Touche Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 young women are utterly brutal in not knowing what they want or need... and to touche! honey, you where making some superb posts, i couldnt work out if you was getting annoyed from one post to the next! you go girl, you tell us we are shallow! and you know what, its the way we are made to be shallow and to find many women attractive and desirable. i mean you women are all desirable... unless your 5foot and 21stone... I'm a big fan of yours too, Kep:love:
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 What a hell is dicky-doos? It's when the guy's stomach sticks out further than his dicky do.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Women don't have requirements. They are willing to overlook or not even see height if there is something else to the guy. Men, on the other hand, will rule a woman out instantly if the look isn't there for them, despite other attractive qualities in the woman. Just look at the comments of men on LS about women's looks, there are so many ragging on women's looks such as the other day a guy said Rachel Ray had a funny looking body, the Justine Bateman comment by another guy, the big with small boobs comment, I often read the comment from men on here "if she goes pear-shaped," another poster described a guy's blind date with a beautiful, tall, intelligent curvy woman as a "blind date gone bad." and another male poster asked if she had "man hands" etc. etc. etc. You just don't read the females on here really bashing mens' looks and bodies that way. Your right, don't see much of women bashing guys' bods, not here, or anywhere else for that matter. But I think we do have requirements/standards, just not to the extreme of men. Myself, for example, is pretty uncomfortable with men shorter than me. I'm 5'6", so not very tall, but if a guy isn't at least 5'8" I feel that he's too short. If I put taller shoes on, I still want my man to be taller. I don't think most women require muscular arms and flat chest/tummy...but some of us go more for dark-hair, blond hair, bald, etc...I think a beer belly is cute. And I'm a butt girl. If he has a nice butt, I'm there! Not required- just preferred! But regardless of womens' preferences, you are right, we still don't go around saying "what a shrimp!" I've been told I'm shaped like an "hour-glass", cuz I have small waist and defined hips, but they are proportionate to the rest of my body..my stomach is fairly flat and chest is medium-sized. I've found there are guys who love it and think I have the perfect amount of meat on my bones, but other guys actually consider me "big", cuz they normally go for the girls that are shaped like a straight line and have no hips. I've been jealous of those girls since puberty! Know why? Cuz I always saw the boys drool over them. It's taken years and years for me to finally see my shape as beautiful, and to find out that some men like it too. It's a competitive world out there!
kepners Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 touche feele, straight back at you. i am also a fan of pop tarts too! though hard to get sometimes over here.
Touche Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 touche feele, straight back at you. i am also a fan of pop tarts too! though hard to get sometimes over here. So you're comparing me to a pot tart? Hope the emphasis here isn't on the "tart."
robkris8079 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Figured I'd chime in because well I've had both. My ex wife was only 90 something pounds when I met her. She was only 18 at the time but still crazy skinny. She put on a few pounds, especially after the baby and looked much better. Not till after the divorce when I started dating my current girl friend did I realize what I was missing. My gf is not fat by no means. She is beautifully curvy, even though she swears she is a fatty. Especailly when snugglin or having sex there is no comparison! I need a woman with substance. I love to feel her body pressed up against mine. I love the fact that I don't see or feel bones sticking out. Curvy is definately the way to go!!!! Oh and for those who say all guys think about is looks....I was decent looking when I met my ex. Through the marriage I gained weight and didn't take that good care of myself. I looked like hell! She up and left me for a more fit better looking guy. Oh well, I work out eat right, and look better than I ever did. And a million times better than her boy friend! Plus my girlfriend is so much prettier than the ex ever was or could be. It's gotta be the looks because he couldn't offer her half of what can. I have my own house, paid off cars, great job. He doesn't drive, don't think he has a car, lives with someone else, and is just a stoner. So maybe it's the women who care about the looks and not the men? Then again maybe she just loves him. Anyway I won in the end, got the kid, the house, the car, and much better life than I could have ever imagined!
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 But regardless of womens' preferences, you are right, we still don't go around saying "what a shrimp!" Some do. You girls just aren't exposed to it because you don't date women.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Some do. You girls just aren't exposed to it because you don't date women. No, but we have plenty of other friends that are women...when we bash men its usually about their behavior or attitudes more than their looks. Or if an unattractive guy hits on us, we might turn to our friends when he's gone and say, "did you see his teeth? Ew!"...but rarely is it about their body shape..unless in extreme circumstance, like he's obese or something...thats mean!
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 but rarely is it about their body shape..unless in extreme circumstance, like he's obese or something...thats mean! I've been told flat out by girls that they wouldn't date me because of my height. Some don't care but some do. Men and women are just superficial about different things.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I've been told flat out by girls that they wouldn't date me because of my height. Some don't care but some do. Men and women are just superficial about different things. Your height? enlighten me...cuz your short or tall?
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Your height? enlighten me...cuz your short or tall? Short; 5'6". Some women freak out if they're taller than the guy they're with. Personally, I don't care if a girl is taller or shorter than me.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Short; 5'6". Some women freak out if they're taller than the guy they're with. Personally, I don't care if a girl is taller or shorter than me. I'm 5'6"....I'd date you Tan, if you don't care then neither do I!
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I'm 5'6"....I'd date you Tan, if you don't care then neither do I! Thanks, I'd date you too.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks, I'd date you too. Always wanted to try a LD thing Hey I got family in San Fran, we'd see other about every 10 yrs, what do ya think!
allina Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I think women think that men are much more picky about body size than they really are. But, the responses to this posts still conclude that no one prefers a fat/overweight woman. Is that 100% true? I see fat women who are beautiful and I see them in relationships and getting married. Am I to believe that all men with overweight women are settling? I don't think that's true.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I have a good guy friend that I've known for years, he's always dated nothing but fairly over-weight women. He's a bit overweight too, but not too much, he's a good-lookin guy. He claims that he's never been attracted to thinner women at all. He says I'm too "skinny". The funny part is, guys who prefer pencil sticks call me "big". Crazy.
allina Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I have a good guy friend that I've known for years, he's always dated nothing but fairly over-weight women. He's a bit overweight too, but not too much, he's a good-lookin guy. He claims that he's never been attracted to thinner women at all. He says I'm too "skinny". The funny part is, guys who prefer pencil sticks call me "big". Crazy. See, I knew guys like this had to be out there. Sometimes it seems like an overweight woman is a big no no in the dating world.
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Always wanted to try a LD thing Hey I got family in San Fran, we'd see other about every 10 yrs, what do ya think! Woo! I'm in. I think women think that men are much more picky about body size than they really are. I agree with this.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Defintely Allina! Not this guy though...even his GF of the last few years is fairly overweight/chubby whatever you wanna call it but she's very pretty and I think they are getting married.
Author hope1975 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 so what's too big then, besides having your stomach stick out further then your boobs...170lbs? 200lbs? 300lbs?? all of the above? how much does someones weight affect your first impression? I read somewhere that a guy knows immediately when he sees someone, whether he'd date her or not...is this true? what happens if she was big when they first met, then lost alot of weight, does that change a guys opinion or would he still not find her attractive based on first impressions?
Star Gazer Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Thanks, I'd date you too. Me too... After you, I had to get rid of my old height requirement. :love:
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I've seen many cases of over weight women losing a signifigant amount of weight, then having men all over them, when before a guy wouldn't give them the time of day (I've also seen it happen the other way around, with men that lose weight).
Author hope1975 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 what about renee zelwegger in Bridget Jones? is that too big?? what do you think she weighed?...I thought she looked great IMO
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Me too... After you, I had to get rid of my old height requirement. :love: Why SG, you flatter me.
Teddy and Jane Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Hope - There is no real way to answer this question really. There are many men out there and each likes what they like. I have seen obese women in relationships with men, I have seen thin women in relationships with men, and I have seen every size and shape in-between women in relationships with men. I don't get the point of continuing to question as if there's one surefire preference for every guy and if a woman achieves this one physical male ideal, she can date any guy she wants because every single man will be attracted to her.
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