dorky328 Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 but answer truthfully if you've just started dating a guy and there is a .. window of opportunity for him to .. shall i say .. escalate the kissing and making out into sex .. and he does so .. and you put up token resistance .. and he backs down .. and then he me "token escalate" again, and go through the same cycle .. its game over, isn't it? i've noticed this is a point where a lot of the flakes start to happen .. i'm wondering if this is a problem .. i don't want to be aggressive (which I usually am) with a new girl .. and the hesitancy is coming across as ... incongruent? i've noticed this in my own situation/s of late .. hmm
jcster Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 That's not very clear, I'm afraid. When you say she put up "token resistance" - what do you mean by that? Usually, I take "token resistance" to mean she said "oh, I know I shouldn't but what the heck" - not "no let's not do that right now." If she resisted enough to make you stop - and it keeps happening, then either....it's too soon for her, or she doesn't really want to have sex with you.
Guest Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 Just without any circumstances and logics, if a guy just jumps into me like an animal i would back up cuz to me he is either 1) desperate or 2) wants only sex from me and 3) not very mature (or a bastard). If shes resisting you many times, clearly you are doing something wrong there and she has some reasons for it. So you either learn to control or else, yes the game is over, she doesnt want you. But actually, your question is very unclear. Hope i got it right though. Good luck!
lindya Posted May 9, 2007 Posted May 9, 2007 but answer truthfully if you've just started dating a guy and there is a .. window of opportunity for him to .. shall i say .. escalate the kissing and making out into sex .. and he does so .. and you put up token resistance .. and he backs down .. and then he me "token escalate" again, and go through the same cycle .. its game over, isn't it? You're painting a scenario of a couple kissing, the man attempting to initiate sex, the woman backing off, things simmering down slightly - then heating up again. In amongst that are cryptic comments about "token resistance" and "game over". Like the previous poster, I don't quite get what you're saying there. Game over in what sense? Who wins and who loses that particular game? You've asked for honest responses. I think the best way to elicit those generally involves posing clear, non-leading questions.
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