HopelessLover Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 I just started dating this girl... for some reason i tend to be able to talk and talk to friends... but if we start dating... well i just cant think of what to say... well ive only had 1 girlfriend before this and we ended up breaking up cause it was too awkward to talk... but this girl i just started dating is perfect... shes beautiful, a strait A student, we even have quite a few common interests... we both really like each other but i don't want to screw this relationship up cause its too awkward to talk... any advice people...? i really need it...
nicki Posted May 10, 2007 Posted May 10, 2007 Just remember that you are an interesting and interested guy, worth getting to know. That said, talk to her about your common interests. Ask her questions. What does she think about _____? Why? (etc.) Then share YOUR thoughts with her. It's give and take. Don't worry. We all get nervous when we really like someone. She is more than likely nervous about you, too. Remember non-verbal communication, too. Like holding her hand, hugging her, smiling, getting the door for her. Stuff like that. It goes a long way. If you feel nervous all of a sudden when you are talking to her, just pause, look her in the eyes and smile. That will relax you. If she aks you why you are doing that, just tell her that you think she is beautiful. Instant connection. (Use that one sparringly so you don't look psycho!) When you go out, do something active so you don't just have to sit and talk quite yet. It's sometimes easier to talk while you are walking. Go to an amusement park or fair. Or a festival. Or go ride go carts, go hiking.... Good luck! It will get easier as you get to know each other. Just remember that she is with you because she already likes you and wants to get to know you better!
Author HopelessLover Posted May 10, 2007 Author Posted May 10, 2007 this is more helpful then the info any of my friends have given me, and i dont even know you... thanks a ton!
Author HopelessLover Posted May 15, 2007 Author Posted May 15, 2007 nicki!!! thank you so much, thanks to your advice i was able to actually keep a conversation going for an hour and 20 minutes!
Shizz Posted May 18, 2007 Posted May 18, 2007 I know exactly how you feel mate. I recently met a girl and its wonderful. I'm usually so awkward with talking. Some people make it look so easy (>.<) The advice I can give you is, keep the interest flowing, try and learn common interests, and her interests at heart. You might not like that particular interest, or have much to say about it, but by keeping it in the flow of conversation your showing her that you are generally interested in her, by taking an interest in her hobbies. Also listen and take mental note of things, nothing impresses a girl more when you remember things about your conversations. And try and do something interesting when talking, or something that can easily distract the person from an awkward subject. Billiards, walking, ping pong, etc. Also give a natural smile every time you see her, it will re-enforce the fact that your delighted to see her, and want to spend your time with her. Love has a shelf life of about 6 months to 2 years. True love has no shelf life, but takes a lot of preservatives to make.
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