Mushy talk :-)

[Star Gazer]

Without going into detail, the guy I've recently started dating says some of the most wonderful things to me...the types of things I've actually dreamed of a prince-charming type saying to me. Most of them are just little comments here and there, but I just loooove it!! For example, this morning I got an email from him saying, "Why is it that the first thing I thought of this morning when I woke up was you?" and then he went on to wish me a good day, etc. I LOVE THAT!!!

 

Thing is, I can tell he wants me to reciprocate the effort, but I honestly have no idea what to say. I'm trying, I really am, but I'm failing! I can't copy him, but when he says something I literally think "ME TOO!" or something. I have never dated someone so expressive before, and haven't really ever even wanted to return the sentiments to anyone else either, so I'm a little clueless. I'm starting to realize I'm not nearly as emotional/heart-on-my-sleeve as I originally thought.

 

I can think of a million things a guy could say to a girl, but not things to say to a guy to make him feel good - about himself, us, etc.

 

Any thoughts??

[tanbark813]

Girl: "Thank you.."

 

Tanbark: "For what?"

 

Girl: "For being you."

 

Simple, but effective.

[Star Gazer]

Thank you, Tanny....

[sb129]

He sounds really sweet. I can't believe you are lost for words SG!!

 

Problem is, anything I say now will sound too cheesy to you. Only you know how you feel- borrowing lines from other people on LS doesn't reflect your true feelings!

 

Appreciating him is easy though- my BF is really sweet and articulate, and I always let him know one way or another.

Thanking your guy after dates, saying you enjoy his company, complimenting him will all go down well with him I'm sure!!

[tanbark813]

Thank you, Tanny....

 

For what?

 

[Star Gazer]

He sounds really sweet. I can't believe you are lost for words SG!!

 

 

No kidding, right? I'm literally speechless! He's the sweetest guy I've ever met, and he makes me laugh like no one else... I've been silently walking around with this big dopey grin on my face!

 

That said, bring on the cheese! Inspire me!!

[Star Gazer]

For what?

 

 

 

For being you.

[Lauriebell82]

Different mushy lines usually apply to each individual relationship. Most guys in my experience, love to just be told how sweet and wonderful they are. Guys each that stuff up! Make sure you let the guy know how much you appreciate him and tell him how sweet he is. Just speak from your heart and how your feeling. Trying to "think" of things to say may be your problem. Next time he says something sweet to you, don't stop and think about what to say, just say what you are feeling. The guy sounds nice and sweet, so let him know that!

[Krytellan]

That's funny. Your situation is very similar to mine. I'm like him and apparently, you're like my gf. So based on that, what kind of things could she say to me that would be cool.

 

She is a "......... you too." Kind of person. DONT BE THAT! I personally hate the use of you too statements because by nature the are reactionary and therefore meaningless. So I guess I'm saying consider not making general, gratuitous comments like that.

 

What Tan said was good. More importantly than the words is the way they are delivered. You could be talking about the State of the Union, but if you are touching/holding him and focused solely on him, it means a lot (that is, I appreciate the conscious effort made as much as the statement)..

 

Guys like to be respected. Do you respect his morals, attitude, the way he treats you? Say these things to him... UNPROMPTED.

 

Guys like him like to know their efforts are appreciated. If you appreciate what he does/says, say so... unprompted.

 

Tell him when you miss him. We ALL like to be missed. Sometimes when my gf and I are parting ways I will tell her I miss her already... she seems to like that.

 

More than anything, Star, Just pay attention to him. Make it a point to devote attention to him. That will go a long way.

 

GOOD LUCK!!!

[My Fair Katie]

I'm not really good at mushy, but personally I think (to paraphrase):

 

"You say some of the most wonderful things to me...the types of things I've actually dreamed of a prince-charming type saying to me. Just the little comments here and there, but I just love it!!

 

I want to reciprocate the effort, but I honestly have no idea what to say. I'm trying, I really am, but I'm failing! I can't copy you, but when you say something I literally think "ME TOO!" I have never dated someone so expressive before, and until I met you, I haven't really ever wanted to return these types of sentiments, so I'm a little clueless."

 

all sounds very romantic to me.

[Star Gazer]

I'm not really good at mushy, but personally I think (to paraphrase):

 

"You say some of the most wonderful things to me...the types of things I've actually dreamed of a prince-charming type saying to me. Just the little comments here and there, but I just love it!!

 

I want to reciprocate the effort, but I honestly have no idea what to say. I'm trying, I really am, but I'm failing! I can't copy you, but when you say something I literally think "ME TOO!" I have never dated someone so expressive before, and until I met you, I haven't really ever wanted to return these types of sentiments, so I'm a little clueless."

 

all sounds very romantic to me.

 

Ha! I had said that. I just felt...well...lame, for doing so. He seemed to really like it though, particularly coming from the stubborn attorney who ALWAYS has something to say.

[My Fair Katie]

Ha! I had said that. I just felt...well...lame, for doing so. He seemed to really like it though, particularly coming from the stubborn attorney who ALWAYS has something to say.

 

Aww, lol, I don't think it's lame at all. I think it's sweet and honest.

[ibitealil]

"If I had a single flower for every time I think about you, I could walk miles in my garden."

 

Or just say things what u think sraightforward as if it might seem too much for a girl to say romantic quotes, like i cant wait the next time to see you or wake up next to u etc. and tell him you miss him and tell him that u appreciate his thoughtfulness. Some men like it when you comment on his masculinity.

 

but actually, compared to women i think men like it when u show it by actions rather than words, like pampering them, asking if they r ok etc.

 

My bf has a thing for cats and he likes it when i call him kitty and act with him as if he was a cat and im a puppy eventhough its supposed to be the other way round

 

Hope it helps

[nicki]

Just give him the best compliment ever. After making love, tell him he was AMAZING and how you are feeling. He will feel like a king.

 

As for compliments and saying mushy things, just say them as you feel them. For instance, if you notice he has done something nice for you, tell him "thank you."

 

If you see that his butt looks great, let him know....and give it a good grab while you say it.

 

I find most guys do enjoy being complimented on how smart and strong they are. And how thoughtful. Verbally notice those times.

 

Tell him what you said here about the prince charming thing. He will smile to know you feel like a princess with him.

 

Your guy sounds like a real keeper!

[quankanne]

"you make my heart happy"

[kepners]

there is something deepily wrong with women today... in sumation your saying "i dont know how to express myself towards him, and i have never had the inclination before"

that... to me.... is an utterly depressing thought... and even more sad is that this is something i have noticed over the last few years dating, how almost senseless women are becoming and these new aged men going the other way!

 

forgive me having what seems a pop at you SG, but this is something i have seen a few times, women becoming senseless/emotionless... then dumping you ruthless.

though, i havent been dumped propely for a while...i find it sad your a grown woman who is unable or unwilling to embbrace herself and open up and be something human.

 

I mean, he's had to put himself on the line asking you out, the first few times, then saying those things to you, not knowing how your going to take it... then when u do feel something for someone this time... your unable to embbrace it, and express it and show it.

 

utterly depressing thought...

[Krytellan]

there is something deepily wrong with women today... in sumation your saying "i dont know how to express myself towards him, and i have never had the inclination before"

that... to me.... is an utterly depressing thought... and even more sad is that this is something i have noticed over the last few years dating, how almost senseless women are becoming and these new aged men going the other way!

 

forgive me having what seems a pop at you SG, but this is something i have seen a few times, women becoming senseless/emotionless... then dumping you ruthless.

though, i havent been dumped propely for a while...i find it sad your a grown woman who is unable or unwilling to embbrace herself and open up and be something human.

 

I mean, he's had to put himself on the line asking you out, the first few times, then saying those things to you, not knowing how your going to take it... then when u do feel something for someone this time... your unable to embbrace it, and express it and show it.

 

utterly depressing thought...

 

Not to spring to the defense of the lovable, yet Evil, SG. I would toss this out. I do see what you are saying Kepners. However, isn't it possible that it is as much a reflection on men as it is women? I mean, even speaking as a man, we aren't typically ones to be emotional animals. As such, if we aren't providing this to women, then where are they seeing the behavior and responding to it? On those rare occasions where a man does come along with the ever absent "emotion gene", women have been so trained to respond to lack of emotion that they find themselves lost when having to finally confront it.

 

Just a thought.

[kepners]

i understand your point totally, and i have thought about it. we do reserve ourselves, etc, but the same token we are being condition to be a little to new-age and forward with our emotions.

From my experince women are deff going the other way! its just utterily depressing to read what SG said, because i have thought this about women recently... and to finally read it, i dont know...

 

i mean next we are going to have women standing up going to the loo and knocking people out... oh thats already happening.. hehe.

 

no seriously its more of a social comment i am making and it so happen that SG is the focus of this. i dont want to woman like a man! i want a woman like a woman! jesus if i want someone one a little emotionless i would get with mt mates! HAHAHAHAAH

[Star Gazer]

there is something deepily wrong with women today... in sumation your saying "i dont know how to express myself towards him, and i have never had the inclination before"

 

You totally misunderstood me.

 

I've never had the inclination to want to say lovey-dovey things to guys BEFORE this NEW guy because, quite frankly, they haven't made me feel the way THIS guy does. I would think that my feelings for HIM, especially as compared to others, would make him feel wonderful. So how is it my fault, or the fault of women in general, if (until now) I hadn't met anyone who made me want to stand on a rooftop and declare my feelings?? I have met that someone NOW, and because I've never felt this way before, I'm a little gun shy as to how to go about doing it. Why is that bad?

 

i find it sad your a grown woman who is unable or unwilling to embbrace herself and open up and be something human.

 

Excuse me? Since when am I unwilling? Isn't that the entire point of this thread???

 

I mean, he's had to put himself on the line asking you out, the first few times, then saying those things to you, not knowing how your going to take it... then when u do feel something for someone this time... your unable to embbrace it, and express it and show it.

 

First, those are total assumptions on your part about who took the risk re: asking out, etc. I AM able to embrace these emotions, I just don't know how to express them in a way he'd understand.

 

Jeez. This is an advice forum, and you just shot be down for seeking it at all.

 

:( :(

[Storyrider]

Do you fantasize about him? Next time you do, pay attention to what your fantasy entails and write a bit of it to him.

 

This could be one simple phrase starting with, "I want to..." or "I want you to..."

[AverageJoe]

there is something deepily wrong with women today... in sumation your saying "i dont know how to express myself towards him, and i have never had the inclination before"

that... to me.... is an utterly depressing thought... and even more sad is that this is something i have noticed over the last few years dating, how almost senseless women are becoming and these new aged men going the other way!

 

forgive me having what seems a pop at you SG, but this is something i have seen a few times, women becoming senseless/emotionless... then dumping you ruthless.

though, i havent been dumped propely for a while...i find it sad your a grown woman who is unable or unwilling to embbrace herself and open up and be something human.

 

I mean, he's had to put himself on the line asking you out, the first few times, then saying those things to you, not knowing how your going to take it... then when u do feel something for someone this time... your unable to embbrace it, and express it and show it.

 

utterly depressing thought...

 

I found that depressing.

[dropdeadlegs]

No kidding, right? I'm literally speechless! He's the sweetest guy I've ever met, and he makes me laugh like no one else... I've been silently walking around with this big dopey grin on my face!

 

That said, bring on the cheese! Inspire me!!

You said two more mushy lines in this post.

 

"You're the sweetest guy I've ever met"

"You make me laugh like no one else." The "big dopey grin" could be added.

 

I'm a very verbal person. I write love notes, send cards in the mail, send loving (and sometimes sexual) texts, etc. My BF does not do these things although he will engage in an occasional text-fest with me. He always tells me how good I am to him, how good it is to be my man, how happy he is that I'm his girl, how much he appreciates all the big things I do (like cutting his grass when he worked 25 days straight. Hey, it's 2.5 acres!) but that the little things just make him reel (picking up razor blades just because I noticed he was on the last one.)

 

For me, the one thing he said to me that I will never forget, and it was fairly early into our relationship, was "I can't stop thinking about you!" I get like that in the early stages of attraction, but nobody had EVER been bold enough to admit that to me before. I was pretty much hooked from that moment. Another is "It feels SO good to be loved by you." Even a simple "Thinkin' 'bout you" is wonderful to hear by text or email during a hectic day.

 

You can do this, SG!

[Yamaha]

Everybody likes compliments, men as well as women. The next time you see him and he looks or smells great just tell him and it will make him feel great.

 

People express themselves differently and he is more vocal in his feels than you. I'm sure he's not keeping count but just say something genuine when you are feeling it.

[kepners]

A social point...

 

its a sumation of how i saw your post basically you have never bothered letting yourself go... and never felt the need to be more human... its just now your start to feel a little bit of something (maybe your getting old now). but as i repeated said i have found this trate in women more and more... and men are becoming too emotional.

try and flame me, but again its how i saw your post. and just to cover something, you post something on a website with an opinion hope to get some kind of reaction... you dont choose the type of reaction you want in return.

 

and to averagejoe... its my opinion, sorry you find it depressing, but thats how it been rolling

[Guest]

great!

"no one's ever made me feel this way before"

"everytime i get a text from u it makes me smile"

"you make me really happy"

"you're so gorgeous"

"you're so thoughtful, wonderful,smart,gorgeous"

"i'll be thinking about you"

"xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo"

"good morning babe!"

"i wish i could be there cuddling up with you"

 

just a few lines my ex used 2 say 2 me at the start of our relationship... it drove me crazy!! as in good crazy.. hehe the thing is though don't go overboard coz after awhile it gets harder n harder to top the last one off. just make it simple n sincere and fun now n then!

enjoy yourself!