Storyrider Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I've been thinking, and here is where I see the difference between men and women on this issue. If a man meets a woman he is not attracted to, it is on the surface, he can't ignore it, there is simply no attraction. He goes with his gut and doesn't pursue it. With a woman, I think her perceptions are more ambivalent and muddy. She may feel an initial attraction to his personality even if the physical chemistry is not there. She might tally up his good points and go with the flow because of them. Unfortunately, months or years down the road, she may suddenly admit to herself that the emotional connection isn't enough and she needs the physical. The guy knows that from the get go and judges accordingly. Some women are not as in touch with their primal needs. Obviously there are exceptions, blah, blah, blah...
Enema Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Ideally, a woman with no love handles, who's thighs don't rub together and who's arms don't jiggle much. On the other end of the scale, for me there is no "too thin" to date really... except for the obvious anorexics that appear on tv.
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 With a woman, I think her perceptions are more ambivalent and muddy. She may feel an initial attraction to his personality <b>even if the physical chemistry</b> is not there. She might tally up his good points and go with the flow because of them. Unfortunately, months or years down the road, she may suddenly admit to herself that the emotional connection isn't enough and she needs the physical. The guy knows that from the get go and judges accordingly. Some women are not as in touch with their primal needs. Obviously there are exceptions, blah, blah, blah... Exactly. Perfect example of settling. Most of my female friends that are in long term relationships say things like "I can't exactly say I ever felt that spark, but he is so nice, stable, good job etc". Or that it's much more important to have a man that takes care of you than physical chemistry. Or out of the options I had, he was the best one, and I wanted to get married. Or I really had to push myself through the first 6 motnhs, but now I got used to him. That just makes me sad. With men, it's much more striaght forward, if he is not attracted to the woman, he won't be able to umm perform and there is no relationship.
Trialbyfire Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I thought I would clarify something that was mentioned more than once in this thread. Guys aren't always straight-forward with what they say but their actions are very straight-forward. This is a very important difference.
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Guys aren't always straight-forward with what they say but their actions are very straight-forward. This is a very important difference. This is true of both genders, IMHO.
Trialbyfire Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 This is true of both genders, IMHO. I'm not sure I agree with that and my opinion will not be popular but it is only my opinion. I find that some, not all, very young women can be confusing in both words and actions.
kepners Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 young women are utterly brutal in not knowing what they want or need... and to touche! honey, you where making some superb posts, i couldnt work out if you was getting annoyed from one post to the next! you go girl, you tell us we are shallow! and you know what, its the way we are made to be shallow and to find many women attractive and desirable. i mean you women are all desirable... unless your 5foot and 21stone...
Author hope1975 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 oh wow some great replies here seems like curvy's got the vote so far though...but not rosie o'donnell curvy, tyra banks curvy...huge difference there. It gives everyone hope though that there is someone out there who'll find them attractive regardless of weight, height, hair color though hey? woohoo
Author hope1975 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 hmmm unless you're rosie o'donnell or rosanne barr
kepners Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 ROSIE! AHAHAHA u make me laugh i read your post again "seriously who find her attrative" HAHAHAHA pure british humour!!
Author hope1975 Posted May 11, 2007 Author Posted May 11, 2007 hahaha was just wondering if there was mayyyybbbeee someone out there that did..lol..so far there doesn't appear to be anyone...poor rosie
DanielMadr Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Thin models are product of confused homosexuals in model industry...16yo boys look is very appealing to them I guess Scientificaly proved measures are WAIST/HIPS = approx 0.7 . Curves with this rate are viewed as attractive. So your belly shouldnt be bigger than your hips. Women should have more fat than men. Flat stomachs and protruding ribs are not sexy and certainly not healty, especially not for a future mother.
SpiderLilly Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I'm so happy my boobs don't stick out further than my stomach at this point. That just made my morning. I've recently given up on having a "type." I think getting divorced might have affected my typical process, because at this point, if he has a sense of humor and is charming, all I can seem to think is, "Hey, you're fun! Wanna wrestle?" It may just be a phase.
Krytellan Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Most of my female friends that are in long term relationships say things like "I can't exactly say I ever felt that spark, but he is so nice, stable, good job etc". Or that it's much more important to have a man that takes care of you than physical chemistry. Or out of the options I had, he was the best one, and I wanted to get married. Or I really had to push myself through the first 6 motnhs, but now I got used to him. That just makes me sad. I know you're trying to make apoint, but come on. No one said these things to you. It's a crock that you made up to try to add fuel to your opinion. People just dont say that.
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I know you're trying to make apoint, but come on. No one said these things to you. It's a crock that you made up to try to add fuel to your opinion. People just dont say that. Oh well you obviously never had close friends that confide everything in you. Or even not so close friends after they had few drinks. I know more about people's realtionships than I ever care to, but then again it's a nice feeling when they trust you with their secrets. Kind of sad you never experienced it.
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 seems like curvy's got the vote so far though...but not rosie o'donnell curvy, tyra banks curvy...huge difference there. That's because Rosie O'Donnell's not curvy, she's fat.
quankanne Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 ROSIE! AHAHAHA u make me laugh i read your post again "seriously who find her attrative" HAHAHAHA pure british humour!! I do believe she's the perfect example of what's inside affecting what's outside. Look at her ... she's not horrid or anything, and has an attractive, puppy-dog looking face, but let the personality come out, and she becomes dog-butt ugly because she's so damned pushy and rude.
SadandConfusedWA Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Rosie looks like a pig to me. I don't mean fat, but her face kind of looks piggy.
LoveLace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 That's because Rosie O'Donnell's not curvy, she's fat. Cuz her tummy sticks out farther than her boobs right tan!
tanbark813 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Cuz her tummy sticks out farther than her boobs right tan! Among other things.
amaysngrace Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Call me shallow but I don't find guys with dicky-doos attractive.
DanielMadr Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Call me shallow but I don't find guys with dicky-doos attractive. What a hell is dicky-doos?
sb129 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I love that rule- tummy not sticking out further than boobs. My boobs are not that big, and still my tummy is well behind them. Yee ha!!!
DanielMadr Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 I love that rule- tummy not sticking out further than boobs. My boobs are not that big, and still my tummy is well behind them. Yee ha!!! Some have them comfortably rested on the tummy...sometimes as far as belt. So we need another rule.
sb129 Posted May 11, 2007 Posted May 11, 2007 Some have them comfortably rested on the tummy...sometimes as far as belt. So we need another rule. Oh yes. The great migration. Sorry if that offends anyone. well....... don't know because a bra can make a BIG difference in this respect. IE hoisting them up. I don't even need to wear a bra. But I would never ever get them enhanced.
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