for a new one. It really is about kissing hiney, being phoney(talking smack about people behind their back) or knowing a high up to make it in corporate america. It's possbile that working in a smaller type setting rather than a large office is better for you. Can you support your family on a truck driver's salary? If you can then go for it otherwise just look at it as another pay check and really make it your second job to look for another job while you are at this one. I highly doubt everyone at your job dislikes you and even if they do...your co workers don't cut your check so who cares. Go in, do a good, keep to yourself and try to block them out. That's what I'm trying to do till I find another position. It could be that you just don't work well in a team setting not everyone does. It's a double edge sword. You're too friendly and you can still get the cold shoulder or you keep to yourself and you're stuckup.

[Guest]

You sound like me lol. Working in an any type of office setting is just not for me and sounds like it's not for u either. The forced happy hours after work, etc..not my thing. I like to come in, do my work, not discuss my personal life unless there happens to be someone at my job who I see on a friend level..unfortunately no one at this job or my previous I could say that about. Luckily I found this out soon so in a few years I will be at a job that don't involve working with other adults lol . I too have no problem getting along with people but office politics, gossips and well being forced to be phoney to people you don't like is just too tedious for me. My new present job..well I just don't fit in hence the reason I'm looking for a new one. It really is about kissing hiney, being phoney(talking smack about people behind their back) or knowing a high up to make it in corporate america. It's possbile that working in a smaller type setting rather than a large office is better for you. Can you support your family on a truck driver's salary? If you can then go for it otherwise just look at it as another pay check and really make it your second job to look for another job while you are at this one. I highly doubt everyone at your job dislikes you and even if they do...your co workers don't cut your check so who cares. Go in, do a good, keep to yourself and try to block them out. That's what I'm trying to do till I find another position. It could be that you just don't work well in a team setting not everyone does. It's a double edge sword. You're too friendly and you can still get the cold shoulder or you keep to yourself and you're stuckup.

 

Thanks for taking the time, Rewind, I really appreciate it. That's the thing we are a very small company. There are only 13 people in our main office and this is what drives me nuts!! If we were a bigger company I could easily avoid the 'drama' but in such a small environment, there is nowhere to hide really. Actually, truck drivers make even more than I do so it would be a step up for me. I have some contacts in the field and even a buddy who could help get me started in that respect. The only reason why I don't do it right now is that after the wife and I get married, we may be able to buy a house. I have been with the company for almost 8 years so that helps with the lenders, you know?

I have asked my friends and my fiancee and they tell me that I'm not anti social and most of the postitions I have had in the past have dealt with people so I know I'm not horribly ignorant when it comes to that. I can be a jerk sometimes but that is when I have been pushed. I just get no respect at this company and I'm at the end of my rope!! It just seems that my coworker-supervisor - and finally my General manager have the attitudes of highschool seniors and that drives me nuts!! I try my best to get along but it's no use. I'm not saying that I'm completely blameless, it always takes two, but they act as if they're still in highschool and certain people aren't cool enough to hang with them. As I said, EVERYONE in the office can see what's going on because we are so small and I know I'm not the only one this bothers. I actually got told by another co-worker to leave, he couldn't see why I stay and put up with the crap my department puts out.

He himself has to put up with just a portion of the crap that I have to and he is actively looking for another job, so now I know it isn't just me!!

 

Sorry this went on long, I just needed to vent!!

[Optimus_Prime]

I appreciate your time. I'm actually a positive person and although I'm a somewhat extroverted person, I like to keep my personal life to myself. This is what I don't understand, my personaility is somewhat different and maybe it's my ebullience that turns people off. I have requested from my GP that I get a test for ADD, but nothing has turned up yet. I do a good job, I'm nice and I treat people the way I want to be treated, yet there are certain people that I don't get along with no matter what I do. My general manager seemed to accept me before his promotion, now I try to talk to him about business and there are times he won't even look up from his Laptop. I'm about done, I just want to leave but then there is the house situation to deal with. I've been with the company for 7 years, that looks good and I don't want to give that up. If I could just work alone once more then I could turn a blind eye to this crap. Once again, not saying that I'm perfect but I mean I think this situation isn't fair. Thanks again Rewind.